I’m confused about the difference here. Why is cat hating so much more of a personal flaw than dog hating?
Most of my deal-breakers have already been listed - smoking, religion, lack of integrity and mutual respect all score high on the list. As noted upthread, most of these would preclude rather than end relationships, as I’m not going to even consider dating a smoker or someone who is devoutly religious (of any persuasion).
The only time I ever broke up with anyone over a single issue, it was because she never disagreed with me. She had opinions, but then would change them immediately if I had a contrary opinion.
Her: Cool, Rush is going to be in town! Want to go?
Me: I don’t know; let me think about it. I’m not really that big a Rush fan.
Her: Well, I really don’t like them much either.
Yes, you do. Clearly you do, or you wouldn’t have sounded so excited to hear that they were coming around. A good response might have been, “I really like them. Come on, it’ll be fun.” Or, “Have you heard their new album? It’s really good. I’ll lend it to you, you might like it.” Or even, “Well, I’d really like to see them. I think I’ll see if a couple of my friends want to go.”
We don’t have to agree on everything, nor have precisely the same tastes or interests. Have your own thoughts!
I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but be VERY grateful you found this out before you married her.
“Have you been saved?”
or, to be ecumenical
“We must toss that tref bacon out of your refrigerator immediately. How could you?”
Even worse:
“How can you waste your money on all those books? I never read.”