If this was the pit I’d give you a taste of preachy and condescending. A couple of my posts had small micro doses of sarcasm. (not in response to your situation you’ll note but to your post saying I wasn’t reading your posts fully) Other then that though I answered you honestly to the best of my ability. When you expressed doubt I showed you examples of why I gave the advice I did. What exactly did you want instead? Hell I even threw in a smiley face trying to be friendly.
Get over it. Nobody is saying I told you so. Nobody even said you begged (where you got that from I don’t know I know I didn’t say it) All you received was honest advice to a post in which you ASKED FOR ADVICE. I know you’re hurting but nobody here is trying to hit you or pour salt in your wounds. You’ve got a monopoly on that job.
As for her you need to read for comprehension not just read into people’s posts what you think they are saying. I don’t think she’s some manipulative girl that’s stringing you along on purpose. I think she’s a confused girl that’s not ready for a relationship with you. That’s it. That’s all. Total sum.
Non-native, you’re wallowing in “it”. Lift your head up for a moment and commit to heart and mind all of what Darkhold has said. He is a Master DJ from the looks of things. You’re a man, not a chump. Snap out of it, move on, and ace your exams.
Sorry about bringing reviving a dead thread. Darkhold you have the sincerest of my apologies. I feel very very stupid for not believing you. The situation has unfolded as exactly as you had forseen. But I guess some lessons are best learned through experience.
I learned today that denial can be a very powerful force. I also learned that I should try very hard to heed the warning of those with more experience.
I’m sorry I was a little weenie about the whole situation.
I liked this… Darkhold, whose advice is initially disregarded, defends his posts in a most Doperly fashion; use of the quotes most excellent. I got not one hint of preachy or I-told-you-so. I was going to offer almost verbatim advice and you beat me to it, so I just followed along.
Non-native, although hurting, manfully apologizes.
non-native - It could not have been easy for you to come back here and apologize. I give you credit for that. Speaking from a woman’s perspective, I will say that I doubt she was playing games with you on purpose. That is the problem. Girls like this don’t realize what they are doing any better than you knew what was going on. It’s all about being young and stupid, and no knowing that what comes naturally is often not what makes sense. You are right, some lessons you just have to learn for yourself. But maybe next time you don’t want to listen to something, you could less of a weenie? (to use your word) I will also second the thought that two doormats can’t have a relationship. You will do well to not try to “rescue” any doormats in the future. They thrive on the up and down, love-hate relationships they have. Don’t mess with that type, unless you also crave a rollercoaster ride.
**Darkhold ** - I give you credit for trying so to hard to help him. You would not give up, despite his bad attitude. You have my admiration.
I will also second the thought that two doormats can’t have a relationship. You will do well to not try to “rescue” any doormats in the future. They thrive on the up and down, love-hate relationships they have. Don’t mess with that type, unless you also crave a rollercoaster ride.