I understand that young love is fickle; that’s OK in my book. You’re only 15–not everything is expected to last. So yesterday, when you told John that you were breaking up with him because you didn’t love him anymore, I wasn’t angry at you. I am, however, now very angry.
When some friends asked if you could come out to play last night, you responded with “I’m not allowed to go out; it’s too late.” So they decided to surprise you by popping in unexpectadly. Funny thing, though–someone’s car was parked where John’s is usually. So they decided to go down to the basement to see who it was.
Turns out, it was Blake from the local theatre. Yes, Blake–the 30 year old who is TWICE YOUR AGE. So when they went inside to question you about it, what did you do? You hid him in the bathroom and pretended like no one was there.
How the fuck do you do something so horrible? From a boyfriend whom you loved and to whom you lost your virginity, to a 30 year old pervert looking for a naive little girl? And how the fuck do you lie about it?
Rah. I’m too angry to write a proper pit. Just…disgusting.
If I were you, I’d be pitting the 30-year-old on a number of levels, not the least of which is the fact that he was cowering in the bathroom of a 15-year-old (knowing full well that his car was in full view outside)! If that didn’t make him re-evaluate a few things . . .
Granted, he could get in serious trouble for what may have been going on with the 15-year-old, but unless one or both of them were naked at the time, why hide in the loo like a coward? He’s THIRTY, for cryin’ out loud! Does he still dine and ditch at Denny’s, too?
New Yorklebees, just for context…how do you fit into this? Are you a friend of one or both parties or are you actually on of the kids involved in this? Are the girls parents aware that she was hiding a 30 year old man in the bathroom (I hope not)?
“So they decided to surprise you” … Puh-leeeze! What a nosey and invasive crew you are. When did Madison’s life become your special CSI project? What if her new boyfriend was 17, would it still have been OK to go pressing your noses against her basement window. You guys are borderline stalkers.
Astro: She wasn’t allowed to go out, so they were going to surprise her by coming to her. This unknown car was on the street, where her old boyfriend’s car was.
A little history: Every boyfriend she has had, she’s cheated on. This time, she promised everyone it would be different. She was in love, she wouldn’t cheat. If she needed to break up, she’d do it before cheating. Well, the last two weeks of the relationship, she had been spending an increasing amount of time with this guy. It’s pretty obvious she was cheating on him.
Do you have any idea what the parents thought was going on? I am interested in how a parent would justify a 30 year old man hanging out with thier 15 year old daughter in the basement. As a parent, I would not stand for this. There is no reason I can immediately think of that would explain why a 30 year old man should be allowed to hang out with my 15 year old daughter (as an acuaintance outside of any friendship this man may share with the family in general). As a 30 year old man, I cannot imagine any reason to be in that situation. Obviously, YMMV. This may just be me. I am very protective of my child.
Do the parents know this man and already trust him? Do you know something that they should probably be made aware of that would conflict with this trust they may already have for this man?
New Yorkelbees, I have to tell you that from an adult perspective your grievance against your friend is completely trivial compared to the fact that a 30 year old sexual predator was hiding in the bathroom. This man is a criminal and any sexual contact he has with your friend is a crime.
I urge you to report this to her parents. They absolutely need to know this. A lot a emotional damage can be done to your friend by this fucking scumbag child molester. You are aware enough to know that he’s a creepy pervert but it seems that you are young enough to think that your friend, the victim, has some sort of equal culpability or complicity in her victimization. She does not. It is easy for a 30 year old to manipulate a teenager. It happens all the time.
Save your anger about the teeny-bopper romance gone wrong. She wasn’t going to marry him anyway. In ten or fifteen years you’ll realize how utterly meaningless thes high school romances really are. Forget about the guy with the wounded feelings. Tell him welcome to the club and that he better get used to it.
Right now your greater obligation is to do what you can to stop a crime. Tell her parents, I beseech you. When you are a parent you will understand.
Fifteen is NOT sexually mature. She might be physically ready for sex, but she’s not ready mentally or emotionally, not to mention the fact that it’s probably illegal, regardless of the guy’s age. Diogenes nailed it–tell her parents.