It’s bad enough that you decided to get married at a moment’s notice without thinking about the consequences. And to a guy who’s going overseas to fight. He might not ever come back.
But that’s not why I’m pissed off. No, you had to go and break our dad’s heart by suddenly deciding you’d take off for the West Coast and get married there. He wanted to walk you down the aisle. But no, you decided to be fucking selfish and take that away from him.
I love you, but you’re an awful, awful person.
I hope there are other reasons besides that. Not having your dad walk you down the aisle is a pretty small transgression where I come from. If there’s more, please tell. If not, I don’t get why you think she’s so awful.
I have to agree with Indygrrl. I am not sure what you are upset about.
I agree that getting married to a service person right before they intend to leave the country is hard…but hard for the two of them at least as much as anyone else! I know a guy who proposed this past Friday night to his girlfriend - he leaves in three weeks and intends to marry her before he leaves. He specifically said that if anything happens to him over there, he knows she’ll be taken care of - that’s one of the reasons he wanted to marry her before he left.
Is there a reason your dad can’t go with her to the West Coast to give her away? I can see why that might hurt his feelings, but it doesn’t seem under the circumstances they have a lot of time.
I have to guess that we’ve not been given the full story here.
This is just the latest in a long string of crap she’s pulled. She ran away, we didn’t hear from her for half a year. She comes back and moves back in with our parents, living off of them–no job, nothing. Just parties all the time. She’s got anger issues; she even lost her closest and lifelong friend when she tried to choke her.
I could go on, but I don’t really think I need to.
SHe doesn’t want him there. She had the frickin’ nerve to say that to his face.
How old is she?
Just curious, because I broke my parent’s hearts a few times before I really even realized it or cared.
That doesn’t excuse bad behavior, but some of us have to take the hard road growing up.
She’s 21. Old enough to know better, but not old enough to care, apparently.
Old enough to do what she wants without worrying what it does to others. That’s how I was too.
Only time will tell, really. She could mature and be fine, or she could continue to be this way her entire life. Fortunately, I sort of matured, but I still have a wild streak that will never be cured. That kind of trait can be subdued, but not denied.
I suspect your dad letting her live in his house, put up with her crap, and dreaming of walking her down the aisle is just making her worse.
She’s a bitch. Let her go.
I still haven’t read anything that leads me to the conclusion that she’s a bitch. We have absolutley no information about this family dynamic. There is every reason to believe she did what she wanted to do because she has reasons of her own.
We shouldn’t be forced to live our lives to make our dads happy. No, we shouldn’t intentionally hurt anyone, but we don’t know how he’s treated her all along or her reasons for not wanting him there.
I still don’t see enough evidence to condemn this young woman just because she exercised her free will and someone was hurt by it. Once you are an adult, you have a right to make adult decisions that you feel are right for you.
Those are bitchy things to do. Choking your friend? Come on. Exercising free will stops when someone gets physically hurt in my book. Maybe she has to kill someone for you to dismiss her?
Regardless, I think we agree the family needs to move on.
At the risk of sounding like I’m making excuses for a jerk, I wonder if the sister might not be either bipolar or a borderline personality. Her impulsiveness and anger certainly fit in with either of the two.
Once you are an adult, you must not live your life according to what others expect of you. I’m sorry that your father is hurt, but it was her choice to make.
It is also your parents’ choice as to whether or not she gets to live back home. (I don’t think it’s wise either.)
Sounds like she needs to get a job and be responsible for her life and her marriage.
Strangling your friends is usually inappropriate.