My exs’ ex was a single parent herself. And a bitter one at that. She felt that if her son wasn’t getting that kind of attention from his sperm donor, that our daughter or no other child deserved it either.
He treated her child like he treated our daughter. That is the only part of their break up that crushed him. He misses that boy and I guess the last time he saw him the child looked so sad and just wasn’t himself either.
The point I was trying to make is that if dating mommies isn’t good for you than it’s a good thing you found that out while dating and not after marriage. It would suck to get involved and hold resentment.
That and not all single moms are like that. We’re not all needy women looking for a replacement dad.
When I met my husband he made the statement that my kids were to never call him dad. His first wife made her son do that and it hurt when they divorced. I saw his point and countered with…“Don’t worry about that they already have dads”
Well, six years later (August 24th) my kids call him dad. It was their choice. He ended up being the only dad my son knows, and my daughter just says he’s a dad so that is what she will call him. She loves her Daddy more than anything.
Lucky girl has two loving fathers. But I feel sorry for her when she starts to date.
I get all twisted up inside when Anne tells me about her and the kids out with one of her boyfriends. I don’t have a problem with her seeing new people, just the level of connection to the kids that I guard selfishly.
Rationally I know that I am a good dad, I spend oodles of time with them and she deserves to go out and do things and take someone with, but thinking about them going to the zoo without me makes me kinda mad. I guess that is the one thing I miss about the marriage, being with them 24/7. The idea of two dads makes me cringe, that someone else would be in that position vis a vis my kids. Just my opinion, I could be wrong.
MikeG, I can understand that. My own father went through the same thing. The only difference there seems to be is that you are there for your kids and my dad wasn’t.
My older children know who their fathers are and love them dearly. Even if one is an ass who hasn’t been around in over a year, I never say a bad word towards him in front of my son.
I won’t lie, it did take a while for everybody to be somewhat comfortable with it. But then again I stray from the norm alot.
If you want to talk e-mail me. I’ve been on both side of this.
I don’t remember the exact thread (and I think it’s been over a year now - curse my memory ) but it had to do with the relative fairness/unfairness of being a man/being a woman in today’s society.
Nothing nearly as entertaining in the end as grienspace and I and the pit bull question, now that I think about it.
) but it had to do with the relative fairness/unfairness of being a man/being a woman in today’s society.