Simple question.
I want your opinions/expertise on this matter please
Simple question.
I want your opinions/expertise on this matter please
I would say this is entirely a “Your Mileage May Vary” thing. My opinion would be that if you’ve been on more than 10 dates over a month or two, you’re probably in the cross-over zone.
You would need to give some info on the situation so we could assess the situation.
You know your a couple when you can pass gas around each other w/o grossing the other out…
But on a serious note…
Are you sleeping together?
Are the exchange of gifts?
Are plans being set for later dates?
and the list goes on…give the info and we’ll help
When one of you refers to the other as “my boy/girlfriend”. This would include in conversation with you. Otherwise, you’ll just have to ask.
The transition happens unnoticed during the first hour you spend popping zits on his back.
Well, it may be like what U. S. Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart supposedly said in 1964…“I can’t define pornography, but I know it when I see it.” :dubious: Here, you just substitute porn for “boyfriend.” Hmmm.
I always thought it was if he called back after sex.
Too flippant? Cause it’s only half in jest…
I wasn’t really asking this for me. Just a little curious about people’s views and opinions on this matter. It’s a pretty general poll.
But, since you’re nosy and wanted to know ;)…
I’ve known him for a month or so.
We don’t go out much, only five times since I met him (averages out to be ~1/week)
Not sleeping together (yet, hopefully)
I paid for a movie on his birthday, which was ~second week after I met him. I don’t know if this qualifies as a gift. I see it more like a treat.
Ever since I met him, we’ve talked on the phone or online every night except for this past three days where he seems to have gone missing a little.
As far as I know, he’s still wants to see me, but I can’t always be 100% sure of that. Because, well, you know… guys. :rolleyes:
That’s about all I can think of to tell you. Feel free to access my situation, but I still want some general opinions (ex. “After three months, the transistion happens.” or “Until you have sex”)
I guess my definition, is if you have had sex and expect to have sex again then they are a boy/girlfriend. Before that you are just dating. The problem is boy/girlfriend can conotate monogammy with that person, and so my definiton does not work when talking to people who use the term differently.
What do you do if you’re living with a guy? Is he still your boyfriend?
I had to fill out school registration forms where I had to define the relationship of the guy I was living with (he’s an emergency contact). “My Boyfriend” sounds so juvenile. Friend? SO? Lover??
When you don’t want to date anyone else then he becomes your boyfriend.
e.g. "No, I can’t date you, I have a boyfriend.’
If you are asked out by guys you can just say that you aren’t free to date now.
I think the main criterion is exclusivity. If you both agree that you don’t want to date anyone else, then you’re boyfriend/girlfriend. Otherwise, you’re just dating. For me, I also wouldn’t call someone a girlfriend unless we were sleeping together, but I’m past the point where I’ll date someone for months before having sex. (Actually, I’m past the point of dating at all, but you know what I mean.)
Yep, I’m with handy, exclusivity would be what does it for me.
When everyone at work says you’re married, you might as well give and consider youselves boyfriemd/girlfriend. (I’m not big on ‘titles.’ We are what we are)
I personally believe in having the “are we seeing other people?” “no?” “So you are my boyfriend?” conversation.
haha
But then, I’m assertive so that’s never been a problem. haha
Well for me it’s when I don’t want to go chasing other tail and am happy with the one person.
But like everyone else is pretty much saying, if you both decide that you want to not date other people than you have crossed into the land of bf/gf.
This can take anywhere from a month to a year, my advise is the longer it takes on the average the more stable the relationship will be.
In the relationship I’m in now, we were “boyfriend and girlfriend” from the moment we were dateing. Although we were friends for 2 years first!
It definitly varies from relationship to relationship, when the “boyfriend and girlfriend” title appears.
I don’t think it has anything to do with the sex. But when you don’t want to be with anyone else also.
You just pray to God they feel the same way!