Can we get an example of what exactly the OP wrote to these women? Because contacting someone out of the blue to compliment them, and perhaps show them how you’ve grown and changed, could just as easily be interpreted as desperate.
This isn’t 30-year-old women. Or men. It’s Facebook. It started with college kids so it wasn’t as noticeable, but it makes everyone act like they’re 16 and stupid. And it makes older folk feel like they’ve got a second chance at a long-forgotten romance or to prove themselves to old friends, sometimes to the detriment of their real lives and long-term relationships.
Your last sentence made me think of something…maybe the women are simply spending too much time on Facebook, their husbands don’t appreciate it and tell them to get a grip on it, so they go underground…
It’s possible some of those women have been thinking about having an affair for years and they see you as a safe option. Or they could just be flirting.
I had a few similar experiences around the same age, maybe a little older. In one instance, a girlfriend from college tracked me down online. She had some extremely nice things to say to me, including this bit of wonder:
I learned to love myself because of the way you loved me
:eek::eek::eek:
Are you trying to seduce me, Mrs. Robinson?
It worked. She was looking to have an affair but couldn’t see herself picking up a guy at her gym, or at work, or wherever. So despite not having seen each other for 22 years we met up in a hotel for a day of…it was just a great day. She was even better looking at 40, absolutely beautiful.
Shagnasty … to answer your question … maybe you’re just that sexy?
(Insert rambling, tongue-in-cheek paragraph here about how you really are cute, I know because I saw your website in your profile, and I’ve always had a weakness for dark haired guys anyway and oh what a beautiful family!! Your wife is soooooo lucky to have someone like you. Call me!!)
Maybe it’s his charming story that he has on a Word document that he’s cut and pasted here several times regarding playing a prank on his buddy’s girlfriend. You know, harmless ol Huckleberry Finn type stuff with a dash of creepy-borderline-date-rape sprinkled in. Good clean fun. Bitches be lovin that shit.
Oh, I am certainly hot or at least that what is what I tell myself when I look in the mirror in the morning. Other people disagree completely but what do they know? One of my life’s dreams would be quite the little whore but I don’t have the morals to ever pursue that. I really like females as people just because of the way I was raised but it does get a little odd.
I just love my young daughters more than anything and my female friends and I spend an excessive amount of time with them. My ex-wife and I even own a house together and she is very attractive and we have a very unusual divorce relationship and spend almost as much time together as when we were married with no other relationships involved.
My basic question was directed to why so many 30 something females seem so emotionally desperate. The e-mail comes in fast and furious and it takes me a couple of hours every night to keep up with it.
I also joined Eharmony.com and had to cancel it in the first week because it was out of control.
