Maybe its because Asian males have smaller…cars?
Or maybe (less likely) supposedly 1 in every 6 people is Chinese?
Or maybe cause Asian females can (supposedly) contract, down…there.
And my final theory;
White guys have a thing for hot Japanese Anime females! ( I know i do) And an asian female is the closest thing to an anime asian female.
Ethnic women date, mate and marry white men because such behavior is considered to be “moving up the racial scale” and encouraged. This is similar to marrying into money, or status, or fame.
There is no such familial and societal pressure on men, at least not to the same degree. Men aren’t supposed to marry into anything, they’re supposed to make their own way in the world. So men date, mate and marry whoever they want.
What the hell are you talking about? Are you actually saying that other races consider the white race to be superior? If so, you might as well just cease posting here for all the support you’re going to get.
Have you explored The BBQ Pit lately?
Here’s support.
Are you actually threatening me through Argumentum ad Baculum into agreeing with the general sentiment on the board, or else?
Not that, idiot. I’m talking about your proposed reason for this dichotomy:
"Ethnic women date, mate and marry white men because such behavior is considered to be “moving up the racial scale”
Explain this load of crap, please.
No, I’m telling you that posters with your sort of attitude historically have a short lifespan here. Eventually your lies and misrepresentations will catch up with you. You’re entitled to your opinion, but knowingly posting false information is taken seriously here.
I am the product of a White Male/Asian Female marriage. I know that in my mother’s case, she ended up with a white man not because she was only attracted to white men, but she moved far away from home where there were not many Asian men. She ended up living in Germany for a year and then went to grad school in Michigan. My mother is an Asian American though, born and raised in a Chinese family in Hawaii, so there are actually a other whole can of worms opened when you consider than she would not fit into a ‘traditional’ Chinese family very well. I don’t think race was an issue; she met my (white) dad, fell in love, and they’ve been that way ever since.
My uncle (mom’s brother), and Asian male, has dated White women his whole life. He’s married to one.
My mom’s sister, Asian female, is married to an Asian male. But when they first got married, she raised hell setting up the rules of equality when his mother tried to make their relationship more ‘traditional’ (basically demandng that she wait on her husband hand and foot). She put her foot down and it worked out (luckily it was his mother that was into the traditional roles, not him).
I myself, being half Asian, am in a relationship with a white guy. I have never dated an Asian guy…not because I don’t like them, just because I meet and get to know more white guys (probably has something to do with having lived most of my life in a white suburb too).
Another reason…maybe it’s because of the fact that a lot of white guys are into Asian girls.
Quite the contrary. It’s because white women usually don’t find Asian men to be attractive. Just look at the media, for example. How many Asian men can you name who are regularly described as “heartthrobs” or “sex symbols,” or who have been featured on the cover of Tiger Beat?
Interestingly enough, whenever I bring this up, there are invariably a bunch of men and women who say, “What are you talking about? There are plenty of Asian men who fit that description!” When I ask them to name one though, I always get one of two responses:
“Well, there’s that guy from this movie. I can’t remember his name.”
OR
“Well, what about Jackie Chan?”
:rolleyes:
I have seen about as many white women who are into Asian guys as I have the opposite. There are Asian some guys who really like big breasts or blonde hair, but generally they prefer their own.
bout the comment about marrying to move up the social ladder. i am not trying to be racist and am very sorry if it comes across that way.
It has seemed to me if you get a white person, male or female living as an expat, worker or tourist, in a forgien asian country, they are seen as good targets by local members of the oposite sex, often, and sorry yeah i guess this is harsh, but because they have money and are in a way passports for the person who marries them. So in a way they are marrying up the socal ladder.
I think ppl should also remember that marrage for social reasons rather then love is much more common in asia then in the west or among westernised asians.
plus to be a bit racist to the whites now, i think there are alot of guys who partner up with asian girls for just for the sex even if they may realise they are being used as a passport and money tree in the process. Keeping an asian girl can be pretty cheap as long as she stays were she is. (harsh but then not all of us are nice ppl)
sorry it this offends anyone, asian or white or any other of the miriad of colors we have on offer. i dont mean to say any race is cheap or easy or anything like that, but i do think that in places were ppl are poor and desperate(economically), the money, education and hope of escape that expats bring with them, make them attractive as dating targets.
also while asian male might have a thing bout being dominant, asian females can alse be pretty gentle, and so white guys fed up with liberated western women can find them appealing.
Kreg, prepare to be threatened by senior board members into shutting up or getting banned.
They hate to hear that ethnic races do indeed think of the white race as a step up, for racial, social, economic, legal, and other reasons. They like to think that people only marry for love. What fools!
I am a product of a WF/AM marriage. Dad is shorter than Mom.
I don’t think it had anything to do with racial superiority or class, sorry.
I just want to stick up for the couple of people who dared to suggest there may be racism at work in the OP phenomenon. Q.E.D., I think it’s your attitude that is disgusting, and I don’t care if you have a hundred times as many posts as I do. I think Giggle Gaggle and Kreg are raising a valid point, and there is no need for personal insults.
I wonder why it’s okay to suggest that white men go after asian girls for their supposed submissiveness, but it’s not okay to suggest asian girls go after white guys for a stereotypical racial quality. Taking a guess here would be out of line, but think about it.
On the other hand, I think those reasons are untrue. I’ve noticed the phenomenon, and I think it’s largely due to two things already mentioned: 1) height; 2) quiet, nerdy girls are cute, while quiet, nerdy guys are dorks (cuteness being less attractive in men). There are guys out there with an asian fetish, but surely there are girls with one, too, so that would only be a factor in individual cases.
I agree, though the class and prestige factor applies much, much more in Asia than in the US, which I guess most posters can’t identify with. Sometimes it’s as minor as a “trophy white boyfriend,” sometimes you really do see the stereotypical “out for a green-card” snakes at work.
It is about money. In the poor parts of the world, whites (or expats, for that matter) equate money.
I’m not sure that this is true. When there’s big economic gap b/w population, marrying the rich and powerful can be seen as the only way to get out of poverty.
Just a form of prostitution. Again some of the poor might view this as the only way to escape poverty.
I hate to admit it, Q.E.D., because I respect you, but I think you overreacted. Giggle Gaggle has a point, and although it’s a politically incorrect one, it’s a valid point nonetheless. No, I can’t give a cite, but I do think she has a valid social point.
There are several stereotypes at work here:
I’m not saying any of these statements are true or even possess a shred of truth, but here at the Straight Dope, we should be able to discuss stereotypes without losing our wigs.
Well, here’s a little support here. Gaggle’s observation is far from mere opinion; white supremacist attitudes in dating and socialization are quite prevalent around the world. In fact, the idea that Asian women view marrying whites as marrying “up” is thrown around as common knowledge, and I’m surprised you’ve never heard of it. Even white posters here have told about their experiences being mobbed by Asian women when visiting Asian countries. I’m familiar with it from the gay angle, in any of the international chatrooms a gay.com, you’ll see a majority “preferences” such as “GAM for GWM”, “GBM for GWM”, etc. Of course [many people of] other races think the white race is superior, where the hell have you been? I personally think it’s sad and pathetic, but what are you going to do?
Before my boyfriend and I visited Singapore we were warned by many of my Singaporean friends about local girls who might try to poach him away. These women perceive Western men as being wealthier, better endowed status symbols, and won’t even consider dating a non-white guy. Certainly they view dating white men as a “step up” and I often saw average-looking, middle-aged men with young, striking Asian women. I say striking because I never saw them with beautiful, or even pretty women - just a strange observation I guess.
Among my Asian female friends, the ones who have mainly white friends and who don’t speak much Chinese tend to be the ones who go out with white guys, simply because they’re dating from a pool of their friends and friends’ friends. Whereas the ones who mainly hang out with other Asians and speak to each other in Chinese tend to have Asian boyfriends.
My parents couldn’t care less what colour my boyfriend is - all they know is that “ta dui ni hen hao” (I’m not 100% sure of the pinyin spelling, but it translates to “he treats you very well”). On the other hand, one of my parents’ friends thinks of us dating as a step down for me, and told my parents “well, it’s okay as long as she doesn’t marry him”. I think he’s a step up and he thinks that I’m a step up, so really we’re both getting a bargain. 
Considering the white race to be superior to others has resulted in the slaughter of many throughout history - so it’s way more nasty than the other sterotypes being discussed in this thread, IMHO. I’m with Q.E.D. on this one.