Should I wait until after the holidays to dump someone or bite the bullet and do it now? If you had suspicions this was coming which would you prefer?
Holidays or not - if you want out of a relationship, the only decent thing to do is end it as soon as you realize it’s over for you. If I was suspicious, I’d want to know right up front. The sooner you break, the sooner the healing begins.
Easy to say from the outside looking in, but still, in the long run, I’d rather know than be living an unreality.
Now. Then you won’t have to buy a gift.
I’d do it now. If you wait, she might think you were just stringing her along. If you do it now, she may be hurt, but at least she’ll appreciate your honesty and think less badly of you.
Yep. Do it now. Dragging it out is never good.
I thought I was going to see a recipe for turkey dumpling.
22 years ago a girlfriend of mine dumped me before Christmas. It hurt, but it was the right thing to do. So do it.
Dump now. Eat turkey later.
Another vote for now -
I was dumped once right before Valentines Day, I had bought a gift and tickets to a concert. But I was OK with losing out on the money, rather than dragging it out and being in a situation where someone was pretending to care about me.
I’m going to go against the trend.
I’ve been dumped right before a major holiday. I spent most of the holiday unhappy about it instead of enjoying myself.
I’ve dumped someone right after a holiday. She was confused at the time (the holiday was Valentine’s day), but later understood that I was trying to do the right thing for both of us.
Now, in both those situations, it’s was a “I’m dumping you because I hate your guts” thing, it was a “I’m dumping you because I don’t see us working long term, even though you’re not a bad person”.
Now, each situation is different, but if I had to do it over again, I would prefer after the big event rather than right before it.
YMMV.
Yeah… and from Stuffy.
If anyone is curious, It’s an ‘I don’t see things working long term…’ type of thing. I pretty much made up my mind yesterday and lastly Xmas gift already purchased.
I see what you did there…
I was expecting to hear that Stuffy still had turkey left over from Thanksgiving, and was wondering whether or not to dump it, which would be high time, in my opinion.
For ending relations, do it now.
I dumped someone on Christmas morning once. I realized, while opening gifts and spending time with my family, that I was not enjoying the holiday very much because I was so wrapped up in the relationship drama - a relationship I knew good and well was never going to amount to anything, because he just wasn’t that into me, and I knew it! Why was I wasting my time and ruining my holiday?
I sent him an email, letting him know that I’d come to that decision. (I did try to call, first.)
By the time New Year’s rolled around, I was already feeling a lot better.
My advice: Dump now, ask questions later.
Dump and return the gift.
Having just read an article about “dumping syndrome” following bariatric surgery, I expected this thread to go another way.
I was wondering if there was an Equally cold way to take this news…
“Baster to Taster… dump confirmed & returning to base.” 
Dump now - it really hurts to find out later that your ex knew for a while they were going to end things but didn’t, no matter what the reason. You come off looking like a coward.
If you’ve only been together a couple of months, it wasn’t exclusive, if the gift is really romantic, you might not want to give the gift. Use your best judgement. It sounds like you still care about this person, just not in that way. Let them down as gently as possible and offer the gift as a “I still like you and care about you, and bought this for you before I realized this wasn’t working out. If you want to take it - no strings attached.” Be prepared to have the gift rejected depending on how the other party takes the split.
Another vote for dump now.
It’s neither fair nor honest to keep it going. About the gift, that’s really a judgement call and I can’t comment on that without knowing more specifics. I’d probably return the gift though - seems to me (depending on this and that) it would be too easily misinterpreted.
Oh my. This takes me back 30 years. Bought tickets in Philly for a Billy Joel concert, I was planning a great weekend with my girlfriend. Travel down from New York to Philly to be with her. Found out once I was there on campus with her that she was seeing someone else.
We went to see the show anyway. What an awful weekend.
The most spectacularly awful moment is when we walked right by the other guy on the street and I didn’t know it was him until 20 seconds later when she burst into tears.