I would think a college app would require a phone contact number. At school, we have to have a working number for each student…what if they fall and have to be rushed to emergency, etc.? And wouldn’t it be a flag for things like credit? I mean, if you have no phone number, they assume you can’t manage to pay for it every month (disconnected for non-payment, irresponsible, living hand-to-mouth, whatever) and are a bad credit risk.
As this point, you gotta flat-out ask her what’s up between the two of you. You gotta know where you stand, and if she wants things to continue, then what’s so gouche about giving me (i.e., you - the OP) your (her) phone number?
Just don’t start asking us for our phone numbers.
Yeah, great thread. Although as someone who is fast approaching 50 and has been married since I was about, oh, 12 or so, I am really really really really really glad I don’t have to date anymore.
Good luck.
During that first-coffee “questionnaire” period (maybe people only do this with me, but it always involves a back-and-forth questioning), I asked if she was single, and shortly afterward we planned the play / drinks / dance night. I think I was overoptimistic, but there are worse things in life :p. I expect the next time we hang out I’ll bring up the subject, just to clear the air. At worst, I’ve made a friend.
I hate to quote Barry Manilow, but sometimes it’s best to be a “cautious pessimist” about these things. Best of luck, though!