Shouldn’t there be a bucket of pig’s blood in there somewhere?
I live in the Pittsburgh area.
You are NOT.
Anyone in Northern California? I’m a heterosexual Nerd male with a fondness for obscure technical information, building weird aircraft on flight simulators, and Audrey Hepburn movies.
Thanks for moving the thread; Lynn, but I doubt that he will find it.
And please, no one let this hound in on the little known fact (among the bar babe sniffers) that the mind is the primary erogenous zone in human beings.
I remember a girl from high school. She carried books around. Big stack of them, usually. Now, nerd boy that I was, I found her stack of books interesting. (She was OK, but the books really caught my eye, you know?) The girl was reading a translation of the Sutras. This was in 1963! Bar girls hadn’t even heard of the Sutras! Of course, she was also reading up on some other subjects, too, botany, and horticulture at levels I couldn’t penetrate.
And a few years later, I met her again at a local landscape company. This time in shorts and a halter top, working and sweating, doing horticulture the old fashion way. Bar girls don’t have bodies like that nerd girl had! Ow.
Her husband is a nerd guy I barely knew back in High School. He smiles a lot, now, the old fart.
Don’t know why I am telling you this. Just contemplating how hot those nerd girls get.
But, for the OP, don’t bother. You don’t have enough to keep this girl’s interest up beyond the first few hours of actual contact. The fact that you have to solicit advice on how to be an interesting human being pretty much leaves you out of your league, relationshipwise.
Tris
crossing tentacles, praying to about 30 various deities
Any of you nerd girls in Boise or Twin Falls?
WTF?
A few things here folks:
First off, I don’t think I’m any better than nerd girl.
Secondly, alot of you took exception to the whole “feeling charitable/ throw her a bone” thing. Yes I’m sure there is a more PC way to put that, but hey, I’m just not a big fan of PC. To analogize this; if I have a friend who is broke, if I’m feeling charitable I might be inclined to throw him a bone and give him a couple of bucks.
Same thing goes here. This girl is running a little low on the social skills so I take it upon myself to help the girl out. Now is this pretentious of me? Yeah, I guess it could be. But hey it’s in my nature.
Thridly, I like to point out that I have NOTHING to gain from this other than some stimulating conversation. (possibly) I could see peoples distain if I were doing this on a bet or some shit like that but I’m not.
Also some of you seem to dislike my swelled ego. Well, OK so I have an ego (I call I confidence or high self esteem) that doesn’t necesarily preclude me from doing good things from time to time.
However, after saying all that; I’ve decided to change my plan of attack. We have a group here at work that often goes out for happy hour from time to time. Said group often asks her to come along but she never does. Myself? I never go either because I got better shit to do. Anyway * I’m thinking* maybe if I went along with the group and used my “charm” to get nerd girl to come along too, then maybe that might be a little better.
But I’m sure some of you will come along to tell me why I’m such an evil bastard for wanting to do this too.
So fuck it! go ahead SDlynch mob light your torches and burn me at the stake. Because I really don’t give a shit, I’m going to do what ever I think is the right thing to do. And if anybody don’t like it; they can kiss my ass.
I love when people act like jerkasses and then, when they get a negative reaction, they blame it on “PC.”. No, dude, you’re a condescending jerkoff and that has nothing to do with “PC.”
In any case, I invite those of you seeking Doper and nerd girl/boy love to join me over in my new thread to find some sweet sweet summer love.
That’s THIS thread. Got some more linkage? I’d loves me some nerd girl. 
SHAKES, you’re a real mental giant, eh? You, and you alone, posted this thread. We didn’t make you post this attempt at a “charitable” act. We are speaking on this girl’s behalf and acting on YOURS by giving you what you wanted… our opinions. Don’t ask the masses if you don’t want our opinions. Your ego needs a quick deflating, Bubba. Hurry, I think the bars are still open…
I am so irked with you that I refuse to quote your post SHAKES. I was like her once. Quiet, nerdy, and socially inept. It was people like you that set my social skills back another 5 years.
Your an asshole. Your ideas on what you think is the right thing are stupid. You need to leave that girl alone and move on.
Oh, and your sig is perfect for your frame of mind, fuckcicle…
So what was the point of asking her out?
As I recall, we last saw Ducky doing all right for himself.
actually, I’ll give credit to Shakes’ last post- inviting her out for with the after-work social group is not a bad idea at all.
Still looks like pity to me.
117 posts and not one of you asked this question.
Is her name Michelle? Does she play the clarinet? Does she ever regale you with tales of Band Camp? Does she have a penchant for screaming like a banshee in bed?
I’m so ashamed of you fellow Dopers. Have none of you pointed out the nerdiness that hides the animal within, as displayed American Pie?
Exactly. In fact, I reckon there’s probably a whole host of them thinking “What’s she doing trying to go out with him? He simply won’t appreciate her.”
Preach it!
I still say Shakes is an asshole of the highest order. Just because a girl doesn’t fancy going out to a “happy hour” to get blind drunk, doesn’t mean she hasn’t got any social skills. She just doesn’t want to spend her time in a bar.
duffer, Michelle played the flute.
I’m another nerd girl and I’ve got the papers and glasses to prove it. I’ve also know how the gentlemen who are interested in doing so can meet more nerd girls.
SHAKES, your description fits me pretty acurately or at least the impression I’ve been known to give, so let me tell you something honestly, not insultingly. Your plan on inviting the girl to hang out with others after work may not work and if it does, it may not be a good sign. You see, if it were me, while I might appreciate the offer, I woudn’t enjoy the evening. I don’t hang out in bars because I don’t like hanging out in bars. It’s usually too loud and too boring for my taste. It’s difficult getting to know a person if you have to shout to be heard. Also, if the girl’s as insecure as you make her out to be, putting her in an environment where she isn’t comfortable will just make things worse. If you’re serious about getting to know her better, try something different and fun. Maybe a movie you can talk about after, maybe a comedy club, maybe a concert. The morning news is talking about Robert Ballard’s visit to Pittsburgh to talk about the Titanic. I can see your eyes rolling at the idea of a lecture as fun, but I’d think it was fun and I’d be thrilled if a fellow asked me to it. One thing to watch out for. I can pick up on charitable vibes a mile away, and I don’t find them attractive.
The other advice I’ll give you is don’t overestimate her loneliness. I don’t date much, and I have very little conventional social life. I have a great unconventional one. I hang out with other nerds (the papers I referred to in the first paragraph include my Mensa membership among other things). The only men I’ve had sex with have been nerds, and it has been gooood! I’ve also enjoyed backrubs, hugs, good conversations, bad puns and double entendres which would make hard-core Dopers blush, and loved it. I hate hanging out in bars. On the other hand, this Saturday night, I’ll be at a Games Night, having a blast and enjoying every minute of it. Taran, if you’re serious about meeting nerd girls in Pittsburgh, send me an e-mail and I’ll give you more information. Catsix, and any other nerd-lovers around here, same goes for you.
I was shy, lonely, and insecure, and then I met and started to hang out with other nerdy, shy types and found them to be some of the best, most interesting, and most fun people I’ve known! As it happens, I do have some conventional attributes, including a love of football and baseball, the latter despite the Pirates. I also love singing beautiful, intricate music with my choir on Sunday mornings and playing with swords with the SCA on Sunday afternoons. I’m a nerd, and proud of it. As a date, I may not be conventional, but if you’re worth my time to date, I assure you, I will be fun. If I’m not, we’re better off without each other.
CJ