If only you’d left it at this. Filter Dio, filter.
phantom lamb, the quote above is entirely correct. I can almost guarantee that no one else found the pictures terrible, and absolutely guarantee that no one else thought much about them at all.
That said, your friend should still have removed them when you asked her to. I’d never leave a picture up that upset a friend, even if I did think she was being silly. Is she generally that insensitive?
I think you are being extremely childish. First of all, a lousy picture of you is enough to ruin your day? Grow up. You look like what you look like. Sometimes it’s going to be less flattering than others, but it’s still you. I guarantee you nobody is paying even one percent as much attention to this picture as you are. People like to post pictures on Facebook. I think even un-tagging something is a little ridiculous, but that feature is there, so use it if you must. But asking someone to delete the picture entirely is crazy and immature.
Thank you.
I would untag and forget about it.
In the grand scheme of things, having a picture you don’t like online isn’t a big deal.
HOWEVER.
It’s still your likeness, it’s a reasonable request, and I think she’s an utter twat for going against it.
Actually, no, it’s not. Facebook allows anyone to post and tag photos of you without your consent. Depending on the privacy settings of that user, those photos can be seen by the entire internet, including non-Facebook members. I have my Facebook privacy extremely restricted. I do not appreciate unflattering and/or inappropriate (background actions or just personal life stuff) photos to be posted on a public website for all to see, and I believe that if I ask a friend to please remove a photo, that they should do so. It’s not a big deal unless you are constantly freaking out and asking people to delete every photo. Untag as many as you want though…I see nothing wrong with that. But if a photo REALLY bothers you, and it’s your FRIEND, then take it down.
I won’t even post anything I even think LOOKS unflattering/embarrassing/inappropriate of anyone else on Facebook, and my photos are already friends-only anyway, it doesn’t matter. If they want the photos I can e-mail them copies for them to choose to do what they want.
If someone is your friend they shouldn’t be a dick. Everyone is allowed to be self-conscious at some times, especially on a public website. It’s not a friendship ender or anything but it never should be been an issue in the first place. I’ve had a friend delete a picture one time, and I’ve NOT uploaded many, many photos. It just should have been “please remove that photo I really hate it” and “okay I will” then done, over, good.
Or, you could do like I did and delete your whole facebook account and never go back. 
I don’t think it’s particularly reasonable. Nobody owns their likeness. Whatever you’re photographed doing in public is fair game. The photo belongs to the photographer, not to the subject. It’s the other pesron’s picture and the other person’s facebook page. If the OP doesn’t want to look at it, she doesn’t have to, but her moral authority ends right there.
You think that it’s *more *reasonable to upset your friend than to delete a picture?
I would disagree that the other pesron did anything to upset the OP. I would see it as the OP having an irrational hangup.
And I would argue that if my friend is upset, and making her not upset is as easy as deleting a picture, I’m kind of an ass if I don’t do that.
I think both the OP and her friend are being a bit silly. It’s baffling that your friend is so determined to keep these pics up when you’ve made it clear they upset you. But photos aren’t a big deal. Everyone has unflattering photos of them on Facebook, and no one really looks at them twice.
I’d say my friend being upset has nothing to do with me, and that I wouldn’t be helping her by humoring her neurosis. I would suggest either therapy or some kind of induced puberty.
I don’t like any pictures of me to be on anyone’s site, and so far those who have posted them have taken them down when I ask. Asking someone to take them down and being refused? Wow. I don’t know what I would do. Unless you’re in the middle of a group shot, why can’t she just crop you out? Or pretend it’s the USSR in the sixties and use photo editing to make you disappear from them.
Mightn’t a reasonable compromise be suggesting to your friend that she could repost the pictures with your face blurred or edited out?
Somehow, I’d be entirely unsurprised to find that you’re not exactly awash in friends.
It’s a picture on facebook. You’re not making a principled stand by leaving it up. You’re just saying “fuck you if you don’t like it” to a friend.
That’s right. It’s a picture on facbook. Adults don’t act like pissy little 8th grade girls because somebody puts up a party picture of them on facebook.
Some quirks we can live with in a friend, some we cant.
We all tend to think that our particular list of those things is the correct one.
Otara
Same here.
When I did have an account, I had no pictures of myself on my own page. It really pissed me off to be tagged in someone else’s photos.
I realize that I am in the minority on that issue. And most of the time I just untagged them and kept my mouth shut.
I quit facebook for other reasons, but that was a nice side benefit.
Dio, why do you have to be such a jerk all the time? She just asked what do other people do when someone posts bad pictures. Why do you have to come along and say things about her like:
“pissy 8th grade girl”
“humour her nerosis”
“suggest therapy”
“moral authority”
“rather petty”
Why do you always come into a thread and blow everything out of proportion then wonder why you get pitted all the time. It’s fucking tiring.