I’m sure you mean well, but if these women are having problems at home, you should probably stay the hell out of it. Maybe some of them are just being private. but it doesn’t sound that way based on your summary.
All that is very nice, but has little to do with the fact that if you don’t un-friend them, you’re asking for trouble/drama/unnecessary hassle.
(And just FTR, I am 35 and not in the habit of propositioning old school friends over facebook. I find that, with MOSs, sticking to the wall messages is best most of the time. Except things like when I had a brilliant idea for a present for my friend–an obscure poetry collection–and messaged her husband about it.)
Microsoft Office Specialist? Manual of Style? Metal-Oxide-Silicon? Media Object Server?
I am a 33 YO woman and you would not catch me dead propositioning anyone on Facebook. What gives?
We’re not all cut from the same cloth. But I will say, in my thirties I have (I think) gained a lot of maturity and grown up a lot, and perhaps this is the time to reflect on mistakes. Perhaps that is what these women are doing.
Military Occupational Specialty.
It’s a collective term for your Facebook/Myspace/Friendster/etc. social-networking sites. Don’t know that the letters MOS stand for individually, though.
Mean Opinion Scores? Mothers Of Sons? Men Of Steel?
You’re generalizing a bit on people who like women as people.
Oh what a paradox.
Personally I love some women as people. The most supportive, understanding people in my life have all been women who were over 50 years old.
Exactly. I’ve had friends from high school friend me and, other than the occasional very, very short comment on their wall and theirs on mine, I never hear from them and vice versa. Had I wanted to be in close contact with them throughout the years, I wouldn’t have to have been contacted on Facebook to keep in touch. They’re just people whose daily minutiae sometimes makes me chuckle and I hope the same is true for them (though I really draw the line at FB’ing about ridiculously uneventful things like, “overly is doing her laundry. Ick.”).
And I agree with dangermom - it’s great that you want to be friends, but unless you make it very clear that you’re not comfortable that they have to sneak around, you’re setting yourself up for a whole lot of drama.
I’m surprised to hear that all these women are behaving like this. Is it possible that you’re misinterpreting what some of them are saying/implying? For one thing, most people in their right mind would assume that something has to be wrong with their relationship if they’re compelled to be so secretive about their online life. For another, have you changed drastically from high school or something? Become the next Brad Pitt, perhaps, or so fabulously wealthy and powerful that you can’t help but attract poor helpless females without even trying? If not, it seems unlikely that every single woman you used to know would throw themselves at you.
For what it’s worth, I’m a 30-something woman and would never consider reacting to someone from high school this way. Of course, the SDMB doesn’t exactly have the best sampling of all 30-something women.
My opinion is that you are conversing with them in a way that they don’t intepret as “casual” or “innocent”. You are saying something or making remarks that are leaving a wide door open to them to start disclosing all of their middle-life-suburbia baggage. Beware, and maybe start keeping a lower profile if it makes you uncomfortable. You get OUT of Facebook what you put IN to it. It can get all kinds of creepy… my husband had a long online sexual relationship with a desperate bimbo over email. My sympathies are non-existent.
Women want to have sex with you so you assume something is wrong with them.
Hmmm.
Purplehorseshoe has it right about Facebook. That’s kind of its milieu. Still, if there are hordes of horny, 30-somethings battering down your door, one of two things is likely true; 1) They’re suffering from SADD (spousal attention deficit disorder ™ or 2) They’re feeling their age and need to feel that emotional rush or connection again, even though nothing will likely come of it.
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They have kids and houses and are upper-middle class but still seem very desperate.
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is likely more of an indication of desperation than anything else. I’m sure they feel trapped by debt, child obligations, careers etc and you’re a pleasant and relatively harmless distraction from all of that. I’m sure they follow the driving distance rule too.
I would blow too much sunshine up your own skirt here, odds are fair there isn’t much more to it than the potential for some filthy texting and perhaps a few nekkid pics from the more daring members of your new vocal harem.
Which might themselves involve sunshine and skirts, of course.
St. Anger is right – you need to be romantic. You know, really sweep these women off their feet. Maybe email them a close-up photograph of your scrotum?
Missed the edit window and the mistake. Do NOT blow sunshine up your own skirt. Unless sunshine is a 30-something desperate housewife from Atlanta, then do as you must.
Your misleading, insulting strawman argument notwithstanding, his point was that in his personal life he has noticed a high degree of desperation among a certain sub-demographic of women and is curious as to what is causing it.
Well, that should be obvious. It’s Oprah.
I didn’t realize the question actually merited discussion. 
All women in a ten-year age span is more of a generalization that “among a certain sub-demographic” :dubious:
Would it make a difference if he had said
What The Hell is Going Wrong With some 30 Something Females?
Or would people have just found something else to nitpick? Because I’m guessing it was implied that that is what he meant.
And seeing how people live to be 80, we are talking about 1/8 of women. Not women in their 20s, and not women in their 40s. But women in their 30s are doing this.
“How do I get these MILFs to back up off me?”