I went back to work dancing three weeks after having my baby. I didn’t have much of a choice. I had a piece of shit boyfriend and a newborn to support. Not cool.
But then, I was young and knew nothing about raising a child. It’s not something I would recommend.
Good luck.
Not to mention her desire to dress a newborn child in all black goth clothes.
Lord knows black and blood red is an awesome environment for newborns.
I’ve tried my best for the past few months or so with the plethora of SDMB births and pregnancies to be joyous and supportive of everyone, and for the most part it’s worked…but you, IDBB, make me more angry and bitter than ever and your ‘problems’ with bringing a new child into the world have fucking shaken my faith to the core. IT ISN’T. FUCKING. FAIR.
I think, for almost the first time since I joined the SDMB, that I have nothing to add to a thread besides this.
I agree with gobear, 100%.
Regards,
Shodan
I hope that she can find a daycare in Texas with all white employees.
Go for it 
Care to come back and answer any of these posts? Or are you going to continue to hide your head and wait for someone to pat you on the back and tell you it’s going to be ok, perhaps hand you a plasma screen t.v. and a million dollars?
Perhaps it is time for Congress and the President to declare a War on Birthing. An unfortunate consequence, however, might be that the birth rate will skyrocket.
Well when you don’t qualify for any social services because you make slightly too much money and you don’t have enough in the kitty to stay home for six weeks (thanks to the FMLA which is unpaid), you go back to work wh ether you like it or not. MetalGuy will be staying home because his job gives him paid vac time, unlike mine. He earns his rather quickly and will be able to take 6 wks off when the baby is born. I will get back on my feet, sore or not, stitches or not, and get back to work.
–FerretHerder–I looked into what the Dept of Human Svcs offers and I don’t qualify for any of it unfortunately. 
–I’m sorry if I upset you,jar. edited to remove comment that sounds snarky
And when the time comes, if I do qualify for reduced lunches at school, I’ll take advantage of that. I got lunches for next to nothing in school and there’s nothing wrong about using the free lunch program at all.
Actually, Persephone, I looked into it today and even called WIC but the lady laughed at me and hung up the phone when she found out how much we make per year. It turns out it’s slightly more than what is allowed to get WIC for just one kid. I did try.
Such as? I don’t even know where to begin to look. I tried the Dept of Human Svcs but I don’t qualify for welfare, WIC and I’m not even sure I qualify for Medicaid.
And it’s my fault I’m pregnant, I know. Because I didn’t use any sort of birth control and now I’m paying the price. I’m trying to take all of this in, but it’s a heckuva lotta information to absorb all at once.
Maybe, maybe not. I don’t know but I won’t know until I try it either. All I know is that right now if I don’t work, we don’t survive. If I stop working, we lose the house, possibly one of the cars and end up back in an apt. where I don’t want to be anyway.
I know. We have a next door neighbor with a 4 mos. old who told us recently that daycare costs them as much as their housepayment every month.
I know I’m going to need more than a week to recover. What I don’t have is the money to spend the time I need to recover. Even if we saved every dime from now until the baby arrived, I doubt (between buying baby gear, babyproofing the house, dr visits, etc) it would cover me losing 6-8 wks of pay.
gobear–as I cannot think of anything positive at the moment to say about your post, I won’t.
My mom suggested this too, that I take a week off before the baby arrives but I know it’s just not financially possible.
MetalMaven
Look, could someone point a poor idiot to her LJ? What I’m reading on here is very disturbing without reading the LJ. Please help…
Thanks,
BBJ
Three questions:
Did you give the Wic lady both of your incomes or just your husbands?
The math just doesn’t add up.
Assuming a person in fast food makes $6.50 an hour (I really don’t know what you get paid). Without Taxes being taken out, you will bring in $260.00 a week if you work 40 hours. I have been told that infant care in North Texas can easily run $200.00 a week.
so, are you telling us that you are willing to bust your ass working at a job you hate to bring home $60.00 a week? That’s being generous. I didn’t, as I stated, account for taxes deducted from your check.
I also have to ask you specifically what your point is in adding this:
“edited to remove comment that sounds snarky”
There is NO edit function at the dope. NONE. If you ‘edit’ something prior to posting, there is NO REASON to mention that you edited something rude out. Can you not comprehend that by adding that you are adding something snarky to the post? How passive aggressive can you get?
My last question is to ask you what your point was in posting this whole fiasco.
You know damn well that your threads end up as train wrecks because you refuse to acknowledge ANY advice. If you are posting soley to vent, why not just vent on your blog? Why are you stirring the mud here? There are a LOT of people here at the dope that have constantly given you the benefit of the doubt. There are a LOT of people who genuinely are concerned for your child’s welfare. Do you not realize that by posting as you do that you needlessly cause people to worry about the situation. No one, no matter how much they dislike you personally, has any ill feelings for your child. We ALL want what’s best for this child and you are pretty much flaunting the fact that this child will NOT get your best efforts.
I have to ask, how much longer do you intend on trolling for sympathy around here? Why isn’t this a bannable offence? You are deliberately messing with people’s emotions regarding children, it seems. That is so not cool.
When I edited it, I previewed and then changed what I said. Sorry.
I gave her the combined total of both our incomes, like I thought I was supposed to.
I’m not even sure how to respond to that at the moment, tbh.
MetalMaven
What the hell?
I thought she might be leaving.
I’m a little 
right now. I never knew it was her until this thread. Was there some sort of “coming back” thread I missed? :o
No. You should just give his income, because you want to find out what aid you will qualify for if you stay home.
Even so porcupine…I suspect we would still make too much. And if I stayed at home, we would not be able to make basic payments like car payment, utilities and so forth.
MetalMaven
Look, I know cross linking to LJ’s is forbiddenbut can’t you at least give me her username? I know it ewas posted on here once before, but ham§sters are not cooperating…please?
All I see at this point makes her look to be unfairly picked on if what she says is true in her op…
I can only imagine what sort of snarky comment you could possibly have to say to me that I wouldn’t just point my finger and laugh. So go ahead, after all, what would Walt Disney do?
email me at jarbabyj@yahoo.com, bbj.
Done, and thanks! I’ll even cheer a bit for the Bears this weekend…maybe
Now you’re just lying.
Bullshit, IDBB.
You can’t call a social services agency and find out if you qualify. They don’t work like that. You have to show them proof of income and expenses and they have to use their tables and calculations.