Visitation/Funeral Attire

[Dangerosa]

@Zebra

Yes, I am agreeing that the proper etiquette is to dress appropriately.

Would you rather have people who, for what ever reason are not able to ‘dressed properly’ but otherwise would behave properly, not come to a funeral?

See, in my way of thinking, you have to attend a funeral. The family does not send out invitations. You hear about it, you go. Come hell or high water, Aint no mountain high enough, yadda yadda yadda, you get your ass there and you ‘be there’ for your living friend who has lost someone. ALL of my friends, wouldn’t give a damn if I were in jeans or in a suit, but then again, I’m not friends with a bunch of pretentious snobs. Remember, I’m talking from experience. I’m talking about people who showed up at my mother’s funeral, not properly attired, and ultimately, I didn’t care. I had bigger things to care about that day.

I’m not sure what the proper etiquette on the part of the family of the deceased, but I’m pretty sure that whispering behind the backs of their quests, and rolling your eyes at the clothing of others is not proper.
OH and Dangerosa, just out of curiousity, are you trying to piss me off?

No, as I said, I’m not picking on you. I’m just feeling out where lines are drawn. Since you said “other than dress, they behaved respectfully” you seem to have implied that their dress was not respectful.

I’d rather have people behave respectfully at funerals. If you can’t show up dressed properly in my father’s family, don’t come at all because it will upset the grievers - they will see it as a sign of disrespect to the family. (My father’s family has some Mafia in it two generations back - respect for the family is a big deal). On the other hand, with my mother’s family, anyone who shows up is welcome, no matter what the attire.

If I’m the griever, I’m not sure. Honestly, I doubt I’d be in any shape to notice. And if I’m dead, I don’t care.