So earlier today I ran into one of my ex-friend and she was looking BAD. I found out that things took a turn for the worse for her ever since her bf broke up with her and now she wants to come back in my life again because I guess she needs someone to turn to.although she did alot of cruel things to me,I still have a soft spot for her b/c we were really close and went through alot together she hasn’t been a positive influence on my life but I dont like seeing her this way… should I take her back?
If I were your parent (it sounds like you are pretty young) I think I would give you this advice:
treat her kindly
give her whatever help you can afford
keep her at emotional arm’s length until she proves herself
If the only reason she wants to be your friend again is so you can give her emotional support, and she will treat you badly or dump you as a friend again as soon as she has something better, why should you accept her back right away as a friend?
She’s already burned you before, she has to prove herself as a real friend to you. This takes time, and some effort on her part.
I suspect that you have a life lesson to learn here about whether people really change their character very much. Maybe she has; you can give her a chance to prove it.
Roddy
If you do decide to take her back, remember it was your choice, okay?
After all she’s shown you who she really is already, your job is to see. That said, sometimes people need to go around the track more than once to get the learning.
I wish you luck, whatever you decide!
You can close this thread now. The first two posts have said all that’s needed.
Always give people a 2nd chance but never a 3rd.
If this is her 2nd chance … may be worth a shot. Everyone screws up, right?
If it’s her 3rd … no.
Thanks guys, I’ve been thinking long and hard about this last night and decided to put all the resentment I have towards her aside and patch things up with her. She needs an intervention and could really use a friend right now.