I used to have a thing for twinks (gay slang: for straight people, Zac Efron/Gerard Way/Leonardo DiCaprio and I suppose most currently perhaps David Archuleta [though ewwwww {not saying he’s ugly, but that’s he seems 17 going on 11} are examples of twinks). I’ll admit I definitely took notice of the semi-nude/rear nudity pics of Daniel “Harry Potter” Radcliffe that surfaced for EQUUS, but generally I prefer a far more mature “life experience” type; I think dating a much younger guy about 2 or 3 years ago may have been the changer. (I have to say, that while that guy [I’ll call him Eli] was definitely cute ina “Ryan Reynolds but not as toned” sort of way, it was his intellect that was the attraction.)
As with most people I prefer guys who are a lot better looking than I am of course . While I won’t lie and say that physical attractiveness isn’t important (not saying that everybody who says this is lying, just that in my case it would be), it’s equally important that they seem kind, intelligent, and funny as well. (I’ve said before that humor/compassion/intellect is the trifecta of a perfect human imo; it’s really easy to find 2/3 of this, but it’s a lot harder than you’d think to find 3/3- with Eli it was the compassion that was missing.)
Currently I think David Cook (this year’s American Idol winner) is the sexiest guy in TV. He’s cute (not drop dead gorgeous, but I think objectively cute once he had the makeover) but his personality and obvious intelligence put him way over a lot of much more attractive celebs who seem dummer than a bag of hair in interviews. Others would include Neil Patrick Harris (who seems a lot brighter than most actors and like a nice guy) and, of course, Johnny Depp, who I don’t think you’d have to be gay to be male and in love with.
Of course some guys are just objectively gorgeous. For example, Johnny Depp seems hysterically funny and quirky nice and intelligent, but he’d have to bathe in the blood of pandas not to be as near to objectively attractive as is possible, and while I’ve never seen Sendhil Ramamurthy interviewed, he’d have to be stumbling dumb and or say “Pat Robertson and John Hagee are the two greatest men in America” and “My goal is to leave acting and be the next Karl Rove” for me to consider him ugly. But even so, after a quickie or 18 I’d probably buy him a chinchilla coat and beg Doogie to take me back.
(Other than NPH I don’t think any of the above guys are gay, but since I’m not likely to run into any of them at Waffle House this week that part doesn’t really matter.)
To my above post add: I’ve no idea how nice they are, but I find both Stephen Colbert and Jon Stewart to be sexier than Orlando Bloom and Matthew McConaughey due to the intelligence/funny factors. (OTOH, hate to say it, but if Leslie Jordan or John Goodman or Steve Buscemi turned out to be kinder than Mr. Rogers and more intelligent than Stephen Hawking and funnier than Ernie Kovacs and gayer than than any three Garland/Minnelli husbands, then I’d love to have them for friends but they just don’t do it for me ‘romantically’; I’m way more shallow than I’d like to be. :rolleyes:, but I’m pretty much at the “Looks like it’s gonna be me and the dogs from now on, and I’m actually fine with that” stage of life. (OTOH, I find Peter Dinklage very attractive.)
Might as well mention my ***other ***type (actually there are many more than two):
Black-haired Mediterranean/Middle Eastern guys. Heavy black eyebrows (even monobrows), long black eyelashes, heavy 5-o’clock shadow, big brown eyes, hairy arms and legs, maybe some chest hair.
She doesn’t HAVE to be a petite mousy librarian; a firebrand freckled tomboy type does it for me too. Or a type I can only describe as “dusky”; these days she might be called Goth, but NO, makeup has nothing to do with it, she has straight dark hair, and is both pale and shadowy. Or…(this could go on for a while). JThunder has it, when I think about whether she’ll be interested in me:
While in practice, I think the personality and hobbies have a lot more to do with it, there are some physical aspects to my “type”.
Glasses.
Dark hair.
Short(er than me)
What I find interesting, though, is how often the girls on which I have crushes conform to the following - in most cases, without my knowledge, until much later on :
Artistic. (Drawing, or Writing…)
Bisexual. (And that’s the one that really ends up surprising me. I don’t know if bisexuals have some correlative personality trait that I pick up on or what.)
I like tall, lean guys whose intelligence is noticeable. Think Rob Petrie–lanky, professorial types (intellectually curious). I don’t like salesmen of any kind, even when I’m a customer. Sports nuts can go watch ESPN–I’ll never bother you.
I like (for lack of a better description) a slight twinkle in the eye–someone who looks like they could share a private laugh with me in a meeting or in a group of people. Well groomed, neat, clean clothes are a must.
Other than that, I don’t really care–I don’t find blonde men attractive. To me, there’s something Peter Pan about them.
I don’t like stocky or heavily muscled guys–I don’t care what you bench press and please don’t bore me with it. Tattoos are iffy at best: if you got while on a drunken shore leave or because it’s a symbol for your cousin who died, I suppose I won’t balk. If it it’s larger than a pack of cards, I don’t care why you have it–ugh.
I also don’t find excessively hairy men attractive. Balding is a non-issue.
Sense of humor, lack of arrogance and good manner will get you far.
Four female posters have mentioned shy or slightly shy as a turn on or type they would want to date.
I’m just curious as to why? Non threatening I can see , easy for you to get your way I can also see.
I was painfully shy and really still am but somehow I have managed to have actual females initiate contact with me . Which is a good thing since I am average at best even on my good days.
I know the nice guy thing has been done to death , but I’m not a nice guy. I’m just shy.
When it comes to first impressions, I’m a sucker for guys with big strong noses, an intelligent face and longish hair. My two long-term SO’s fit this description to a T.
Intelligence in a face (assuming I haven’t had the opportunity yet to talk with the guy) gets measured by how lively and varied his facial expressions are. That’s why George Clooney does nothing for me; the guy has about two settings to his face. Bo-ring.
Guys’ hair should be long enough to twirl a lock around my fingers, but ideally no longer then shoulder length.
Bonus for geeky or otherwise original clothing. Additional bonus points if the guy is enthusiastic, about anything.
I asked my friend from high school and boy scouts about this exact question when later he joined the army and came back to Hawaii on his R & R from Viet Nam during his first tour. It was before my first tour. He said he would be very happy to get a warm smile from a woman.
What he said. Plus a large or long nose. (I don’t know what is up with my fixation with noses, but a short nose – or worse, a short, blunt, porcine nose – is a serious turn-off for me.)
