let me clarify…they ask me how much my boobs cost (they think I’ve had a boob job), not how much a reduction cost
You must have really unnatural-looking spherical half-globes for boobs.
transitionality, I’ve had the dubious pleasure of reading some of your posts over the past few days. And allow me to say: I don’t like what I’m seeing.
If you carry on in this hateful, confrontational vein, your posting privileges on the SDMB will be revoked.
To get back on track…
I’m a grown-up guy (wheee!) who has had an average number of sexual relationships.
I can’t EVER remember finding myself talking to a woman about her breasts.
Even the one who had a different name for each one…
If he was actually a friend you could have said what you said in this thread:
This probably would have closed the subject while letting him know that surgery isn’t all candy canes and moonbeams.
Also, does he realize he was a “potential date”? If he was in “just friends” mode and knows you well at all then I believe he should be totally off the hook. He may be more blunt than you like in your friends however.
You’re blaming me for flaming in the BBQ Pit? This is the entire point of this specific messageboard!
Double standards, anyone?
I’m sure he’s a fine physical specimin himself, and he is only doing the world’s women a favour by nitpicking.
(dripping with sarcasm)
I have no problems nitpicking. Women nitpick far more vigorously than I do across all kinds of axes of differentiation.
transitionality, flaming is allowed. Flaming is the product of anger as a rule. It is intended to vent, even to scold. But its purpose is not simply to hurt feelings. Too many of your posts are clearly intended to be cruel, without any other purpose - witness your post above to jesleigh. What an incredibly rude, hurtful thing to say (if she bought it, which hopefully she did not), serving no purpose but to try to make someone feel bad about herself! That’s not flaming. That’s malice. There’s a difference.
I must admit that you are beyong my comprehension, because I can’t imagine someone who gets his jollies by hurting other people. But your posts (not all of them, but many) clearly are intended to hurt. I guess you like the attention it gets you, or something. I really don’t know; I can’t. But (and again, I am no advocate of relentless niceness), that kind of malice is not welcome here. It contributes nothing, it has no point beyond its hurtfulness and some sad kind of boost you get from that.
If there were any hope of helping you, you might be better tolerated. But you’re clearly not stupid, and poster after poster has told you that your behavior is unacceptable (and pathetic. Do you have any idea of how revealing of your own insecurities your posts are? I would think you’d have to, and yet you continue to make them.) In any case, no, that kind of behavior is not welcome here, and if it goes long enough, it’s not permitted. No double standard. A single one. Keep going as you have been, and the moderators will boot you.
It’s rather sad. Normally I’d welcome someone whose vocabulary, grammar, and spelling are as excellent as yours. You clearly take care with your posts. What a shame, what a waste.
Liking AvhHines more and more, despite us disagreeing about when and where someone should be able to discuss someone else’s boobs.
Don’t worry…jesleigh has seen his post before too and does not have the time or patience to worry about someone of such low intellegence level. I am quite proud of my figure, and have worked hard to get into the shape I am today, and will not let any jerk, such as the above mentioned, make me feel bad about myself…He is simply wasting his time 
Freud would have a field day with me. I swear I read this way too fast and thought it said raise my eyes from just staring at your post count and looking at your t!tt!es.
Say, transitionality, I’m relatively new here, though I’ve lurked for a long time. I get the impression that the moderators don’t really have to strictly follow any hard-and-fast rules. They can and do ban people on the basis of just not wanting to hear from them again. I gather that they look askance at anyone who has a heavy tilt toward flaming when they first come here. The board veterans learn how and how often to flame. So maybe it looks like they get away with it. Actually, they just learn the board’s culture.
If you like it here, and I hope you do, it’s always wisest to hang out and post in some of the other forums in the beginning, and save the BBQ Pit as kind of a guilty pleasure.
Right back atcha!
LOL, AvHines is a woman. And you obviously didn’t read, because she and I DID disagree regarding our separate viewpoints on this whole thread.
Not to mention, I liked her right away just based on her posting styles.
You’ve posted here 3 times and you know enough about me to know my motives for something?
Hmmmmmmm, nice try, could it be a returning, formerly banned mysogonist of ours? Trans?
Oh my lord, he did get himself banned! Transi, that is. I wonder what his last straw was.
Luci-Trans, don’t you get it yet? It’s entirely possible to argue, even vehemently, even to get a bit snarky, and still like and respect the person you’re arguing with. What you’ve been doing, on the other hand, is to run around trying to hurt people by saying the cruelest things you can think of, with very little actual point to make but that all women are romance-whores, all men are beauty-whores, and really all of it is just about sex (of which, of course, you get as much as you could possibly want) and ego (yours, of course, being perfectly secure).
And you know what? Lots, maybe most, women do want romance; lots, maybe most, men do want beauty, and many things in life at base are about sex, ego, or both. But you’re kind of like a third grader who has just found out where babies come from, and insists on telling everyone he meets the details. You see, adults for the most part already realize this. What we also see is that for most of us, life becomes about a great deal more.
Back before you were born, a book was written called I’m OK, You’re OK. Supposedly that was the only way to be psychologically healthy. Me, my attitude has pretty much been “I’m not especially OK, but you’re not either, so that’s OK.”
But you? I suspect you thought “I’m not OK, but you’re ok.” and then suddenly seem to have discovered “Oh my God, you’re not OK after all, you stinking hypocrites!”
Transi-Lu, we already know. We know we do things because we want romance or beauty or sex or ego boosts. But we also do things for lots of other reasons, and hey, it’s the only game in town anyway.
So get over it and join the human race. Or don’t. But if you’re not going to, take your bitterness and your malice elsewhere. We’re getting on with our lives, despite our imperfections. That’s the essence of growing up.
Oh, and Canvas? XXX!
Oh my heavens, in the time it took me to write that, Lucid was banned too. Guess it didn’t take the moderators long to figure out who was back. Good call, Canvas!
My goodness, this is how disagreement is handled on this board? The moderators ban the posters with the unpopular viewpoints? Is this supposed to be a “good call”?
Okay, I guess I got whooshed by something. What was going with trans?
Andy, transitionality got banned, re-joined as Lucid Dreaming and got banned again almost immediately. No deliberate whooshing.
Woo-Hoo!!! My 100th post!