Thanks for coming back and clarifying. You seem like a very decent sort, and once you get (most of) the hurt out of your system, someone worthy of your affection is going to find you.
Well, appendix c.23 section 4 does allow for sleeping with a best friend’s girl under the “Option 6” clause. In order to be permissible, and to avoid charges of entrapment, the activity must be initiated by the girl, and agreed to by the friend with the sole intent of revealing her cheating propensities to the potential cuckold. It is strongly urged that the friend NOT enjoy the act and refrain from climax if at all possible. Should climax occur, cuddling and pillow talk are strictly forbidden and an immediate exit/dismissal is required. An undergarment should be confiscated as evidence of the act and presented to the cheat-ee within the hour. Although the friend did the dirty work in this effort, he is expected to buy drinks for the evening and provide for safe transport to a suitable and safe domicile for the next 24 hours. This time period may be reduced if the friend goes the extra mile and provides an acceptable replacement girl during the course of the evening.
Note: This activity is closely regulated by The Guy Commission. It is recommended that the friendship be established at least 5 years prior to engaging this option, and it should only be exercised if the friend believes the cuckold is too love-stricken/denial-prone to accept a simple “offer/declination” communique’. Option is not to be exercised more than once in any 8 year period for the same friend except under extreme circumstances which will be scrutinized by a special poker session of disinterested parties. Penalties for abuse/misuse of this option range from dissolution of the friendship to forfeitere of no less than one testicle.
d1a1s1, I think you have a good case to present to you local Guy chapter. I understand that the penalties in Hawaii are particularly harsh due to certain elements of Polynesian Guy Law being incorporated into the local code. Solidarity, brother!
Yeah that is definitely a violation of Guy Code.
What’s wrong with people is that some people only care about getting laid (or maybe creating drama). I care about getting laid too but for some people it’s almost like a drug or alchohol habit. People who are really into drugs or alchohol sometimes make shitty friends when it comes in conflict with their drinking or drug use - they miss appointments, they get too drunk to drive, other people have to care for them, etc. Same with sex. They might consider you a friend unless they like your girlfriend.
And it’s an easy situation to create since it’s easy for her to get comfortible hanging out with you and your friend. Next thing you know, she’s lonely because you are away or something, your friend who she is now close with is around and all of a sudden they think they have feelings or some shit.
Or the girl is just a big ho who will just screw whoever she can.
Some easy tips for avoiding this problem:
-Avoid dating skanks. If she cheated on her last five boyfriend, odds are she will do it again.
-Keep your ho on a tight leash. She needs to know there are consequences for stepping out of line.
-If it sounds sketchy, it is. In spite of what you may have heard, hetero guys don’t generally hang with girls they don’t want to get with.
-Keep multiple worlds like George Costanza. Relationship George and Friend George do not meet. There is no reason for your girlfriend to be hanging out with your friends like “one of the guys”. Next thing you know, d1a1s1’s cool girlfriend is “kinda hot”.
-If she gets mad at you for “not trusting her”, it’s because she’s feeling guilty about violating your trust.
-Keep her happy in bed. Lets face it. If you were doing it for her, she wouldn’t be out looking for more cock.
That’s all I got for now…
Again, thanks for the help and support. Ive talked to both of them, some, in the past few days. They say they are just friends but Im not buying that for a second. It doesnt matter. I really dont care what happened or is happening at this point. The line has been crossed and its impossible for me to ever trust either. So I think they are both aware that I dont want to have anything to do with them.
I am actually living in Italy now because the US Navy told me to. Its not bad. I met this girl here, actually at work. The frind of mine works for me. Talk about awkward situations in the passageway or when I have to interact with him for work related issues. Kind of funny really.
There were some excellent points made through out this thread and it has given me a lot to think about. So again, thanks.
Also, in regards to this happening to me more than once. I dont date skanks or hos…haha. I may have done something with one of the aformentioned but dating wasnt it. Being in the service your gone for long periods of time and trust me…its VERY hard to find a good girl around a military base that doesnt look elsewhere when your deployed. Every deployment Ive been on its either happened to me or a ton of other guys. I promise you somebody will have their wife cheat on them on deployment. This leads to a whole other topic though. Which I think could be an interesting one.
So in conclusion, yep, Im back in the dating pool. Lucky I can swim well…
I don’t know how new you are around here, d1a1s1, but feel free to ignore msmith when it comes to advice on how to treat women. Heaven knows we all do (it’s easier than pitting him each time he posts something.) Except for that bit about her getting angry at you for not trusting her - that was right on the money.
You have almost 6,000 posts here? How is that possible?
Well talking BS is not at all diametrically opposed to a high post count … 
Which is to say that I assume you think he’s talking some outrageously morose nonsense about relationships in which case I totally and utterly agree. 
You assume correctly.
Idunno. I think msmith made some good points. Not all, but mostly what he said was on the right track, although it could do without words like “ho,” and “skank.”
And the thing about keeping her happy in bed contradicts the first part of his post. If someone has an abnormal fixation on sex, it’s unreasonable to expect that the other person in the relationship should be able to fulfill that. But other than that, repeat cheaters probably will again, and both people have to trust one another, etc.