Haj…
I was on the bus for a few summer tours and various other midwest tours. Sadly only got 87 “jerry” shows…
I knew several associates that financed tour with a front of some kick ass blotter, so yes, it does happen. But as you pointed out, to anyone but feds, these were lower level and a strong group of acquaintances.
I did not have to play the game cause I was a food vendor…specializing in gourmet grill cheese and fresh baked cookies. I did tend to barter a lot.
I am curious, what does the UK NHS offer in the way of support for addicts? I know the US is a shit show if you have no money or insurance.
If you’ve ruled out a divorce (which would be my first recommendation), then you might as well sell that violin now—or, at a minimum, store it someplace where your wife can’t get it. If you don’t, sooner or later she’ll pawn it.
I have heard of ones who do for women, and they get repaid in the obvious way if no cash is forthcoming.
I GET this. Been there and my wife was never a drug addict, fortunately, though her mental health issues manifested in other difficult ways.
But by saying this you are pretty much condoning her drug use, cheating (if that happens), prostitution (typical way drug debts are paid) or basically anything your wife does just because you married her and had a kid with her. I don’t think marriage vows only work one-way. I think hiding drug use and spiraling debt breaks some kind of vow. And don’t be surprised if she does much worse since you have given her permission.
That said, I’m the last guy to advocate divorce if things can be worked out. I’m just saying it sounds like you are going out of your way to enable your wife’s destructive behavior that puts you and your child in danger (economic and otherwise) and then the whole burden is on you running around scrambling to come up with money and bail her out.
Yep. That is very common.
Two of my friends did stints prison because of blotter. They were selling sheets. Deadheads with some blotter are a different culture than coke dealers.
You talked to the dealer?? What the hell? Screw the dealer.
Dude, you’re delusional and your priorities are all screwed up. Forget the dealer and (for now at least) forget your wife. Your one and only priority at this point is your son. Your son is not safe with her. All of your time, money, and energy from here on out should be spent on getting custody of your son.
That is the most absurd judgment of someone you don’t even know that I’ve ever heard. Do you get all your opinions from Hollywood?
Jiminy Christmas, how much is coke in the UK? 600 pounds is what, $700 US? That’s enough to buy half an ounce here almost, and that’s 14 grams! You know someone that’s done TWICE that amount in a couple hours? Good grief.
Its an ugly thought, but… all those intimate moments and things between the OP and his wife? Her drug dealer (and every disease he has) has likely shared many of them too.
Its STD Testing Time… and you may not like the results.
There is no indication that OP’s was screening her dealer which is why there is a debt.
Wait, you yourself (about 6 or so posts ago) said that this is very common. I’m not disagreeing with you. I’m taking the proactive step of saying that if this is very common, then shared partner history in this situation is very common.
If there is shared partner history with her drug dealer (yes, I’m being unfair to drug dealers. They can sue me for defamation, I’m sure. :rolleyes: ) then STD testing is very important.
Some diseases are life altering… and life ending. I stand by ‘get tested’ as advice. Hell, it might even help the OP in court with the divorce.
It’s very common, particularly with coke. And an std test is cheap and easy to do so it is definitely a reasonable and a good idea to get one. I agree with you. It’s just that the fact that there is an outstanding debt makes me think that she wasn’t working it off that way.
A paternity test might not be a bad idea either.
Sadly, I get the impression that Delicious isn’t all that interested in the child, except maybe as a chick magnet if he gets custody. :smack:
Well I managed to get the £300 and met with the dealer, he was surprisingly pleasant and said there’s no rush on paying back the rest.
That has been mentioned, also Mrs Delicious is going to have to get an evening/weekend job to pay back the people I borrowed from.
So because someone has an addiction, there’re going to become a prostitute? Does that count for all people or just women? All drugs too or just illegal ones?
Also nearwildheaven…actually I think there’s rules against replying to that how I would like…let’s just say you’re very wrong.
Look, just because it pissed you off doesn’t mean its bad advice. What does a test cost you? What might it save you?
Fine, I’ll work on my diplomacy. Still, not everyone who pisses you off has your worst interests in mind.
I do work near a STD testing place, could be a no harm, no foul situation…I’ll take the advice on board.
I don’t know how child welfare works in your country but in the US it can get very complicated if your wife is involved in a drug related incident with the child.
You as the protective, non using parent may be placed in a situation you don’t want to be in.
It might be a good idea to talk to an attorney as soon as possible about what you can do to protect your child. Find an attorney who practices in family law and knows the systems you could potentially be dealing with.