I think they use the word “ugly” for the shock value, since it’s really more precisely geared to ordinary looking people. Anyway, it’s a great concept for a dating site.
The site is called The Ugly Bug Ball.
Here is a brief description from Gizmodo. I think it might be of the UK site but it is also now available in the US and a few other countries.
As a wise man once said/sang…
If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life…make an ugly woman your wife…
it’s fucking insulting, is what it is.
Stupid concept. The idea that a person’s physical attractiveness was inversely proportional to their quality as a human being died in what, high school?
no no, see, in high school, a person’s physical attractiveness was directly proportional to their quality as a human being. This shit that dzero is posting is just mock pity. i.e. “we’ll do this for people like you who we think are ugly so you don’t pollute us with your hideousness.”
Don’t you think it’s just a bit of advertising geared to catch the eye?
I see it about the same as those ______ for Dummies books. I would assume that most people who’ve purchased those really don’t think that they’re Dummies.
Hmm, at least I hope it’s tongue-in-cheek because the following is too stupid to be believed, isn’t it?
And yet you seem to think that is a bad thing. Like it or not, people do still tend to believe what you claim died in high school, and it’s even more popular on dating sites.
The only real people to be insulted are people who think they are attractive, and that’s precisely who the site wants to discourage.
I would also love to see how many people who are insulted aren’t any more attractive than the other people on the site. The people I saw when I clicked on the link weren’t ugly.
At last! A dating site where I have a chance!
(Actually, that’s not strictly true. I met the woman I dated for a few months last year on another site, but that was after five years of membership…)
Hmmm…some of those people just need a good make-over. (Is there nothing in life that a make-over won’t cure?)
Scrooge’s dark, twisted heart.
That takes a miracle.
I’ve often marveled at how often people one might consider ugly are simply in need of a good make-over. Particularly men, since we don’t have as many normal options open to us as women do. Yet so many guys would look twice as good if they got a better haircut and a new pair of glasses or something.
That may be true for some. For others, the problem is software rather than hardware, so to speak, and no amount of cosmetics will make a difference. They might not even be all that ugly. But they’re strange. Uncanny. Socially, they don’t know how to handle themaelves; they don’t quite send the right signals. And so they’re passed over, time and time again.
On the other hand, there are genuinely-ugly people out there. I remember one woman I saw on the subway who was scary-ugly. But that’s rare. Most day-to-day ugliness is due to either disease or bad maintenance.
On the third hand, some ugliness is the result of hateful personality. That shows as the result of actions over time, but I wonder: does the particular balance of emotions displayed by a person affect the characteristic set of their face? Do angry people end up looking more like each other than they do happy people?
Is there a site for people like that?
Because, um, a friend wanted me to ask.
I’d like to know too. Unfortunately, it seems that the only way to deal with uncanniness is social training. And that’s hard to come by.
Well, we could always secede from society.
Not that society would notice, of course, but it is an option.
That’s a good point, so don`t think I’m disagreeing with you. But it reminds me of a eHow I stumbled across years ago that I always thought was really funny. It was “How to not be creepy”. What I liked about it was that although it seemed really painfully obvious to me it came off as really sincerely written.
One tip was that in video games, cartoons, and movies the dark mysterious characters who stare silently at people are considered cool, but in real life that’s a creepy way to act. As soon as I read it, I thought, oh of course, I’ve known creepy people over the years who just stared at me in social situations. I bet some of them really were mimicking the cool video game character without realizing it’d be creepy.
I think I found the page you’re talking about: How to Meet New People Without Being Creepy
I agree that it does come across as kind of funny, but I think it’s good that someone went ahead and spelled it out. There are people out there who have a hard time picking up on subtle social cues and would be better off if someone just told them what they’re doing wrong. Social skills really aren’t anything magical or mysterious - anyone can learn them if they’re taught in a way that the person can understand.
I don’t know that a web page is gonna do the trick, though. I’m not staring at people deliberately; I’m not sure if I’m doing it at all.
The first Google ad on that page is for the personalized muesli provider that I patronize :eek:
Still, even if you make Jabba the Hutt look pretty, at LEAST try not to get your fashion tips from People of Walmart. Don’t just give up all together!