Does Money?: Should have some. Doesn’t need to be filthy rich, but should be able to manage money decently.
Does Looks?: Somewhat. There is a certain “style” I like, but if I like the person’s personality, I will like their looks.
Does Height?: I prefer tall men and short women, but wouldn’t say absolutely no to a tall woman or short man.
Does Intelligence?:Yes. No fools, please. I’d like someone who knew what I was talking about.
Does Common sense?: Yes. Not someone relentlessly practical, though.
Does Religion?: Not really, as long as they respect mine and are willing to have pointless or pointed discussions about such things.
Does Race?: No.
Does Gender?: A bit. I prefer men, but if I found a woman who was perfect for me, I wouldn’t turn her down.
Does Employment?: Should have a job or some means of support.
Does Job Type?: Not really.
Does Body size (Weight)?: I’m more attracted to people who aren’t really thin, but other than that, no.
Does Education?: Should be well-informed if not well-educated.
Does Family?: I am close to my family but it doesn’t matter if he/she is.
Does Age?: Not really. I’ve never dated anyone when there was a big age gap, but that’s from lack of opportunity, not preference.
Does Nice eyes?: Doesn’t really matter. Just a bonus.
Does Taste in Animals?: They should be tolerant of the fact that I like cats and dogs and want/will have some. Someone who loves animals would be even better.
Does Having a Car?: Right now, as I don’t have one, it matters a bit. Otherwise, no.
Does Taste in Music?:As long as it doesn’t mean being mean about my musical taste (or lack thereof), I don’t care.
Does Distance?: No.
Does Disablity?: No.
Does Humor?: Yes. Our senses of humor should be similar enough that we each think the other is funny.
Does Romanticism?: Yes, but I don’t think of romance as flowers and that sort of thing. Romance isn’t about cliches (no offense to anyone who likes flowers, etc.); it’s about doing things your partner likes, just because you know it makes him/her happy.
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?:
Must not be financially irresponsible nor completely fixated on money or material things.
Does Looks?:
Must be “attractive” to me. This is probably some weird combo of actual looks/projected personality/pheremones. Certainly don’t need to be super good-looking in a model sort of way
Does Height?:
I’m pretty short and I tend to like men on the shorter side, but don’t think height in general make a difference in the aforementioned attractiveness equation
Does Intelligence?:
Must be intelligent.
Does Common sense?:
Well, can’t be completely without common sense
Does Religion?:
Must be tolerant of mine and not proselytizing if his is different
Does Race?:
No
Does Gender?:
Only males need apply
Does Employment?:
must be employed or actively seeking work (when I get older we can add in “comfortably retired”)
Does Job Type?:
As long as it is “honest work”, doesn’t matter. Toll booth workers, personal trainers, software engineers, professional curlers, whatever, but no drug dealers, hitmen, ne’er do wells, etc.
Does Body size (Weight)?:
As long as still “attractive” too heavy or too skinny can still work
Does Education?:
degrees not necessary, but must be an active life-long learner
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?):
If my family didn’t like someone, I would take their concerns very seriously. They are very reasonable people, w/ very good judgement. If someone else had a truly nutty or screwed up family I would probably examine him more closely for hidden similar problems
Does Age?:
I’d like to stick pretty close to my own age, probably no more than 5 yrs younger or 10 yrs. older
Does Nice eyes?:
Must have kind eyes.
Does Taste in Animals?:
Not TOO many. Pet issues must not dominate life.
Does Having a Car?:
Don’t care as long as transportation issues taken care of. In fact would admire someone who lives w/out a car as a lifestyle choice
Does Taste in Music?:
Well, if I really really hated the music they really really loved (like that 12 tone experimental stuff) this might indicate a basic personality incompatibility.
Does Distance?:
Must be GC (geographically compatible)No more than 1 hr. travel time by transportation method of choice
Does Disablity?:
Must not need me to be nurse.
Does Humor?:
This is a dealbreaker. This is the end-all, be-all. Must be humorous. Must be able to laugh at self, life’s little frustrations. A similar (not identical) sense of humor is essential
Does Romanticism?:
Medium. Must be somewhat romantic, but not TOO sappy
I will add, before I was married, I was only interested in people who wanted marriage and kids. Should I ever be on the market again, I would only be interested in someone who liked my kids, but I don’t necessarily think marriage would have to be in the equation.
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?: Definitely not. I have money and that’s all that matters to me. If he’s a giant mooch, however, things could get ugly.
Does Looks?: Yes. If I’m not physically attracted to the person from the beginning there’s almost no chance of anything happening between us. Sounds shallow, but I can’t really help it.
Does Height?: No, but then again I’ve never dated someone who was shorter than me so I don’t really know.
Does Intelligence?: Very much so. Must be able to hold an intelligent conversation.
Does Common sense?: Yes, but not having common sense is cute too. Just as long as it’s not to a Jessica Simpson extent.
Does Religion?: No, just as long as he is accepting of my beliefs.
Does Race?: No, but I am rarely attracted to people outside my own race. I have dated other races however, and their race played no part in my decision to date/not date them.
Does Gender?: Yes. I am straight and prefer to date members of the male gender.
Does Employment?: It’s good if they have a job, otherwise I get the impression that they are lazy.
Does Job Type?: Not in the least.
Does Body size (Weight)?: I like guys of all sizes, just not at extreme ends of the spectrum.
Does Education?: No, as long as he isn’t dumb as a brick I wouldn’t really care if he finished school or not.
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?): It would be very hard for me to want to date someone if I knew their family didn’t like me, but I have never been in that situations o I’m not sure.
Does Age?: I prefer to date people within a couple years of myself but it’s not really a big deal either way.
Does Nice eyes?: They’re a plus, but not a factor in whether or not I would date someone.
Does Taste in Animals?: Must like animals.
Does Having a Car?: It would be kind of inconvenient if he didn’t because I’m busy all of the time so I wouldn’t be able to drive him around much. I guess as long as he chipped in for gas I wouldn’t mind.
Does Taste in Music?: Not really. If he likes country it’s a plus though. I don’t however judge people by their taste in music.
Does Distance?: Closer is better, but as long as we can see each other reasonably often then it’s not a problem.
Does Disablity?: I have never dated someone with a disability so I don’t know. If someone I was dating became disabled somehow I’d gladly push them around in a wheelchair or whatever they needed.
Does Humor?: Must have a sense of humor. Must be able to laugh at me when I say and do dumb t hings, which is pretty often.
Does Romanticism?: I like a romantic guy. It shows that he has the girl’s interest in mind.
Well, here goes:
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?: Nah. They need to be supporting themselves (ie gainfully employed, self-sufficient), but I don’t care about the actual dollars they bring in.
Does Looks?: Yeh. She’s gotta be cute! And she needs to have small tits.
Does Height?: I prefer a woman slightly taller than me (5’6")
Does Intelligence?: Absolutely. She has to be smart.
Does Common sense?: Are these trick questions? If she doesn’t have common sense, I don’t want to be involved with her.
Does Religion?: I’m ambivalent about this. I’m an atheist, but I respect other peoples’ beliefs - provided it’s not shoved down my throat.
Does Race?: I don’t think so. Funnily enough, I have a penchant for Asian women (not that I’ve ever been with one).
Does Gender?: Yep. She needs to be female 
Does Employment?: She needs to be gainfully employed. Whether that’s as a streetcleaner or an astrophysicist doesn’t really bother me. But I wouldn’t date a streetwalker.
Does Job Type?: See above.
Does Body size (Weight)?: I prefer an athletic build.
Does Education?: I don’t demand she have a degree, but she needs to have an education (at least high school).
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?): I’d like to say this doesn’t matter, but the fact remains that blood is thicker than water. If the family doesn’t approve, chances are it just won’t work.
Does Age?: I prefer them a little older than me (early thirties).
Does Nice eyes?: Yeh. I prefer dark eyes, but have been known to be enthralled by bright blue eyes.
Does Taste in Animals?: Not really.
Does Having a Car?: Not especially. So long as she doesn’t use me as a glorified taxi service.
Does Taste in Music?: I wouldn’t say it’s a deciding factor.
Does Distance?: Yeh. She’s gotta live in the same city as me or it just won’t work.
Does Disablity?: Couldn’t say one way or another. I’d like to think it doesn’t matter, but until it actually happens, who knows?
Does Humor?: Absolutely. She’s gotta be able to make me laugh!
Does Romanticism?: If she’s a hopeless romantic, it just will NOT work with me. I hate all that romance bullshit.
Urgh, the more I look at this, the more I sound like a petty, picky bitch. I’m not, honest… but I guess I know what I want, and I’ve had enough dodgy women in my life to know what I don’t want!
Max 
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?: Yes. Not whether they have it or not, but their attitudes about it are very important.
Does Looks?: If they are very good looking, I’ll have a hard time trusting them. The ugliest person can become beautiful to me if I love what they are inside.
Does Height?: No.
Does Intelligence?: Yes.
Does Common sense?: I don’t have any, so he has to.
Does Religion?: Yes, I prefer an atheist or agnostic.
Does Race?: Yes. I’m mostly attracted to persons of my own race, and frankly I’m not prepared to face the problems of dating outside it.
Does Gender?: Yes.
Does Employment?: Yes. He has to have a job doing something legal (that, or buttloads of legal cash coming from inheritance, lottery winnings, etc.)
Does Job Type?: See above.
Does Body size (Weight)?: I was once married to a fat guy, so it’s obviously something I can get past, but I’d rather not.
Does Education?: At least high school, and the more the better.
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?): Yes, it matters in the long run.
Does Age?: I prefer age 45 and up (I’m 34.)
Does Nice eyes?: No.
Does Taste in Animals?: They need to be okay with cats.
Does Having a Car?: Around here, yes, they need a car.
Does Taste in Music?: Somewhat. I couldn’t date a rap or country music fan.
Does Distance?: Yes.
Does Disablity?: I don’t know/it depends. It’s not something that’s ever come up.
Does Humor?: Yes.
Does Romanticism?: No.
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?: Only in that they should not rely on mine.
Does Looks?: To a degree. There is a VERY wide range of what I find acceptable.
Does Height?: Yes. I prefer not to date anyone smaller than I am.
Does Intelligence?: Yes. Must be at least as smart as I am, if not more so.
Does Common sense?: Hell yes. Nothing’s a bigger turn-off and more frustrating than someone who just does not think.
Does Religion?: Only in that I wouldn’t want to date a hyper-religious, “always in the church any time the doors are open” type.
Does Race?: No.
Does Gender?: Yes. I am open-minded, but pretty set in my straight preferences.
Does Employment?: Yes. They need to be employed or have a really good reason why they aren’t.
Does Job Type?: No, as long as it’s legal and they can be home pretty regularly.
Does Body size (Weight)?: Not really. I don’t like super-skinny, but that’s not a deal breaker.
Does Education?: No.
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?): Only if he listens to his family more than he does me, or puts them ahead of me.
Does Age?: Not really. I could go older more easily than younger, though.
Does Nice eyes?: No.
Does Taste in Animals?: To a point. I am not a pet person.
Does Having a Car?: Yes. He needs to be able to get around.
Does Taste in Music?: Yes. If he likes country music and makes me listen to it, we will have problems.
Does Distance?: Yes, I need someone who is at least here.
Does Disablity?: No, as long as I don’t end up just taking on the role of caretaker.
Does Humor?: Very important to me. I want someone who will laugh with me through the bad times.
Does Romanticism?: Yes, but it is not necessary on a day-to-day basis. Just make me feel special every once in a while and I’ll do the same for you.
These questions are all moot for me since I’m coming up on my 17th year of happy marriage next January, but just for hypothetical’s sake:
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?: No, as long as he can support himself. No need to be rich.
Does Looks?: Somewhat, but it’s not a huge deal. My tastes often lean toward the quirky anyway.
Does Height?: Well, it would be nice if he were at least close to my height (I’m 5’10"), but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker.
Does Intelligence?: Oh, yeah.
Does Common sense?: Yep.
Does Religion?: Only to the extent that I don’t like religious fanatics of any type. I was raised Protestant Christian but I’m very mellow about it.
Does Race?: No, not really. Looks-wise I tend to prefer white and Asian guys (I’m white), but I’ve seen guys of other races I’ve found attractive as well, and once I get past the initial looks thing it’s really the personality that does it for me.
Does Gender?: Yup.
Does Employment?: Current - not necessarily, but he’d need to be employable and actively looking (or independently wealthy). I wouldn’t want to support him financially any more than I’d expect him to support me.
Does Job Type?: To some extent. I prefer white-collar types (especially geeks).
Does Body size (Weight)?: Within reasonable parameters, no. I don’t think I’d be attracted to a guy who was significantly overweight, but who knows?
Does Education?: Formal education, no. A love of learning and a curiosity about life, yes.
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?): Not in the slightest. I’m not much of a “family” person (I’m an only child and my parents, while great, aren’t the heavily ‘emotions and togetherness’ types.) A guy with a big smothering family might bother me, depending on how close to me they lived.
Does Age?: To some extent, but not a lot. I don’t think I’d want to have a relationship with a guy who was more than about 15 years my junior or senior, but again, who knows?
Does Nice eyes?: Nah.
Does Taste in Animals?: He has to like them. Cat lovers preferred. I don’t think I could hang out with a guy who didn’t at least like animals, even if he didn’t want any.
Does Having a Car?: Not really. Transportation would be nice, especially around here (California) but not mandatory.
Does Taste in Music?: Yeah, a little. I’d probably go a little crazy with a rabid country, opera, jazz or rap fan, unless he didn’t insist on sharing his tastes with me too often. In exchange, I wouldn’t inflict my industrial and hard rock on him.
Does Distance?: Hmm…good question. Maybe not, as long as the Internet is around.
Does Disablity?: Depends on the disability. Paraplegic, blind, deaf–not necessarily. Quadriplegic, yeah. Something like serious cancer or other life-threatening disease–it would have to depend on whether I got attracted to him before I found out. I might be more careful if I knew ahead of time.
Does Humor?: Absolutely. If he doesn’t have a sense of humor, he’s never going to get along with me.
Does Romanticism?: To some extent, but not really. I’m actually pretty masculine in a lot of my outlooks and behaviors, so I’d be really uncomfortable with a guy who insisted on “treating me like a lady.” I’d rather have a considerate best friend–which, by coincidence, is what I’m married to.
Let’s see…
Money?: Not really. Be nice if she’s more responsible with her money than I am… but nobody who is obsessed with money. It’s just a medium for being able to have fun.
Looks?: Yes, of course.
Height?: Yes, to a certain extent. Nobody taller than me. (I’m 6’2, though, so not really much of an issue)
Intelligence?: Yes, of course. Vacuous girls need not apply.
Common sense?: Yes.
Religion?: Kind of. No religous zealots, and no constant religous arguments.
Race?: I tend to be attracted to people of the same race as myself, but in theory no.
Gender?: Yes.
Employment?: Kind of. Don’t really care what they do, but most likely would not be well-suited with someone who doesn’t work or study or do anything.
Job Type?: No.
Body size (Weight)?: Yes. Looks are important.
Education?: Not really, but nice if they have a university degree.
Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?): No. My family gets no say in who I have relationships with, and I don’t care if their family like me or not, but of course would prefer for them to like me.
Age?: Yes. Probably start to matter less as I get older though.
Nice eyes?: No. I couldn’t tell you what color eyes any of my girlfriends have had.
Taste in Animals?: Be nice if they like dogs. But, not really important. Also good if they are not obsessed with animals and pets.
Having a Car?: No.
Taste in Music?: No.
Distance?: Yes. Long distance relationships don’t work, and I will not try it again.
Disablity?: Um, yes… too general of a question. I’m not a caretaker.
Humor?: Yes. Must have one.
Romanticism?: Not really. No hopeless romantics though. I wouldn’t be able to live up to their standard - I’m not very romantic at all.
26 year old female, engaged.
Does Money?: No.
Does Looks?: Sort of. I like someone who takes care of themselves.
Does Height?: I like men who are larger, women who are smaller
Does Intelligence?: Yes. Absolutely
Does Common sense?: Yes. Because I have none, someone has to watch out for me.
Does Religion?: I wouldn’t be able to date a religious person, I don’t think.
Does Race?: No.
Does Gender?: Somewhat. I prefer men but I find women sexy.
Does Employment?: Yes, in a way.
Does Job Type?: No.
Does Body size (Weight)?: A little. I like men chubby.
Does Education?: No, but love of learning does matter.
Does Family? : I’ve never run into this situation… I would have to look twice at anyone my family disapproved of.
Does Age?: Yes. I doubt anyone much younger would work out.
Does Nice eyes?: Just perks.
Does Taste in Animals?: Absolutely. Non-animal lovers need not apply.
Does Having a Car?: No, as long as they are self-sufficient.
Does Taste in Music?: Not really.
Does Distance?: No.
Does Disablity?: No.
Does Humor?: Yes. Must make me laugh.
Does Romanticism?: Somewhat.
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?: No.
Does Looks?: No.
Does Height?: No. I’m more interested in men who are taller than I am, but there are a lot of very hot short men.
Does Intelligence?: Yes. I like smart men, but not genius-level.
Does Common sense?: Yes.
Does Religion?: Most religions are okay, but I couldn’t have a relationship with someone who’s a fundamentalist in any religion.
Does Race?: No.
Does Gender?: Yes.
Does Employment?: Only if they have a job that I think is morally questionable (legal but unethical kinds of things, like payday lending or high-pressure sales).
Does Job Type?: No.
Does Body size (Weight)?: No.
**Does Education?: ** No.
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?): No, as long as they don’t side with their family against me.
Does Age?: Yes. Younger is better. A little older is okay, but I don’t think I’d consider anyone who’s over ten years older.
Does Nice eyes?: Yes!!! And a nice smile.
Does Taste in Animals?: Yes–they have to like animals.
Does Having a Car?: No.
Does Taste in Music?: Yes, probably more than anything else. I’d rather be with someone who likes the same music I do (alternative/grunge). I wouldn’t even consider dating someone who listens to country or rap.
Does Distance?: Yes. I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who’s somewhere else.
Does Disability?: No.
Does Humor?: Yes. I don’t get along very well with anyone who doesn’t have a good sense of humor. Preferably goofy, a little childish, very surreal, and a little on the dark side.
Does Romanticism?: It would be nice, but it’s not necessary. Thoughtfulness is more important than romance, but romance is nice, too.
Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?:
Not so much money as it would be socio-economic values.
Does Looks?: Yes, but only in that I must find them visually appealing, it matters not what anyone else thinks
Does Height?: ** They must be taller than me, but that’s no incredible feat, since I am 5’2"
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Does Intelligence?: Absolutely.
Does Common sense?: Definitely, but not as much as intelligence. I’m not into “streetwise” or “folk learning”
Does Religion?: Yes. I’ve been married to a looney, and I will never do that again.
Does Race?: In and of itself, no, but the physical attraction issues come into play, here
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Does Gender?:** Yes, I like men.
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Does Employment?:** Yes
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Does Job Type?:** Somewhat. I wouldn’t want a SO who had no time for anything else because of a job.
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Does Body size (Weight)?:** If they are generally healthy and can keep up with me, then weight doesn’t matter.
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Does Education?:** YES
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Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?)**: I despi…er, detes…I don’t get along with my inlaws, and they don’t like me, either. We solve it by living 1200 miles apart.
Does Age?: Not unless the difference is ridiculous (like a whole generation)
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Does Nice eyes?:** I prefer expressive eyes
Does Taste in Animals?: No.
Does Having a Car?: Yes, but that’s because I live in an area of the country where a daily commute is almost necessary.
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Does Taste in Music?:** Yes. I do despise Country and Western music.
**Does Distance?: **Nah, my hubby and I spent 2.5 years 1100 miles apart.
Does Humor?: Yes, I have to be married to someone who has a dry, sarcastic wit…otherwise they’ll never be able to handle my humor 
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Does Romanticism?: **Yes. It matters on the first date, and it will matter on the 50th wedding anniversary. It’s something that a relationship should never do without.
33 year old divorced female checking in. I am sorry to say it, but I find this list rather shallow. Other than gender, intelligence, and sense of humor, nothing on your list really matters to me a whole lot in choosing a mate. Things like emotional intelligence, maturity, consideration of others, common priorities, and similar interests are what matter to me. For example, that movie Fever Pitch - I could never be with a man like that because I dislike most sports and I just don’t think I could handle that big of a disparity in interests. I love reading and the outdoors and want a man who loves those things, too. (and have him - actually. I am very happily involved with the man of my dreams). By priorities I mean how they value things. I value love over money. My ex-husband valued money more than love - it was more important to him to be a workaholic and achieve his dreams of keeping up with the Joneses than to be with his family.
Also, I care about standard personality traits like:
-Whether they are introverted or extroverted (prefer something about the middle)
-Whether they are into the minutia of the details (how annoying!) or more of a big picture kind of person (my kind of guy)
-Whether they nit-pick and worry to death (no thanks!) or let things roll off their back (much better).
-If they have anger management skills (yes, please).
-If they tend to be overly logical to the point of seeming heartless (ouch) or overly compassionate to the point of being a door mat (eh, prefer something closer to this, but not completely).
-What they are looking for out of a relationship, if they believe in monogamy and want a serious commitment- I do - this doesn’t go without saying.
-If they are a spontaneous sort of person (preferrable) or the sort of person who enjoys planning (I am this sort and don’t need to compete with my partner).
-If they are a neat freak (no way!) or a slob (better than the alternative).
These things matter more to me than the list in the OP… I am sure I could think of more of them if I tried… attitude toward children is a big one - I have a 5 year old son and any mate of mine must be willing to love my son as his own. Above all, though, my biggest prereq is feeling “connected”. Some people you feel connected to, like you can read each other’s minds and tell each other anything. Some people you don’t. From the moment I met my current boyfriend, I felt connected to him. He could read me like an open book and vice versa. We clicked. Above all, I need that “click” or forget it. The rest of this post is just trying to pin down when a click happens.
[Does Money make a difference on who you choose to be in a relationship with?:
It kind of depends upon what you mean by “money”. In my experience, having my partner make a similar amount is the most workable situation for a relationship.
Does Looks?: To a reasonable extent. I don’t need movie star perfect, and most ordinary guys “look” just fine to me, but there are certain look “types” that just repulse me for some (probably pschological ) reason.
Does Height?: I definitely prefer tall men, they don’t have to be superman, but I’d like them to be at least 6 inches taller than I am
Does Intelligence?: VERY much so.
Does Common sense?: hmmmm…it wouldn’t be a deal breaker, but I’d prefer a reasonable amount
Does Religion?: Definitely, relationships are hard enough as it is, the person I end up with doesn’t need to be the same religion, but at least have a belief or faith in God, and DEFINITELY no weirdo fundies, they’re God’s worst nightmare of who he’d pick to speak fo r him…
Does Race?: Hmmmm…never really thought about it, I don’t think I’d turn anyone down from another race than mine, but Ive always ended up within my own group.
Does Gender?: Yes, I’m strictly hetero, not only do I not really trust women all that much, the idea of a physical relationship with one grosses me out (although, I understand hetero men feel a wee bit differently about us :))
Does Employment?: Yes. YES, I WILL not do the “supoort the beer guzzling couch bum” thing EVER again.
Does Job Type?: Somewhat, it depends upon the man. Although, again, in my dating experience, I’ve had the best luck with men in similar careers or career levels to mine.
Does Body size (Weight)?: In a way, I can’t stand skinnies. And am a bit put off by perfect gym rats as well. Prefer an ordinary guy who’s comfortably “extra upholstered”.
Does Education?: DEFINITELY. They don’t need to have a string of degrees, but the “want to” and ambition to improve needs to be there. It’s not so much the education itself, but the attitude behind it that is what makes it necessary and attractive.
Does Family? (as in, does it matter if your family or their family doesn’t like you or them or what not?):Yes.
Does Age?: No, within reason
Does Nice eyes?: Yes, in that imho, eyes really are the windows to the soul. Gentle, kind and intelligent eyes are a must.
Does Taste in Animals?: Yes. People who dislike animals in my dating experience make a bad choice for me.
Does Having a Car?: In my state? HELL yes.
Does Taste in Music?: Yes, I’d prefer someone who was either already a dancer, or was willing to learn. I’ve sang, played instruments and danced since I was little. I’d prefer someone who shared that interest and understood.
Does Distance?: Yes, once the relationship is ready to move to the commit and or marry phase.
Does Disablity?:I guess not, I’ve dated a man in a wheelchair (injured parachuting during the vietnam war), and a deaf man. Didn’t seem to change much about the whole dating experience.
Does Humor?: That is a MUST have. It’s non-negotiable.
Does Romanticism?: yes, every relationship needs a little.
I was thinking that the shallowness was kind of the point of the questions. The kind of things that people say don’t matter or shouldn’t matter, but when it comes down to it, most things matter! Or, I could be insane.
Yeah, that was my point, JS
I disagree (even if jsgoddess and Idle Thoughts say that I’m wrong :p).
Money: How is it shallow to care whether someone can support himself and pay his bills on time, which is what most of us said mattered?
Looks: How is it shallow to say that looks matter? It would be shallow if looks were all that mattered, but no one has said that. Actually, that goes for everything on this list: if any one thing were all that mattered, that would be shallow.
Height: Part of looks.
Intelligence: How is it shallow to want someone who can carry on a conversation?
Common sense: How is it shallow to think it’s important that your SO not try to cross the street without looking for traffic?
Religion: How is it shallow to want someone whose values and morals agree with your own?
Race: Part of looks for some people, part of religion for others.
Gender: So we’re all shallow for not being bisexual?
Employment: How is it shallow for employment to matter?
Job Type: Part of employment, mostly.
Body size (Weight): Part of looks.
Education: How is caring about this shallow?
Family: How is it shallow to want to get along with your SO’s family, and vice-versa? It doesn’t matter to me, but I can understand why it matters to some.
Age: So, what, I’m shallow for not wanting to date a 20-year-old or a 70-year-old? (I’m your age.)
Nice eyes: Part of looks.
Taste in Animals: How is it shallow to want to agree with your SO about animals? This isn’t much different from agreeing about children, which you claim is not shallow.
Having a Car: How is it shallow to expect the guy to be able to get around? Caring about the kind of car is what would be shallow.
Taste in Music: How is it shallow to want to share your SO’s taste in music?
Distance: I’m shallow because I’m not into long-distance relationships?
Disablity: I’m shallow because I prefer to date the mentally and physically healthy? Hell, some people consider me disabled just because I’m overweight.
Humor: How is it shallow to want to date someone whose sense of humour is similar to your own?
Romanticism: How is it shallow to want to date someone whose sense of romanticism is similar to your own?
I’m not saying that the list is exhaustive or complete, nor am I disagreeing with the things you mention. Most of these things may not matter to you, but how does that make them shallow?
I am sorry I misunderstood that the point of the poll was to find out which things that may seem unimportant were actually important to some people. I don’t want to turn this thread into a great debate or anything, so forget I said anything about this list being rather shallow. You will note I made exceptions. If you read into any of them - claiming that values and morals are the same as religion, then no, they are not. But the question was not worded that way. Catholics and Baptists have very similar values and morals but not the same religion.
So ignore my post please and carry on. Sorry if I offended anyone.
Boobies. That’s all.
Whoa. If you read “shallow” over and over again, it starts to seem like a really odd word. Shallow, shallow, shallow, shallow…weird.