I think women greatly underestimate the amount of disgust men feel towards friendships and emotional support. The question, then, is why do men provide these things? Well, it’s a transaction. If a woman gives him enough sex, he will give her friendship and emotional support in return. He doesn’t feel any pleasure in it, he just knows that it makes his woman happy, and if she’s happy then he’s happy.
Which brings us to the dreaded friend zone. Why is the friend zone so horrible for men? Well, it’s two-fold: The first thing is that a man expects to get something in return for his emotional investment, namely sex. In the context of platonic friendships, the women takes it for free, she gives him nothing. This is obviously bad for him. The second is that men find women’s minds repulsive. In order to be able to engage with a woman’s mind, he first needs to think of it as a necessary part of a sexual object, no matter how disgusting he finds it. In platonic friendships there is no sex, and having to talk to women, deal with their “feelings”, and being forced to watch chick flicks, is as painful and excruciating as pulling teeth while doing your taxes.
But without a doubt, the most obvious example is when we hear of those frequent cases of men who never call a woman back as soon as she has given up sex. The vast majority men erupt in ecstatic cheers of happiness when they hear anecdotes about this, regardless of their political stances. It a man had hurt a women emotionally in any any other way, like called her fat or run over her dog, most men would either condemn it or they wouldn’t care. But when it’s specifically about having sex with a women and and then not sticking around to invest in a relationship, men around the world love it and call him a stud. “Good on him! That is so awesome! More men should do it! I wish I could bang lots of chicks and never see them again afterwards, too!” If this doesn’t show the real amount of disgust and revulsion men have towards women’s minds and emotional needs, nothing does.
The problem is that most women don’t want to believe this. They don’t want to believe that the person who provides them with friendship and support, both emotional and material, who comforts them in bad times and shares their joys in good times, and who even helps bring up their children, has such a lowly view of them. So they’ll deny it, or they don’t want to think about it. They’ll give replies like: “You don’t know men”, or “it’s just you who have a dreadful personality, men love mine”, no matter how much evidence you show them.
