What products survive in a commercial marketplace? Those that sell. Why do they sell? Because they are attractive to the consumer. What about the product is attractive to the consumer? Size? Shape? Color? Texture? Value? Price? Quality? Time To Market?
Imagine a consumer, for example, who buys a 12 inch model, and, as you say, uses only half of it. Were smaller models available? If yes, why was the choice made as it was? Maybe (for the consumer in this example) there is an attraction to size even if that preference isn’t driven 100% by practicality. […] No, that can’t be. Reality and Fantasy often correlate directly, especially when sex is involved. The 12 inch model was probably just on sale.
I want one that’s not so long that it slams into my cervix. That shit doesn’t just hurt, it nauseates me. Other than that, I don’t care. It’s not even on my top ten list of important things for sexytime. I suspect most women haven’t voted because most women don’t give a damn.
Is this one of those things, like how women supposedly wear makeup for each other? Do men just arbitrarily worry about their dick size because you all have decided it matters?
A lot of legit evidence seems to support that men’s sexuality has a large visual component. Men also apply a simple-minded bigger-is-better approach to almost everything from height to pick-up trucks. Men are competitive critters, where pecking (heh :)) order matters a lot.
Put those three together and men will see a size-based sexual competition with other men in whatever factors are visually obvious. The end result is a collective male fetish for big dicks on guys and big tits on gals.
Regardless of whether women share either interest.
My theory is that men want bigger dicks because more surface area equals “more feeling per stroke” or something equally dubious, and that bigger around equals a tighter feeling vagina. None of the motivation is for pleasing women. Hell, there’s a bunch of porn based around women saying “it’s too big, I don’t think it will fit”.
Snug is good. Plus the male “logic” behind the old joke that goes Her: Who ya gonna please with that thing?
Him: <big grin> Me.applies just as much to the big guys as the small ones.
My ex used to like the occasional bump there, though I suspect I was just touching rather than pounding on that door. But she’d get all het up when I knocked nicely.
That would make sense on the principle of people preferring almost anything slightly to the favorable side of a distribution curve; with the median by definition being average, unexceptional, nothing special.
Your argument is an excellent argument as to why dildo sales are a good guide to what people prefer when buying a dildo. Unless a man is bringing a dildo to the bedroom rather than a penis, I don’t think dildo preferences are too relevant.
For example, maybe women buy dildoes a bit longer so that when it’s fully inserted they still have something to hang onto. You will note this is not an issue with a penis, unless you have one that can accidentally detach.
I recall reading *The Happy Hooker *back when it was published in the very liberated and pre-herpes & doubly pre-HIV 1970s. A good time was had by many then.
In one section the author / protagonist is instructing the reader in learning to deep throat. She warns against practicing with cucumbers & bananas since they can get stuck and choking is a real hazard. I still remember the witty rest of her caution: “… unlike a penis that comes with this convenient handle shaped like a man.”
Still makes me grin after all these years. So now I’m just a handle?
My personal experience with this is with my husband. If he bumps into my cervix with his penis - I have to be in a specific position for it to happen - it’s not necessarily painful, but it is somewhat uncomfortable. He has, however, inserted his finger (not sure which one :p) inside of my cervix various times. That, for me, is surprisingly pleasurable.
