It was a padded box, not a crate. And it wasn’t just for laughs. He’d always wanted to see Patagonia.
When was the date set for the party? If it wasn’t yet set two weeks ago when the groom told you they wanted to change it to a mixed party, I do think that’s cutting it a little close. No, a bachelor party doesn’t require much planning, but you should at least have a date set a month or so in advance. This time of year is busy for a lot of people, and I know it would be hard for me to invite folks to something two weeks in advance and expect everyone to be able to make it. I can see the wedding couple (maybe the bride especially) getting a little nervous about not having a set date. But that doesn’t excuse their asshat behavior. Groom should have talked to you first if they were nervous and given you a chance to bring it all together.
Another possible scenario: bride’s bachelorette party planning falls flat so she insists on a combined party?
I think numbers 3 and 4 show how thoughtful you are, and 5 shows that you are friggin’ brilliant. 6 is just common sense.
My reading of the entire situation is that, for whatever resaon, the couple getting married, and possibly Douche 2 and his girlfriend, have something against H but haven’t told you what.
Good luck.
His friends that wanted to come knew he was having one. Go back and read the part where I had to tell several of them they were no longer welcome.
Are you mad because I haven’t invited you? You mentioned Facebook, are you mad that we aren’t friends and you can’t read my status updates about this party? Care to explain why the other guy that’s in the wedding is being left in the dark about everything too, even though he hasn’t had anything at all to do with the planning?
That’s the strange part, I’ve been taking H over to their house on the weekends for like a month now. They had even talked about the party with her as though she were welcome. They invited both of us to come hang out on Tuesday, even after this all happened (we didn’t go), so I don’t think they are the ones excluding her. My guess is either the bride or the groom doesn’t want her there.
If she’s pretty, I’d put money on the bride not wanting her within 100 yards of the groom.
I’ve kept myself from making any appearance comments about anyone, but you have probably nailed it.
No, I didn’t I swear to God I didn’t even touch her!!
what?
never mind…
Boy, I’d love to hear the toast you give at the wedding dinner, FT. I hope you’ll post it as close out material for this thread. Good luck with the entire evolution.
Best idea so far in this thread, he typed in almost but-not-quite pure sincerity.
You’re still the best man, and it is still your responsibility to send some strippers over to friends 2’s party
Male, female, both, doesn’t matter, but don’t fail in your responsibility.
Yup, I’d get that divorce pool started.
I think Taber is wise. You’re the best man, you know where the party is. Do your job.
Here’s the update some of you have been waiting for.
On Friday, I asked what time the rehearsal was and was told 6:30. The rehearsal dinner was before the rehearsal, the information we had received was incorrect. We went through the rehearsal twice and everyone had a good time. Afterward that, we each went to the different parties.
Today, we got to the church, had pictures taken, had the wedding, and had the reception. Everyone seemed to have a good time once again.
All in all, there was no drama Friday or Saturday night, everyone got along, and everyone had fun in their own way. I don’t expect to see the bride and groom too often from now on, but I am glad that everything went well.
Did you get to go to the rehearsal dinner? If so, that makes me feel somewhat better about these folks.
Yeah, the guy that told us it was Thursday night was incorrect. It was Friday, right before the rehearsal.
If you care about the bridegroom, find a tactful subtle way to let him know you’ll be around if he needs you, because the odds are good that he will. If that isn’t the way it is for you anymore, then just be happy for the time you did have as friends and chalk it up to life moving on.
I’m glad the party and the wedding were drama-free. At least you know you did what you should have done.
What he (she?) said. ^^^
I think they’re out of town for a week, but I’ll send a text in a couple of days asking how things are going. He’s a movie junkie, so when he’s back I’ll see if he wants to come check my new HD projector and watch a movie.
Some people call that a “honeymoon.” 
If they both come over and they pull the “whispering and disappearing” stunt, I suggest you let them know that the movie doesn’t stop for their drama and just keep watching.