Oh, I am so sorry! I know how inadequate those words are, but they are all I have to give. She was a spot of sunshine here and will be greatly missed.
My condolences. Reading umkay was a real pleasure, and we’ll miss her.
She was amazing. I am so, so sorry.
I know how inadequate the word “sorry” can be at a time like this, but I truly am. I didn’t participate in the thread, but I read every word. The dope is a better place for having Umkay with us for that brief time.
I have never been shaken by the death of someone I do not really know.
Until now.
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My mouth is AGAPE! I’m incredibly sorry for your loss! Unfortunately, I live in MA, but my prayers are with you in this terrible time.
I’m so sorry for your loss, NotOkay. Your sister touched a lot of people here, and we’ll miss her. My thoughts are with you and your family.
My first thought at this news was “but she just got here”.
She shared so generously. I’m deeply sorry that she’s gone.
Godspeed umkay.
I’m so sorry, NotOkay. Let me echo those who say she was awesome, and we mean that in both senses of the word.
I’m horrified to read this. Count me among those who found myself incredibly touched and educated by someone I had never met. I don’t live in California, but any info you can provide so we can send flowers - or contribute to a favorite charity of hers in her honor - would be appreciated.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
-DNT
I would also like information regarding a charity or cause to contribute to in umkay’s name. I’m so floored by the news and shocked and saddened and my heart goes out to the family I’ve never met of the person I’ve never met who managed to have such an impact on me with only her words. My best to her family and friends.
I am so sorry for you, your brothers, your parents, family and friends. Although we never met your sister, we will miss her and I really wanted to read her book. I know you are devastated right now and I really appreciate you letting us know what happened, thank you so much.
Paz Y Amor
Capt
How the fuck did that happen? So alive and vibrant in one thread, and gone in another. I don’t even know her beyond words on the net, and I’m sitting here crying. My sincerest condolences to you and the rest of your family.
I’m so very sorry.
NotOkay, I am so very sorry for your and your family’s loss. In a very short time, your sister brought a great deal to the people participating in her thread. Her fine mind and thoughtful disposition helped many of us gain insights into life as a quadriplegic. I wish you and your family the very best.
So sad. 
It would be meaningful to me to read her obituary, if your family is comfortable linking to it.
Oh no…this is just terrible news. I’m so very sorry.
Would you do that, please? I no longer live in CA, but I’m sure some other Dopers would like to pay their respects.
So sorry for your loss.
She was one of the most notable and memorable posters in recent times here. I’m sorry she’s gone, and for your loss. Thank you for telling us.