Women and Sexuality

In My Humble Opinion
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Perhaps the denizens of the Straight Dope Message Boards are hornier than average, but there’s something happening here which I’ve noticed in other venues.

Women talk openly and happily about how horny they are and how interested they are in getting laid.

Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but it seems to me that even ten years ago this was not the case, or at least it was FAR less prevalent.

I LOVE IT. :stuck_out_tongue:

Sexual-empowerment for women will do a lot for the species, methinks. Among other kinds of empowerment for women as well–whose significant virtues I do not mean to neglect–are such things as political and financial empowerment; but let’s focus on the topic at hand.

Women, expressing their sexuality openly, enthusiastically, forthrightly.

Women, do you feel that Western society as a whole is more accepting of female sexuality than it once was? Are there things you’re willing to discuss openly in mixed company that you once would have blushed at telling your closest female friend?

I’m just curious. And, of course, eager for true gender equality, and not merely in sexual matters. Are we edging toward this in the domain of sex, slowly but surely and oh so wonderfully?

Knorf

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** Women, do you feel that Western society as a whole is more accepting of female sexuality than it once was? **

I think so, not as much as it could though. There are still those who believe that a man who has X numbers of sexual partners is a stud and a woman who has the same number of partners is a slut. But that is changing too

** Are there things you’re willing to discuss openly in mixed company that you once would have blushed at telling your closest female friend? **

Hmmm, yes I suppose so, after all this board is mixed company and there isn’t much that I haven’t talked about here. And I have been known to be very open IRL too.

I think that as time goes on each generation of women will be more willing/able to discuss sexual matters. For example …
My Grandmother looked at sex as just something a woman ** had ** to do for her husband. It was a duty. Ladies didn’t ever have sex with anyone they were not married to. They didn’t talk about it and for sure it not something to be enjoyed.

My Mother and her sisters on the other hand were a little more open to sex before marriage but not by much. They don’t talk about it much, except to say they don’t like it much. Sex is ** never ** discussed in mixed company. One of my Aunts has to start cleaning something, anything if there is sex talk going on.
I was having a conversation with my Mother not long ago and I asked her if she had ever had sex that was so good it made her want to climb the walls backward by her toe nails. She looked at me like I was insane and said no. I feel sorry for her, maybe if she had ever had great sex she would not feel the way she does
about it.

Then there are my sisters, cousins ect. We have almost all had more than one partner, we do talk about it, but never in a family male/female miix. And from the conversations some of us have had most of us do enjoy sex.

Last but not least there are our children , nieces/nephews. They are even more open in discussing sexual matters. My future daughter-in-law has discussed the sexual part of their relationship with me. While it does make me feel a little strange when she does this I am very happy that she is comfortable enough with me to do so (I guess)

** I’m just curious. And, of course, eager for true gender equality, and not merely in sexual matters. Are we edging toward this in the domain of sex, slowly but surely and oh so wonderfully? **
Yes I think so slowly, ever so slowly.

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I’m reminded of George Carlin. “Why is it rude to discuss fucking in mixed company? That’s where it takes place!”

I’m a guy, but I’m very curious to see the other replies to this thread.

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I can be pretty frank with people willing to be just as open with me.

I can be just as circumspect around those for whom that is more comfortable.

I actually find that those who are willing to have the open conversations are either females, or “connected” males (men in relationships). Those who are more comfortable with circumspection are either unconnected men, or people with whom my acquaintance does not invite such discussion.

I think Ayesha has a point about the generations, although the person who makes me blush most is my granny. She told me that the part of her marriage to my grandfather was all the practise before the babies came.

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Men and women have been so misunderstood over the ages.

Though, men are much easier to understand.

Yes, you have identified a good trend, OP. Let’s hope it’s permanent.

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I think that, given the right comfort level, and the right questions, any woman is able to talk frankly and openly about sex. I’ve also noticed that, in a mixed group, it’s the men that seem more embarrassed about explicit discussions. My sister and I were matter of factly discussing oral sex, and I thought my BIL had burst a blood vessel, his face was so red.
But, as someone who has been around the block long enough to own property, yes, I can honestly say I’ve seen the attitude toward sexually aware women change. We aren’t sluts, we’re simply more in touch with our bodies (no pun intended), and, being the social animals that we are, sharing this information can be very reaffirming.

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How much of it is just talk? People tend to behave the way society seems to expect them to, even if they don’t actually FEEL that way.

I can believe that many women would TALK about sex simply because it was the fashion of the times, even if they actually wished they could have babies by parthenogenesis.

For example, all my female friends have discussed their sex lives openly with me… a male friend. And I didn’t even ASK them about it… each of them brought it up on her own. Most of my dates brought up sex in the initial phone conversations, too.

However, though they all CLAIM to be incredibly horny and sexual, their actual BEHAVIOR ranges from “genuinely slutty” to “waiting until I meet Mr. Perfect and get married”.

One close friend actually told me that, while she “really LOVES sex” (her words), she needs the lights off because the sight of her husband’s body turns her off. There’s not even anything WRONG with the guy’s body… it’s just that male bodies don’t appeal to her.
That doesn’t sound very sexual to ME…