It’s not bothersome when that is the entire aim. It’s victory!
Poster A: I have an unwanted pregnancy, but I don’t want to have an abortion and it’s making me extremely anxious and I’m attached to it but it has to go.
Poster B: Pop it out and just send it over to me if you hate it so much, baby-killer!
CP you say you keep your ultrasound photo near your bed and react to it emotionally. No child will fare well from dealing with adult emotional problems such as yours. He shares the bed, and sees the photo, and feels things going on in his environment, and if he is real YOUR ISSUES are affecting him.
Everyone is telling you this. Google up EMOTIONAL INCEST, kids are smart and they take everything in, and they blame themselves for the pain that the adult is going through. Please get help.
I didn’t say it was in a frame on my nightstand. He wasn’t even with me at that time. (I actually don’t have a nightstand.) It was tossed on the floor next to my purse.
Stop making up shit. I say, “I put cereal, a banana, Craisins, and a protein bar in his lunch” and it turns into “She only feeds him little baggies of stale Cheerios for lunch because she’s a bad mom!”
And some people are very good at locking down their emotions when around others. I most certainly don’t act anything but cheerful when I’m at work, and I’ve never broken down sobbing about anxiety in front of my kid.
I mean, really. Your bs isn’t even hurtful anymore.
Wait - either that got moved or I was in the wrong thread. :o
If Poster A’s angst was just one page long, then maybe she’d be justified in being miffed by Poster B’s reaction. But your saga is on its trillionith page and we still don’t know what you plan on doing. Do you think people are endless wells of sympathy? Eventually even the softest heart get a little tough.
Bullshit.
Your own post of “Sometimes my son goes to school with only cereal in his lunch sack because I’m too anxious to go to the grocery store” is what gave people the impression that you only sent him to school with cereal in his lunch sack because you were too mentally ill to feed him correctly.
IOW - if you write something that explicitly says something, don’t be surprised when people actually take it as what you mean to say.
Cite where I said he only had cereal.
Again: WHAT DO THINK YOU WILL GAIN BY POSTING ALL THIS ON HERE. No one will give you a pass if you keep cherry picking which points you address. Well meaning people are telling you how you are looking to others. Instead of blaming us maybe look at yourself. What you are doing is not having the effect you want. And it ain’t because of us.
If you don’t think sending him to school with cereal for lunch is a bad thing, then why in the hell did you post it? We didn’t make this up. We are only working with the information you have provided us.
Obviously if you had created the impression that he was eating a balanced meal, people wouldn’t have jumped on you. But you did not create this impression. So either you were exaggerating how underfed your son is in the other thread or you are steeped in denial.
Oh I’m sorry, the word “only” didn’t appear in that post - however the post was still “Sometimes my son goes to school with cereal in his lunch sack because I can’t go to the grocery store” and this made you feel bad.
Yet when it was noted as a contrast to your further commentary that your son is meticulously cared for, suddenly “cereal lunch” is part of “Breakfast lunch Fridays” and no big deal because it’s fun and he likes it. So why is it related to your not having gone to the grocery store, and something you feel you should feel bad about?
Where was the kid if he wasn’t with you? Doesn’t he sleep in your bed? When you said ‘there’s an ultrasound photo next to my bed’ people took it to mean that you were keeping an ultrasound photo next to your bed. Are you saying that you just looked at the photo briefly while sitting on the bed during the day, when your son wasn’t there? Because that’s not what most people would understand ‘a photo next to my bed’ to mean.
Oh come on, you said:
And from that we were supposed to understand that you really meant ‘I always make sure my son has a healthy balanced lunch every day because I’m a great mom!’. Please.
ETA: Okay, I got ninja’d while writing that. You didn’t say he only got cereal. But, praytell, where the hell did the banana come from if you couldn’t handle the store? Do you have magical bananas in your parts that last two weeks? Because I could use some of those.
Because she didn’t say she “only” sends him to school with cereal, Meyer, we’re supposed to infer that Cereal day is Fun Breakfast Fridays and is a cool thing that she’s never stressed out or anxious about because of her inability to go to the grocery store because of her anx…
Um.
LOLIDUNNO
Okay, I’ll play.
Show us where someone accused you of giving your child “stale” cereal for lunch.
Show us where someone said you had “framed” the ultrasound.
See which side the exaggeration is coming from?
Wasn’t aware we had a Autistic Doper’s Guild. Can’t you filter anything? Does everything have to be hyper-literal?
MPSIMS Post # 261 sez “there is an ultrasound photo next to my bed…” , the point is your son, if he is real, he is smart enough to take in your pain, even if you are trying to hide it from him. You do not seem to be considering the position you are putting him in (if he is real) .
<pulls out hair>
Because Friday is breakfast-for-lunch day. It doesn’t matter if that makes sense to you, monstro. It matters to me. And if I know we need to get to the grocery store but I’m stressed and anxious, I feel like a POS for being anxious. He’s never gone to school without a good lunch.
I kind of pride myself on his lunches, his clothes, his sweet nature, and his homework that he turns in. I also visit him during his lunchtime often. The other moms rarely do that, and most of them don’t work at all. I work p/t, but not because I only want to work p/t.
And i hate the anxiety i feel when I pull up to his school but I do it anyway. My IMHO thread was me worrying that the anxiety would get to the point where I couldn’t handle it and then I wouldn’t be participating in school activities or taking him out to eat on Fridays before shul. Because I’ve been that way before, when he was much younger and wasn’t in school yet and didn’t notice.
You only made up your post about Breakfast Day Fridays after people picked up on your initial commentary about sending him to school with cereal in his packed lunch because you were unable to go to the grocery store.
You see now also why people are having difficulty believing the veracity of your claims, when only half the story is told, people accept your tale and then suddenly OH NO it’s COMPLETELY THE OPPOSITE when the rest of the details come out.
I can guarantee had nobody smelt the eau de poisson and picked up on said sentence as evidence that perhaps Mother of The Year isn’t in your future, the story about Breakfast Fun Fridays would never have come to light.
Sweet fancy Moses, it’s like you want this madness added to your internet history.
If you are confusing people both in this thread and in the other thread, perhaps you should consider that it is you who has a communication problem. Which could be fixed by simply not talking so much. That way you don’t have to worry about being misunderstood.