And all this time I thought it was the Dog Whisperer doing that :smack:
Ignorance fought.
Hm…
I was going to ask if you two were in a relationship, but then I saw that AE clearly doesn’t put up with pettiness.
Haha…
Well played Kayaker, well played.
That is the worst smell on Earth.
Agreed. There are a lot of very valid dealbreakers here, but a lot that are just incredibly picky. Some of which are things that basically mean that you don’t want to be with a real person, because real people do a lot of these things from time to time.
I’d say smoking, but I don’t know if I could ever start dating a smoker to begin with, so it wouldn’t really even get that far. I don’t really know. I also hate tattoos, but I don’t think it would be an automatic disqualification.
Of course, that’s all hypothetical, since I’ve been off the market for over a decade, and my wife and I, while we have our little things that annoy one another, don’t have any big issues like this to worry about.
The only true dealbreaker for me was one I went through…when I was in college, I dated a girl for over 5 years. She didn’t want kids…I did. We kept waiting for one of us to change our minds, and we never did. Sorry, so sad, buh-bye. We are still on good terms, and we had a great relationship, but I knew that if we’d gotten married, we’d be divorced by now just because of that.
That is one of the classic dealbreakers, along with things like serious religious differences. My husband and I are different religions, but neither of us care about religion, so it doesn’t matter. I ended a relationship with a guy because he was a fundamentalist Christian (yeah, I was kidding myself - that one never had a future).
I could live with a lot, depending on the person - a smoker, a farter, a picky eater, obsession with cats, voting for the wrong political parties, etc. 
The one absolute bedrock deal-breaker for me, is someone who I don’t respect, or who does not respect me.
A relationship can survive a lot of superficial annoyances and differences of opinion, but it cannot survive (or rather, in my opinion it should not survive) a lack of mutual respect.
Something that ensured that a lot of first dates would not beget second ones: explaining what our life was going to be like, including that a wife must always make less money than her husband. By the time they got to explaining that I would eventually “be able” to stop working and dedicate myself to raising “his” children, my brain was already out of the door even though my body was still sitting down across the table.
It falls under several headings:
- completely incompatible values
- hi, I’m a person, not an item that’s going to fill a vacuum in the script of your life; I’d be interested in building a future with someone but not in being a prop in someone’s future
- and it tells me the guy is stupid. It takes a certain level of stupid to think that an engineer’s dream is to become a SAHM.
Dealbreakers, lemme see …
Poor hygiene and this includes bad breath;
Inflexible mindset - the Mr Know it All Moose thing is such a coverup for insecurity;
Unwillingness to work.
Incompatible sex differences.
Mental illness.
Fundamentalist religious practitioners.
Dogs in the house.
Borrowing my personal items.
Untrustworthiness. Dont even THINK about looking in my purse. I have nothing to hide but its a boundary thing.
Lying.
And prob more but thats a start.
I just let out the littlest tiniest poot and smirked.
The thing that first pops into my mind when you say "dealbreaker’ is “rude to the waitstaff”.
Necrophilia
Eating my food and then saying “I thought you bought it for me” No I didn’t, Greedigut. Contribute to the grocery bill or don’t eat.
No fanatics. Religious or political, of any persuasion.
No cats (can’t have them right now.)
Doesn’t like Rock Music and actively pushes me to listen to something else. I’ll listen through headphones or whatever in my own room but you do not get to “educate” me about “good” music.
If her relatives came to stay with us full time. I can tolerate their infrequent visits by hiding in the bedroom and pretending they aren’t there, but full time- NO WAY!
A woman who doesn’t like cats (I’m lucky, as they’re rather rare).
A woman with short hair (I’m unlucky, as there are more and more of them).
Yeah, what is it about all those women wearing “mancut” hairstyles?
Lack of integrity.
If I see you casually lie, misrepresent, cheat someone-anyone, I’m kinda done with you. How can you believe the take away, for me, is anything other than, 'I’m certain he’d as cooly do likewise to me, should it ever suit him!"?
Sorry, but if you have so little regard for personal integrity, as to openly act without it, it’s never going to work between us.
I’m a really firm believer that people show you, who they really are, all the time. You just have to ‘see’, is all.
It’s easier to take care of. I had very long hair cut off in college, and a couple male friends bitched and moaned about it so much, I told them if they loved my hair so much, I’d go retrieve the shorn locks and they could deal with washing and styling it.
Disrespect is a deal breaker. She was gorgeous, sexy, smart and apparently into me. I’d pursued her for a while before we started dating, so I was into her as well and she turned out to be even smarter and sexier once we were together. Then, at some party, she seemed to get a wild hair up her ass and decided to make me the butt of her jokes for the evening. It was a side of her I’d never seen, scoring cheap points at my expense with the old “come on, can’t you take a joke?” I was more confused than angry and, by the next day, she was no longer the least bit attractive to me. It was weird actually, like a switch had been turned off.
There is a difference between short hair and a “man cut” Think Elena Kagan for an unattractive hair style, while Edie Campbell’s short cut looks really attractive.
Edie Campbell’s short hair still needs a lot of styling. That fringe alone, UGH.
Not wanting to be with someone because they have a cat would be a deal breaker for me. Because I have a cat. And I’m not choosing someone else over her.
And even if, at some point in the future, after my cat has died and I am once again without feline companion (I really doubt I’ll ever try to replace her), if a potential boyfriend opens his mouth about how much he hates cats and can’t stand them, then that’s still a deal breaker for me.
I mean, I don’t even particularly love cats, but it says a lot about a person if they hate cats.
I like dogs way more than I like cats (in general), but I wouldn’t bat an eye at someone who said they hated dogs and refused to be with someone who owned or wanted to own a dog. But cat hating is just a huge personal flaw to me.