Two women, two men.
Being a virgin at any age, show something about that person. At different ages it shows different things.
Most people have “standards” whether they are for income, job, family or sex. The Internet has popularized “dating lists” to a high degree, with the false illusion of unlimited supply.
As for the virgin thing, well some people will feel that if a person hasn’t slept around enough after the marriage they will wonder what he/she has missed and start it then.
There could be any number of reasons, as George “Seinfeld” Costanza said “I wouldn’t want to be someone’s first. They always remember the first. I don’t want to be remembered.”
No, I did think of that. It might not be an immediate dealbreaker, but I think that all of the above would bring “baggage” that would give me pause for thought. I did, in fact, once date a guy from an Islamic background who was very keen to be “westernised”. I realise this is anecdotal evidence, but my experience was that it takes some time to completely change how you feel about sexuality. Even if you want it to change, these things can run very deep. Not that any cross-cultural relationship is immediately doomed, but it is not as if I’ll “oh, that explains that then” and have it be a complete non-issue.
Have you considered introducing them to one another?
I’d prefer it, at any age. But I’m, you know, the religious type. A more interesting question for me (when I was younger) was, Would a non-virgin be a dealbreaker? (It wouldn’t have been).
When I met my wife, I was 43, she was 36, and she was still a virgin. Not because she was religious, or “saving herself”, but because of circumstances I don’t feel like getting into.
I myself lost my virginity at a very late age – I was over 30 – so how could I say anything anyway?
In any case it all worked out fine. We did not wait till marriage, if that’s what any of you are asking.
Yeah, it’s not the virgin status that I would find a dealbreaker, but rather the uncertainty of wondering about the reasons behind it. I didn’t vote because I don’t necessarily tink any of that is a dealbreaker, but I would find it weird to date someone over 30 who had such limited experience.
There is also another dimension to this - you may not encounter an actual virgin, but a functionsl one, someone who has had very limited experience (say, averages one or two sexual encounters per year or less) or someone who has gone through a prolonged period of celibacy for whatever reason (illness, was in a religious order for 15 years before quitting, shipwreck 
).
One would imagine that, again, most people would be more worried about the why than about the what. You still would have many people OTOH who’d just feel “I don’t want to have to teach them.”
For me, not a dealbreaker in itself, if her explanation is satisfactory. (me = M, 48)
Well that’s the thing isn’t it? if someone is a virgin at an advanced age (about 30 for me) and they are “perfect in every way” then chances are they are a virgin entirely by choice, which would imply either a severe lack of sexual desire or some religious opposition to sex, both of which would be real deal breakers for me. The only other option is that they are not “perfect in every way” and there is a good reason why they’ve never been intimately involved with anyone.
I love the poll results- all the dudes are saying, “No problem at all!” while all the ladies are saying otherwise.
I think this has a lot to do with the whole idea that our society puts forth that it’s a score for a dude to bang a virgin, but for a woman, banging a virgin is not really a pleasant or fun experience.
If a guy gets out of college without getting laid, I’m going to think one of three things:
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[li]He’s weirdly religious (dealbreaker).[/li][li]He can’t get laid (what’s wrong with him? Red flag).[/li][li]Or we simply have different hobbies in this life. ;)[/li][/ul]
I know a woman who says she lost her virginity at 33.
From prepubescence through age 32, she was obese, dramatically so: when I first met her, in her late 20s, she literally could not fit into movie theater seats.
At 32, she had gastric bypass surgery.
At 33, having dropped over 250 pounds, she found a boyfriend, first ever.
I guess that would count as a red flag?
Actually, yes. I’m not saying it’s a dealbreaker, but in the instance described, it’s a sign that particular person has tremendous baggage- I’m not sure I’m kind or patient enough to deal with someone with tremendous body image issues (I can admit my short comings). So, yeah, for me that would be a red flag.
Again, this is just for me personally. I’m not saying she’s a bad person or anything like that, but just as for what I can deal with in regard to a partner, not sure I could deal with that.
Crap, I answered the poll before I read the OP. I put 30. It would never be a deal breaker, given the OP, but I would certainly think it was very, very strange and would wonder about any latent emotional issues.
Yeah, it would be, I’d think. Her weight itself is not what prevented her from getting laid. You can be fat and get laid. You can be faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat and get laid, too. She had serious self image (and probably self esteem) issues. I can understand it, but yes, it is a red flag for a potential relationship (the issues, not the weight, I mean).
Interesting question. It would definately factor into the “most people who are socially well-adjusted will have had sex” calculation in that I wouldn’t worry about any latent emotional issues. However, it might actually become a deal breaker at that point for different reasons. I’m 32 and looking to settle down. I would be afraid that once he finally got laid, he’d want to “broaden his horizons” in a way. If he’s gone a fair portion of his life being sexually repressed, I’d be concerned that he’d want to experience a bit more before settling down with one woman for the rest of his life. I’d imagine being the only person your mate has ever been with in his entire life would be a lot of pressure for a person.
I think the answer to both of Bricker’s hypotheticals is that the reasons for being a virgin are symptoms of larger issues.
That’s the whole thing about it, if a woman has never been able to get laid because of obesity problems, then you now know you’re dealing with a woman who has had (and is likely to continue to have) problems with eating (something which in itself is a symptom of other emotional baggage), so no thanks. Way too much work there.
I would pretty much assume that anyone who is a virgin after 30 has some kind of issue, either religious or emotional. Not my cup of tea either way. I don’t teach, and I don’t rescue, and I sure as hell don’t wait.
Not that my dating policies have mattered since the 1980’s.
I don’t care whether a prospective mate is a virgin or not. You can always teach someone how to be good in bed. One potential bonus is the person would basically be shaped by their experience with you – pretty much a sexual clean slate to work with. Imagine the possibilities.
I disagree that you can teach somebody to be good in bed. I also find nothing appealing about being a teacher or being a first.
He can’t be religious in a non-weird way? 
It’s pretty easy. ‘‘Slower. Faster. That, right there. No… don’t do that.’’
Of course, that’s assuming the chemistry is right. But plain-old inexperience is not that big a deal.