The title says it all. What the hell is with women and their uncanny timing to somehow find you when you are dating someone. Women, how can you do it? I ask this cause I watched my brother come into a lucky lady after 3 months of nothing. The following week, I go into his house and proceed to hear his message box full with at least 4 diffrent women asking when they are going out.
I have had more than my share of women sniffing out the “I am seeing someone” just by look so I feel for him.
So anyone have the lowdown? Personally, I think its a targeting reticule ala Terminator that lights up on us when single women walk down the street
Single…
Single…
Single…
BEEP…target is with someone…SEEK AND DESTROY.
I don’t think this is a talent only women have. Perhaps when a person is involved they have a more secure and confident aura which is attractive to others.
IMHO, women like a challenge. Plus, because the target is already taken, they can test their flirting techniques on them, so that they know what works when they really need it.
Also, some women like to fail. They like the whole forbidden, unrequited love, moping to their friends that “all the good ones are either Gay or taken”. Whatever floats your boat.
I am stuck in the middle of this very situation.
a friend of the girl I am currently seeing is really flirting heavily with me. Not in a “take me now” sort of way, but is very touchey feely, very involved kind of way. My girl knows about this, and actually sees her friends efforts as being quite hillarious. She trusts me, and actually was the first one to point it out to me. I dont want to hurt the girls feelings, as I think she is a cool gal. My girl look on it like this. She could get mad, but thinks that will only cause trouble. So instead, she is having fun, watching my reactions to her friends attention. If it gets serious, my girl will step in and end it.
Women… you are all a mistery to me.
All of my female friends used to complain that no one was interested in them until they finally met someone they really liked and started dating. Then, men were asking them out all the time.
I really think that when you’re in a happy relationship, you look more confident, and almost glow. Thus, making you more attractive to others.
It was always been feast or famine back in my dating days. Either nobody was interested or a whole flock was. I agree with you, iola, that when you start seeing someone, you get “switched on” and other people catch that. Plus, if you were alone and looking for someone before, you may have been giving off those desperate oh-please-won’t-someone-like-me vibes that turn off prospective targets.
I have known a couple people who seemed to like the power of trying to break up a happy couple, but it’s not a sex-linked trait, just a self-esteem issue.
I had a friend in college who had a very comprehensive, coherent theory about this. (Large quantities of beer helps to develop such theories, and make them sound comprehensive and coherent). Anyway, I can’t do it justice, but it was based around pheromones. Men, once they get into even a semi-committed relationship begin to emit the “monogamy” pheromone. This ‘scent’ drives women wild, and makes the man appear much more attractive to women who pick up the scent. There was a fair bit of evolutionary theory that went into this, but being at work (and therefore beerless) I won’t go into it now. Ah, college. Ah, beer. Ahhhhh, women!