Thanks for the support (and harsh but well meaning advice) all. I suppose I expected much worse from the denizens of the Pit.
I suppose with a few less f-bombs, this would have been more MPSIMS worthy, and frankly, I’m not normally one to outwardly express my emotions to strangers like that… I was just so agitated after she wrote me, and I needed an outlet or else I felt I’d explode.
I do have a dog, and he is my bestest, most unconditional friend (unless feeding him counts as a condition).
I’ve blocked her emails and will screen my calls from her and have determined that I’m going to fight her like a bad habit, because after all, that’s all she is.
She was having difficulty differentiating a paradox from a contradictory statement, and needed to write a short paper comparing a paradox in her own life with one from an essay the class had read.
I sent her a link to wikipedia and an online dictionary.
Oh, yeah, Bubba, I hear you on this one. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. IMHO, everyone should go through this experience once, just to know what to avoid. When you learn to avoid the whacked-out lover, you’re that much closer to finding someone who won’t make you want to run your Honda Civic into the side of a building.
Think of it as Chicken Pox. You get it once, and you don’t have to worry about it again (although Chicken Pox never sent me disturbing letters).
OK, so maybe I’m being a bit tongue-in-cheek with how everyone should have this (Some of those men and women are downright dangerous), but I must say I’m glad I had one of these girlfriends for two reasons:
It helped me get to the next stage in life and find a great girlfriend who later became my wife.
Though I probably shouldn’t admit this, sex with psycho head-cases is almost always terrific. But you didn’t hear that from me.
Anyway, I second Maasricht on the whole addiction thing. Break it off now, go through some withdrawals, and move on to something else. Good luck!
One simple question…are ready now to stop playing the victim? By now you know you can’t control when she contacts you, stop her from lying, from cheating, from treating you bad. For some reason you continue to allow her to do these things to you. Had enough yet? When you finally have had enough, you will just be done with her.
From what you have said, it doesn’t appear you are married to her, or share custody of a child with her. There is no reason you have to have anything to do with her, but yet you do. If you were reading this as being written by someone else, I think you would have to find that there must be something wrong with the person who wrote it.
Of course I come on strong about this because I acted like you in a similiar situation. I would really like those two years back. Wish I hadn’t let it continue as long as I did. The longer it goes on, the more scars are left behind. Forget about her, and spend some much needed time figuring out what is wrong with you to let this go on and on.
Ooops, should have hit preview before posting. Glad to hear you will fight it. You will get over it and be stronger for it. Picture the day when she really will mean nothing to you. It will happen. And that will be a good thing.
Be prepared when she figures out you won’t be there for her to dump on anymore when it is convenient for her, that she will try that much harder to contact you and get you back. Be strong. Know the decision you are making now is the right one. Don’t back up an inch. It will get worse before it gets better, but you will like yourself so much more for seeing this through and ending it.
Well, I’ve considered changing my sig line a few times, but then I wonder if Manduck and astro would feel rejected if they found themselves in a thread with me and realized that their quotables weren’t my sig line anymore, and I like Manduck and I really do want to be the cook in astro’s mutant army.
Hey soulmurk , been there, done that. All the people who haven’t been in this situation before don’t realize how manipulating and calculating these people are.
It’s not like we all dropped over and became doormats from the very first meeting. These users know exactly how to act to get someone hooked and then as their true selves become slowly apparent they know exactly how to act to put doubt in our mind that things aren’t how they seem.
You are on your way to being free. You’re almost there. You’re tired of yourself and how being with her makes you behave. That’s the last step before the end. Being tired of yourself. Now change your email and phone and run like hell if you see her in person.
Every time you think about her just say in your head “I’m done with that” and think about something else.