Tried it once back when I was young and experimental. Won’t do that again. Made me appreciate just how hard it has to be for gay people to pretend to be straight. The gender you are attracted to is hard-wired. Some people can swing both ways but I can’t.
“The College Try” by Garfunkel and Oates
Nope. I’ve never had romantic feelings for another woman.
Put me down for a no.
Despite my previous posts concerning that one guy, I am not so arrogant to say I’d always, 100% say no. I’m open to the idea if the absolute right guy came along. Just because I can’t see it happening or even know what “the right guy” even means, it doesn’t mean I can see into the future. Shit changes. People change. I change. But extrapolating from the past, let’s say 99% I’d say no.
Yeah, seriously folks… while I think it is entirely OK to assert that hetero is the majority, it’s rather ostentatiously pigheaded to go around saying “everyone” is like you.
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My own reply:
I’m not attracted to the same sex. I don’t currently have a really close relationship with someone of the same sex as friend, companion, etc. But I once did. It was nice, it was special. He did, in fact, want to do sexual things together. We were both young and inexperienced and I wasn’t entirely averse to trying stuff, a lot of which was phrased as “imagine it’s a girl…” because I think neither of us had had that yet. But I didn’t take to it. In all honesty I pretty soon felt like I’d prefer it if we didn’t do that and I could take care of my own nerve endings on my own if I didn’t have a girlfriend. But be that as it may, we did have a relationship. It wasn’t primarily sexual but it wasn’t much reduced in importance because of that or anything. I think “more than friends” applies. The futzing around with sexual stuff kind of broke us up as friends. I wish we hadn’t gone there, not because it was all horrible and disgusting or anything but because it got between us instead of bringing us closer together.
No, I’m not into women. And I think it would ruin our friendship, sadly, because I would feel really shitty about it. I’ve had guy friends who were interested in me and I didn’t feel the same way, and it ALWAYS turned out bad. 
But you have a husband!?!
The thread title says “your good/best same sex friend”. If what the OP meant was actually more along the lines of “your good/best friend of a gender you’re not sexually oriented towards”, I think it would make more sense for them to say so explicitly than to expect panache45 or other gay posters to rewrite the question to make it more inclusive.
Oh sure, NOW I have a husband. But before…
It happened many times when I was younger. I have no attraction to females, so at best we remained friends, sometimes very close friends.
I considered being all inclusive in my thread title, but it didn’t fit the storyline of the drama that got me thinking about the quesiton.
Also, there are some details that were clear in my mind/interpretation of the storyline, that I didn’t put in my OP.
In a nutshell, could Hajin (the object of affection) have had a true loving relationship with Yujin (the girl who was in love with her), rather than the pity turned into love relationship with Taesuk (Hajin’s object of affection).
The point of my OP was that for someone seeking love (either first love or post multi-heartbreak loves), does their sexual orientation/preference matter, especially if sexual interaction isn’t required or desired?
Well, I and my oldest friend are both gay women. But if she professed her love for me I’d run a mile - she’s like my sister, eww.
Or if he shaves. According to your wise man.
No, I would not pursue the relationshiop, and would break off seeing the person. Not because of any ick factor, I would be flattered. But I am straight, and would not want to hurt the person who was in love with me by staying friends and giving them false hope. zit would not be fair to them.
Arrogant? I know 100% my answer would be know. I know myself very well. How is that arrogance, though?
No, because it would be too weird.
I don’t know what “more” refers to in the above, if sex is off the table. Emotional intimacy? That is included in my definition of “friend”. Romantic feelings? I don’t have romantic feelings toward men.
Yeah, it counts towards something. Just not something that I can or want to pursue.
I have gay friends, I have even had a gay friend make a pass at me, back in the day when I was single. I wasn’t horrified, and it didn’t even end the friendship (he moved away a year or so later). But the answer is still “no thank you”.
Regards,
Shodan
I’m asexual, so it’s no regardless of the sex of the crusher.
I lost a good friend because she wanted a lesbian relationship with me.
No, because, when my roommate during my first year in college told me exactly that, I didn’t do it. LOL
Actually, if he had a mustache I wouldn’t even let him blow me while I was passed out.
Why not make it inclusive? The storyline was about two girls, and you didn’t have a problem generalize it to both genders. Why couldn’t you generalize it to people with same sex attraction?