redtail, I am so sorry that you took my comment to be anything other than just good-natured ribbing. When I use the word “coy,” I mean it as flirty and mischievous - certainly no ulterior undertones implied. I do sincerely apologize if you misread my intent.
I’ll tell you why I said what I said. Originally, you wrote:
Assuming you were doing a big of ribbing yourself, that sounded a bit {wink-wink} to me, so I classified that as “coy” - there really wasn’t a direct answer to the question of orientation, so not wanting to put you somewhere where you didn’t belong in my facetious categories, I put you in that nebulous one.
Then you said:
So you don’t like “omnisexual” as it implies more than just liking men and women - but then you say you don’t care which term one might use to describe you. That’s why I replied by saying:
Please understand there was a 
and a {nudge nudge} in there! 
Again, I meant “coy” as you being vague to be a little teasing and a little taunting - in a good way!
You then went on to agree with Suzeanne when she said:
Now, from a purely scientific classification standpoint, if we’re talking hetero-, homo- or bisexual, being attracted to both sexes makes one bisexual. This does not, however, necessarily speak to your sexual identity, which is more than just your sexual orientation. Maybe that’s what’s at issue here?
So all that said, let’s look at some of the things you wondered about what you felt when you read all this:
This might be it, as I said. IIRC, sexual identity is more than just orientation - it also has to do with gender identity, sexual activity preferences, turn-ons, self-image, self-assurance, and a whole host of other things that make up your sexual personage. (And no, it was most certainly not a judgment - please don’t take it that way!)
Well, I don’t have a problem with your or Suzeanne’s answers - I was just making an observation and poking fun. Really.
What does “coy” mean to you?
What does that stand for?
Excellent question, and I’d love to hear people’s responses.
More than reclaiming the word, to me it is simply a more inclusive term. First of all, writing “gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, questioning and straight supporters” while writing a newsletter article about 50 times gives you hand cramp. I used to use “lesbigay” meaning “lesbian-bisexual-gay,” but that doesn’t inclued TS or ?ing. For me, “queer” does that nicely. Secondly, there are a lot more people, as you yourself do, whose sexual identity does not clearly fall into even those broad categories, or they simply aren’t comfortable labelling themselves as such - “queer” is as broad as you can get in the arena of “alternate” sexual identity, if you will. (Heck, it sort of goes to “freaks,” too - I have lots of friends in the Goth/freak/PIB subculture, and now that you mention it, they don’t really fall into the les-bi-gay-trans-? categories, either - the straight guys will kiss me with tongue, everybody’s very touchy-feely, and you simply can’t figure out who’s into what until you ask.)
{hee hee} Yeah, we are, ain’t we? Me, I get riled up over the Jeezers, when it really shouldn’t bother me all that much. Oh, well - what are ya gonna do? 
I hope that helps. I’m very sorry, again, for the confusion.
Esprix
