Ok, ok, so you don’t know me or anything about me, and I don’t have to listen to you but PLEASE will someone give me a little advice on the following issue?
I’ve just ended a really crappy year-long relationship in which the guy went from being the most independent person I know to acting like I was his mommy. He moved in with me and became totally dependent on me. I became extremely depressed several months ago and was hospitalized briefly. Now I’ve made my mind up finally to leave this guy, even though he is now getting threatening and scary.
Anne, my one female friend who has known me since babyhood, wants me to share a great townhouse with her. The move would be very good for me because it would be closer to the city, closer to work [I had moved to a scary rural town in KANSAS to be closer to the scary boyfriend even though it was not in my best interests] and will be less expensive, thus allowing me to save quite a bit of $$ so that I can concentrate on school and work and save for travel. All of my common sense is telling me to do this.
BUT then we have part 3:
For the past 6 months I’ve been heavily corresponding with a guy, yes, on the net, who is running a small company which he hopes to get funded for in the next few months. He’s in Australia now but wants me to meet him in San Francisco or Victoria, BC next month. We’ve talked extensively about our mutual needs, interests, life plans, etc, and are really in alignment in every way imaginable. His plans are such that, if I don’t meet him in mid-October, he will have to go on without me and we most likely will not meet at all.
The dilemma? Everyone who knows me [i.e. family, friends, co-workers] are going to be dead-set against me doing this. Money will be VERY tight, but I can see it happening. I’ve long believed that when a person really believes in doing something he can overcome any obstacles in his way. But I’ve never actually put that theory to practice in my own life. Meeting this guy and being with him is all I want to do, but it means letting my friend Anne down [she is already making plans for us to move in together] and it means i have to sell my car, a bunch of my possessions, and move out of my apartment AND make sure my parents don’t have me committed before mid-October.
Anyone have thoughts on this?