I never understood that at all. I am supposed to care if a woman got home safe and she has no interest in a second date? And if she has no interest in a 2nd date then she is nothing but a stranger and I’m not concerned about people I don’t know.
This is why i hate dating
Basic human decency, I think.
Decent human beings are concerned even about people they actually don’t know, which is not even the true case here.
You become the first suspect when she turns up dead or goes missing.
you have a point
I don’t need to know about someone getting home I am never going to talk to again
I’m sure some women will be attracted to people who lack empathy, so you never know, maybe you’ll get a second date at some point?
I’m just sick of thinking they text me because they are interested and then after that I never get another text
What njtt said. Try talking to women about safety. Women are more vulnerable to random violence than men, partly because of physical size and strength, partly because of culture (have you ever tried to run in a dress and high heels?). Women typically watch out for each other in social situations, and are more careful when out alone at night.
Now, if women do that for each other as a matter of course, why wouldn’t a man extend the same courtesy?
In other words, it’s not necessarily part of dating. It’s part of being human. You may not care whether she gets robbed or raped once she’s of no further use to you, but the polite thing is not to communicate your lack of concern to her.
Did you mean (in your subject question) “if they never plan to see me again”? Your discussion makes more sense that way.
In either case, a quick text exchange is polite and caring and far less “involving” than a call might have been, now or in some prior era. I would say it’s necessary any time you leave a date off anywhere but entering her home or apartment.
if it’s someone I’m attracted to and want to see again then yes
Then you are a psychopath, or at the very least a huge asshole.
She showed good judgement in turning you down.
LOL, out of the plethora of things that suck about dating, THIS is the thing that sticks in your craw?
Being polite is not required if you have no interest in a 2nd date
You don’t care about people you don’t know?
Yes because I got a text recently saying “it was a pleasure meeting me” and I thought I had a second date
If you have any part in the reason why they are moving about that that time and place, then you have some responsibility for how safely they proceed to their next safe haven. When you started the date, you assumed some responsibility for their safety and well-being, and that does not fully end until they have reached their next safe base.
Why should I?
See, this is why a lot of women do the “fade-away” when they’re not interested in dating someone. Let your date know more bluntly that you’re not interested in more and with some guys it’s a tiny, tiny step from ‘I don’t have to be polite’ / ‘why should I care if she gets home safe’ to ‘fuck you, bitch’ to worse.
Explore it yourself. Play it out. We’ll wait.
Basic human decency?