I’ve noticed that when people make a post along the lines of “What do you look for in a guy/girl?” Someone will say they like a certain preference, and another person of the opposite sex who doesn’t fit that description will reply about how bad they feel about it.
Sometimes, people (and I’m very guilty of this ) can feel insecure about themselves, and just reading what people like/dislike in somebody else somehow transmutes into a personal issue. The key is to stress to yourself that people’s preferences are individual, and just because a girl you read on a messageboard isn’t into guys that are bald/hairy/fat/skinny/tall/short/etc doesn’t mean every member of the female population feels the same way. I’ve seen preferences that are so far across the spectrum, no matter how wierd, freaky, or gross a person’s phsyical/emotional traits are, chances are there is someone out there that finds them irresistable.
Every now and then I think every Doper has to take a few steps back and think, “Its only a message board, and what I am reading is just other people’s feedback and opinions.”
It’s nice of you to post this, and I agree with you. It’d be a pretty sad world if all our preferences were the same. The beauty of life is that we have very unique and individual preferences.
I wish I’d realized when I was much, much younger that no matter what you look like, there are lots of men out there who are into that. Snaggle-toothed, lopsided, frizzy-haired, hump-backed…you name it, somewhere out there are a whole slew of men who are turned on by it. If you’re a woman. Well, probably if you’re a man, too.
On the other hand, I wish all women would realize that no matter how good-looking you are, if you are unanimously voted most beautiful by the entire population of the world, there are still a boatload of men who will cheat on you and otherwise treat you badly.
That’s just the way it works, no sense crying about it.
Yes, I surely have… but I’d seriously reconsider if it was Christian Bale doing the deed! YUM! Or perhaps Viggo Mortenson melt smilie. I’m just a slut I guess.
Or, there’s someone out there that is willing to overlook these things about you because of all the wonderful things you are. My hubby never went for fat women, but once he got to know me, he got past the weight issues, because he realized that, in terms of being good for him, I was otherwise just about perfect
) can feel insecure about themselves, and just reading what people like/dislike in somebody else somehow transmutes into a personal issue. The key is to stress to yourself that people’s preferences are individual, and just because a girl you read on a messageboard isn’t into guys that are bald/hairy/fat/skinny/tall/short/etc doesn’t mean every member of the female population feels the same way. I’ve seen preferences that are so far across the spectrum, no matter how wierd, freaky, or gross a person’s phsyical/emotional traits are, chances are there is someone out there that finds them irresistable.
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