There’s been a bunch. (Not relationships!) but songs.
Amy by Pure Prarie Leage (?) My first serious relationship at 20
I Can’t Make You Love me by Bonnie Rait. My present Boodie call
Perhaps Love by Placido Domingo (cover of John Denver duet)
When October Goes by Barry Manilow (first dance)
Will You Love Me Tomorrow? by the Cherelles (?) (answer: No)
Do all of these have to be about romantic relationships? I “give” songs to people, and get them as well. The idea is similar, but the effect is the same. I remember others by hearing the songs.
Kathy M. A good friend of the family gets Poems, Prayers and Promices by John Denver
An old Buddy and I share Sister Christian by Night Ranger.
My Daughter recently gave me I Miss You by Stevie Nicks.
A flame I never caught gets Beautiful Child by Fleetwood Mac
Lastly, my Old friend Bob, gets the Theme to Mr. Ed for wonderfull memories at a Pink Floyd concert.
“(As) Always” by Stevie Wonder
Now that the relationship has ended I haven’t been able to listen to that song anymore. It’s a shame because it’s a great song…
WELL THIS WILL PROBABLY SHOCK THE S–T OUT OF YOU COMING FROM A VIRILE YOUNG MAN, BUT -
“I JUST CAN’T STOP LOVING YOU” BY MICHAEL JACKSON. SHE IS PUTTY IN MY HANDS EVERY TIME SHE HEARS IT. I HAVE A TAPE OF IT IN MY CAR, IN MY OFFICE, AT THE CLUB AND OF COURSE RIGHT BY THE BED. WORKS GUYS !!!
Desperado was the song that reminded me of my ex, who was never happy with anything or anyone. He cheated on me and stayed out all night and drank too much and ignored all his kids, and now he’s dead. I used to tell him he’d better let somebody love him before it’s too late, but he never did. And it’s too late.
I don’t know – I like “Silent Running”, although a post-revolution/apocalypse song probably wouldn’t be my first choice.
The second time my ex-fiance proposed, he played a song by Stan Rogers called “45 Years From Now.” If there’s one song which sums up our hopes, that’s probably it. Since it’s a bit obscure, let me just give you a few of the lyrics from the chorus:
[quote]
And I just want to hold you closer than I’ve ever held anyone before . . .
I just want to see your smiling face 45 Years From Now."
I’d still recommend it to anyone who wants to propose, even though the engagement didn’t work out.
Nocturne: I love that Ben Folds song. I told my girlfriend it reminded me of her, too. And good call on Nightswimming, too. It’s my absolute favorite song ever. The piano part just kicks ass.
But I’d have to go with “This Night”, a somewhat-obscure Billy Joel song. It’s pretty much about someone who didn’t want to/expect to fall in love but did anyway.
“Didn’t I say
I wasn’t ready for a romance
Didn’t we promise
We would only be friends”
…
“Now that you’re here
It’s not the same situation
Suddenly I don’t remember the rules anymore”
I always felt that designating a song “our song” was kind of silly, but at the same time, I understand why couples will decide that a song is “theirs”. Music tends to evoke an emotional response in people to begin with, and when that’s combined with people’s tendency to associate memories of events with elements of the environment around them (a sound, a smell, a color) you can see how easy it is to make the emotional connection and decide that that song is “yours” because it’s the first song you ever danced to, or made love to, or was playing at the resturaunt when he (or she) proposed.
Or it can happen a little differently. If I had to chose a song that’s “ours”, it would have to be “Beautiful in My Eyes” by Joshua Kadison. It’s not associated with any specific event that I can think of, unlike “Wonderful Tonight” (Eric Clapton) which is the first song that my wife and I ever danced to. It was sort of a gradual thing. I have a tendency to sing with songs and this one was no exception. At some point, my wife to be realized that I was singing it to her. And I meant it. Sometime later, I realized the same thing (and found out how much it meant to her).
