Yes, by all means, let's waste the government agency's time. (DSS)

The BBQ Pit
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Look bitch, the truth is after the stunt you pulled on that poor girl in April, the way you humiliated her, I think I did start subconsciously distancing myself. But people said I shouldn’t judge a situation that had nothing to do with me, so I dealt with it. I also tried to be good and turn the other cheek when I heard rumors that you called me a bad mother, accused me of ignoring my kids, and said that my “intelligence made me arrogant”. I tried to write that off as frustration, after all, you did recently lose custody of your own child. Your lashing out at my parenting skills was simply a way of making yourself feel better, and I know I’m not a bad mother, so why get upset?

Then you started posting nasty stuff on Facebook and freaking out on me for essentially no reason. You accused me of thinking I was better than you because I’ve just started school, which was an accusation not based in fact. So a minor little squabble over a mass message you didn’t like turned into a knock down drag out. These things happen, although I feel bad for it. You called me every name in the book, made fun of me for being all of 50 pounds overweight, pulled the bad mother card again, and just generally said cruel nasty things. No big deal, I gave as good as I got at times. I figured our friendship was over, we have totally different values. I blocked you, told you I hoped you would be happier in the future, and called it a day. Another friend of ours is pursuing legal action against you for threatening her husband, but again, has nothing to do with me, I’m moving on. When my password was mysteriously changed the day after our argument, I contacted Facebook, got back into my account, and became even more determined to rise above.

Then I’m told today that I should have advance notice that you evidently are planning to contact CPS, because you feel my children aren’t safe with me. You being up all kinds of tiny things that are largely irrelevant. You aren’t the brightest bulb in the box, and you have no idea how the world works. You think CPS will care that I read when my kids are playing, but they won’t. I feed them, clothe them, hug them, and then they play. I’m not sure why that qualifies as “emotional neglect” in your book, but whatever. I have nothing to worry about, but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t still going to be a pain in the ass for me.

So let me just tell you this, CPS isn’t a weapon. It’s a much needed and overworked institution that keeps children safe. Children who are in real danger, not loved and happy children like mine. If a child dies or is seriously hurt because the social worker who has to see me is consequently not able to get to a real case until it’s too late, you don’t care. Your vindictiveness and bitterness reign supreme, and when you get this way, there is no logic that will penetrate your thick skull. All you know is that if you had to lose your child, then someone else has to lose theirs. There’s no reason in that, but you continue that line of thinking anyway. CPS doesn’t exist to be your vehicle to transfer pain from you to me. It exists to protect children like yours, and it did it’s job well in your case. I have faith that I will come through this, if you decide to go through with this waste of time.

The truth is, though, is that this is all my fault. This isn’t the first friendship I’ve had go down in flames like this. I always pick the same personality type to get close to, then continually turn the other cheek with them, and all results is me sitting on the sidelines with a sore face. Never again. If anything good came out of our little accident of fate, it was this, I will never let anyone treat me this way ever again. I will assert myself from now on. This is a continual issue with me, refusing to truly stand up for myself, but it will be no more. I’m not “helping” you or trying to “reach” you by treating you kindly when you hurt me, that is my arrogance talking. So no more. If you are not a decent person, I will no longer passively accept you into my life. It’s time to take control. It’s time to see the warning signs instead of rationalizing them. I’m not a teenager anymore, and I will no longer conduct my relationships as though I am one.

But this being my fault doesn’t mean you aren’t still a raging bitch for doing this, if indeed you do. Hell, you are a useless bitch either way. I hope you get over that one day.

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Reading over this, this really isn’t a pit-worthy thread. It got less angry as it came out. Sorry.

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Well, where it really fails is with your invective. It’s just not sufficient to convey rage. You only used ‘bitch’ 3 times, and almost all of your swearing was some variation on this theme. ‘Raging bitch’ and ‘useless bitch’ are nice, but to really bring the hate you have to get creative. Might I suggest ‘retarded whore’, or ‘stupid asshat’. If you want to go intellectual you can use ‘terminal end of a digestive system’ or ‘waste of valuable oxygen’. If you want, you can get even more creative and start making up words. Just take a normal pejorative and append some other common words till you get what you want. For example, cock. You could say ‘cockmangler’, ‘cockhappy’, ‘cocksore’, or ‘cockpolisher’. When you’re angry, don’t let conventions hold you back.

CPS trouble sucks. Is there anything preemptive you can do? Call CPS and say ‘Hey this complete cockpolisher is threatening to call you guys about my kids just cuz she’s such an asshat. You know her, yes. Here’s some stuff she sent me, here’s some select quotes from her facebook page, and here’s the actual threat. Any chance you can go over there and explain things to her with a baseball bat?’

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A cunt of a neighbor once called CPS on us when I was about three – right now I forget the details of why, but it had something to do with her being a cunt and her bratty kid leaving his bike outside on our doorstep and my mom asking her not to let her kid do that. And let’s not forget that my dad was in the Air Force and I can’t imagine an accusation of child neglect or abuse would have gone over well with his superiors, besides the fact that the last thing I can imagine is either of my parents being abusive. I am told the person who came out to investigate came in, looked around, took one look at me napping happily, said, “This is not an abused child,” and left.

I think my mom is still pissed. Can’t say I blame her.

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One of my very good friends was severely neglected by her mother when she was growing up.* CPS was called on her mom at least 4 times and they never once removed her and her brother from the house. I think you have to be actively stabbing your child before they take your kids away.

*I remember us being 14 and helping her clean her kitchen and cook dinner and stuff because her mom hadn’t come home yet that week. She actually raised her brother from the time he was 8 until he was 15 or so while her mother showed up once every 10 or 12 days with a few bags of groceries but not really enough to feed two people. Because her mom was gone their house was constantly a wreck and once every few months we would have a big cleaning party and scrub the place from top to bottom. She had the electricity shut off at least half a dozen times in the years she lived there. It was a bad situation all around but she is now getting married to a man who is crazy about her and super rich and her brother is doing really well in the military so it didn’t hurt them too badly to be left to raise themselves.

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I wish so freaking badly that the authorities understood that while there is legit stuff…some stuff is basicly about vinidcitive assholic people who use the system as a revenge mechanism. Witnessed it at college, one of my friends actually has a son who is in the system b/c someone made up a story that he’d sexually abused someone.

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Ha, you’re right about my lack of invective. The problem is that I am just so weary of all this crap that I can’t manage it. Mostly, I just want to kick myself for putting up with her for so long. I knew she was nasty and vindictive, and I was always on guard, careful of what I told her. She’s the kind of person who will use sensitive things against you. Why didn’t I just kick her out of my life?

I might see about your idea. This might be the best way to go. At the very least, I’m going to make sure that my friend (this friend is a real, good, true friend. It’s been so long since I’ve had one of those.) keeps all those records of Cockslave’s messages to both her and me. Having those to show if she chooses to go through with this will help quite a bit, I think.

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Yes it is, a big part of the purpose of ranting is to calm down as you do it. And having CPS thrown at you is very much Pit worthy.

That said, the rant itself could have used a few four-letter words. You may wish to consider being less polite next time, ok?

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My wife’s Grandmother was likely an undiagnosed schizophrenic and she called CPS several times on her parents. Eventually CPS learned to just disregard her.

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Wow, this person does sound like a real bitch, torie. I don’t even have kids, but I know I’d be upset if I did and someone were making up tales of abuse or neglect.

Would it be possible for you to cut this person out of your life altogether? I realize this isn’t always practical if you are coworkers or neighbors, but it would probably be wise to stop seeing her socially and unfriend her on Facebook.