What measures do you take to keep your child under control? First off I will state that I am not a parent. I will tell you the reason for this question. I’m sitting in fast food restaurant the other night eating dinner. There was a family seated near us who had several kids. One child was about 3. She was running around the restaurant being what I thought was a typical child. Off looking at the games and just being rowdy. I guess what was her sister was trying to keep up with the girl and get her to sit down. She wasn’t listening. The next thing I see is the mother sneaking up behind her with a ruler in hand hiding it behind her back. She spins the child around and shows her the ruler and tells her she better sit down and behave. It was psychological, not physical.
Then I thought back to my childhood and what methods my parents used. Belt. I can still see my dad pulling off his belt saying he was going to beat me and then not. I’ll give you 3 words. Weeping Willow Tree. My dad stripping the leaves, and chasing me down the back alley with a switch. He never beat me with the switch, just chased. I think he was trying to do more psychological damage than anything. Mom, her threat was, “You wait till your dad gets home”. Of course being a kid having that hanging over all day gives you something to sweat and think about. Then there was the time I watched a friends kid. He was being so rowdy I resorted to money bribes. You know the ones I’m talking about. If you sit down, watch the cartoons like a good little kid I might find some money in my purse for you. I went through the bottom of my purse to scrape change for the little brat to put in his piggy bank. That’s when he tells me he doesn’t want change, he wants bills. He wasn’t even 5.
So what do you do to keep your child under control? Do you keep them in line with threats or do you follow through with some form of punishment? Do you use the reward system like money?