I am not sure if you were responding to me but what I said was completely true. I have never seen anything like it. That is why I asked the question. I won’t let anything come of it and I won’t even see these people more than once of twice in my life again but it is a strange Facebook thing.
I wouldnt get too worried.
Females love the web. You can chat, email, IM for hours on end with em but it aint gonna amount to much in reality.
My WAG. Bout 3000 hours of typing per 15 minutes of actual fucking resulting from said typing.
If you keep it down to a couple hundred hours a year nobody is in any real danger.
I feel the same way about Dungeons and Dragons that you do about eharmony. Except instead of being overwhelmed by female attention, I sometimes get overwhelmed by Elves looking to steal my gold.
You sound like this guy I used to know. He was an uptight, condescending prick who never got laid.
Rush Limbaugh?
I don’t understand why everyone seems to be so caught up in the “sexual” explanation. My experience is that women over 30 are more likely to seem flirtatious online without it meaning anything. They just want an emotional, not sexual connection. They don’t see it as cheating, but are worried their husbands might.
Despite all this, I’ve also heard that women reach their sexual peak in their thirties, while men reach it in their late teens. Perhaps some feel like men do at 15, wanting it badly, but not considering the consequences, or even quite understanding the feelings.
I know when I was a kid I didn’t recognize that my feeling of wanting to cuddle was sexual in nature. And I have an older woman friend who is being flirtatious, but doesn’t seem to realize it, as she wants me to meet her husband.
Maybe he wants to cuddle too.
I don’t want to be mean, but the way you phrase things strikes me as kind of… bizarre. “Females?” How about “women?”
“Females” sounds like you referring to lab rat specimens or bird watching or something.
And I sure hope you “like females as people” because females are people, also known as “women” (see above).
I find this hard to believe but giving you the benefit of the doubt… Are these 2 hours a night spent just reading these many e-mails? Or does it include responding to them? If so, then why are you taking all this time to respond to these women when their behavior is making you uncomfortable??
Maybe it is because you are writing these lonely women long tomes that they are responding to you in such a flirty way. Stop writing to them. De-friend them if it bothers you.
- nyctea, a 30-something female
In all honesty, if one of my guy friends from high school sent me wall posts apropos of nothing about how much he always liked/appreciated something about me in high school, I would think it was a little…flirty, frankly. I mean, we were friends, so I would automatically assume they liked and appreciated things about me–otherwise why would we have been friends? So why would you feel the need to tell me all that, especially at this late date? If it were sparked by and posted in relation to something I’d said, it wouldn’t register, but just out of the blue it would have me asking what was up with that?
So my thought is that these women perceive you to have been flirting with them and are flirting back. And if I had a guy I liked in high school who was flirting with me, and I was flirting back and inviting closer contact, I sure as shit wouldn’t want my husband to know about it.
Oh right, that lovely story. This is what I get for my inability to attach any sort of reputation or track record to Dopers’ screen names!
I was just talking to some folks about what the deal is with so many 40ish women. There seem to be a LOT of them who raise a kid or two, send them off to college, then declare themselves lesbians, dump the hubby and shack up with some other newly minted lesbian.
Were they ever attracted to men? Did they hide their true feelings for the sake of the kids? Did typical make assholish behavior finally make them give up on men in disgust? In a lot of cases, I don’t even know whether or how much sexual orientation/attraction plays a large role in this lifestyle.
They come in mint flavor now?