Gawd, yes. Combovers are ridiculous - if you are going bald, just cut what’s left short. There’s nothing wrong with that.
Potbellies and back hair are also very unattractive to me. Chest hair is fine, and even good; back hair is … just too much. Everything in moderation, you know?
Trendy facial hair also does nothing for me. I’d like to take a pair of tweezers and pull Ty Pennington’s ‘soul patch’ out hair by hair. Urgh.
Bad personalities are, of course, also very unattractive and no matter what a guy looks like, are a complete turnoff. I think Dave Barry said it best - if someone is nice to you and not nice to the waiter, they’re not a nice person. I want to be around nice people.
On the other hand, while a lot of women desire tall men, I couldn’t care less. I’m short and I prefer being able to look a guy in the eye.
Body hair doesn’t bug me at all - I actually find women who like chest hair and not back hair to be a little confusing, but whatever.
I will say that the one scene in Borat was, uh, eye opening. I didn’t actually realize that guys could be THAT hairy. However, Sasha Cohen is still a cutie. The other fella, not so much.
It couldn’t possibly be a matter of personal preference. No sirree, them ladies haven’t a thought in their heads that hasn’t been planted by someone else. :rolleyes:
Sorry if some of you men are feeling a little sensitive right now, but has been said before in threads about what men find attractive, people are just expressing their own opinions on what they find desirable (or not). If you have somebody who loves you as you are, why do you care what anyone in here thinks?
On the other hand, maybe you’ll get an inkling of how women feel when they hear men rattle off the shopping list of physical perfections that they prefer… and frankly, I think the women in this thread are not being anywhere near as unkind about it as men can be.
Really, most ugliness I see is in personality. A man who is unkind or rude to others, even if nice to me, I can’t tolerate.
Over-confident men are a turnoff, when confidence blends into arrogance.
Being dumb is a big one. There is nothing more hot than an intelligent man. I loves me some geeky men in particular. I can tolerate different interests (even those I can’t really sympathize with, like sports) but I absolutely can’t tolerate stupidity.
Physically I’m very flexible. I appreciate things like an ample butt or big but graceful hands, but they’re not necessary. I prefer short hair to long hair. I used to really swoon after lean guys but really it’s 95% personality for me now. Comb the gummy bears out of your beard and we’ll talk.
Yes. It is good for men to get a little taste of what happens to us women all our lives. It’s not fun to feel that if you are not classically attractive you are utterly worthless. Or invisible, in the case of us women who are over 40.
Uh, yeah, basically. It has nothing to do with being a lady, though. It always kills me when people think that their mundane sexual preferences are the result of some unique internal magic - even though they “just happen” to match the preferences of all of their contemporaries.
I’m a bi woman and I’ve had a similar experience to the op. I find a MUCH larger percentage of men unattractive than women. Not sure on the specifics, though…
Taste? Heh. Believe me, I’ve had my taste.
I’m overweight. I have been all my life. Drastically overweight. Because of that I was ‘not classically attractive’, and turned invisible when I was in my late 20’s.
I find it disheartening that overweight is such a sticking point, although let me be perfectly clear: I’m not being accusatory. It’s a sticking point in our culture, not just in this thread. Yes, I realize that people and cultures have certain standards of attractiveness… It’s just rather depressing to be on the outside of that standard for one’s entire life.
Trust me. Men get this as much as women do. I think perhaps we’re raised to either not care (didn’t stick for me), or not say anything about it.
Hygiene. And I don’t just mean stinky and disgusting, but the little things: nose hair, scaly ears, gnarly feet, or – worst of all IMO – mossy teeth. Blech! I also can’t go for morbidly obese, though I do like big burly bear-type guys. I dated a man who was very fat, and he was otherwise everything I should have wanted, but whether it’s culture or nature, I simply wasn’t physically attracted to him because of his weight and I couldn’t see having a LTR with someone I wasn’t physically attracted to. But that doesn’t mean I find such men ugly; they aren’t, they’re just not my physical type.
But I don’t think my standards are high, physically speaking. There’s the “ick” factor that comes from not enough grooming, but other than than, I don’t think any “type” is ugly. Hair – eh. If it’s clean, I can live with it. Combovers are not attractive, but to me that’s because of what they say about the guy – I’m worried about my hair and I’m delusional enough to think I can cover up the lack of it. I much prefer the guy who’s just bald or balding as it speaks both to his self-confidence and to his refusal to worry about something like his hair. Hairiness of brows or back – eh. Having said how important grooming is to me, I have to say I don’t really care for excessive grooming either. A guy who tweezes his brows or waxes his back is a little too concerned about appearance, IMO. But if that’s his thing, it’s okay with me.
I love men. All shapes, all sizes. Color, height, looks, hair, I honestly don’t care. If they are clean and reasonably presentable, they won’t be physically “ugly” to me.
While I absolutely agree with you when it comes to weight, if we set that aside, it’s pretty obvious that women are held to a much higher standard when it comes to looks. You need look no farther than Hollywood for that. How many actresses have ‘had a little work done’ in comparison to actors? And that’s for women that for the most part ARE considered classically beautiful - it’s still not good enough. They need to be ‘perfect’. Also, how many times have you seen, say, a 50-year-old actor paired with a much younger actress as the romantic interest vs. the opposite? The former is fairly routine - the latter pretty much only happens when it is an integral part of the story.
And as much as so many of us resent that, as a culture we still seem to follow along with it. It’s nuts.
Hm. My response to this is that hollywood is non-indicitive of real-life. I think people get to obsessed with the media image of appearance, myself. YMMV, of course.
Which is exactly the problem. Apparently most people don’t want to see other people who actually look like they themselves look in film or in print, or that’s what we’d be seeing. What’s up with that?
Obviously not everything that appeals to us personally as individuals is what’s being fed to us from outside sources, but it sure seems to trend that way to a large extent.
I’m going to stop now since we’re getting away from the OP (and this kind of stuff has been covered ad nauseum elsewhere), and just say I know that I myself have preferences that one would consider ‘non-standard’ and others that I do think are the product of what’s been portrayed all around me all my life as being attractive. I think that’s pretty inevitable in every culture.
I have a tendency to be attracted to ugly guys. Presence, good posture, and a sense of humor are my only criteria, and I always find that the guy with a crooked nose, a gap in his teeth, balding, or a bit of a belly are much more interesting and a lot more fun than pretty boys. Pretty boys tend to prefer me, though, and I have to chase the average or below average guy that strikes me as attractive.
I expect men to be hairier, and a little rougher around the edges than me, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. In a group of men, I will notice the man who is laughing first. They man who is model-pretty and impecably groomed doesn’t even show up on my radar.
It’s hard to say anything is downright ugly, just what my preferences are. And even then, there’s everyday controllable things and then things that would take surgery.
Controllable things:
COMBOVER far and above anything else
Long stringy hair that doesn’t look cared for
Long unkempt toenails
Stinky feet
