Hello fellow straight dopers! Fellow straight dopers because although I’ve only posted but a few times, I’ve been aboard and a member for quite some time. I’ve laughed, learned, and at times found peace through you all. This thread comes to you with me trying to understand how someone can be so deceiving and still live with themselves. You see, I met and fell in love with a doper, he introduced me to you all. I met him on-line quite some time ago. Our initial correspondence was through e-mail only. Soon that was not enough for him and he began telephoning me. Of course, he then wanted to meet in person. With some persuading, I gave in. The doper has been the most charming man I could imagine. After being in a marriage, that I felt had gone stale, for 12 years, the doper promised to show me and my children a new life… give me the world. I divorced my husband and began making plans with my doper. He soon became a frequent visitor to my home. Although he lived in Thunder Bay, Ont. and I in Sault Ste. Marie, Mi., he willingly made the trip back and forth at least a couple of times a month. I opened my heart to this man and let my children learn to love him. Through this courting, I discovered that my sweet charming fiance was/is still a married man, with a child. Something that he totally forgot to mention. When confronted, he explained that he was in the process of divorce and didn’t want to hurt me with the details. (He told me in the beginning he was single). Stupidly, I believed blindly in him and the love that he so urgently professed. My doper then decided he could no longer live without me and made the move from Thunder Bay to Sault Ste. Marie; “our” life begins. Usually, I am not so naive, but as I said this doper knew how to lay on the charm. Recently, through a phone bill, I find that my sweet charming doper has been sweet charming other fellow dopers. To the effect of hours of late-night phone calls and high telephone bills. Not just one, but many. I confronted my doper and he said they were just friends he was trying to “get rid of.” Believing myself to be liberally thinking, I accepted his explaination. If you are a avid doper you will recall my sweet charming Hannu seeking his own advice on how to win back my affections. My doper recently took a trip home to Europe to visit family. He informed me that he had cut all contact with the others he was charming along the way and when he came home our life of bliss would be restored. Upon his return, I asked if he’d continued his contact with the others. His response was no, that he’d informed them that he’d be out of the country for a month and that he hoped to be free of them. From what I’ve learned through a little checking, my gypsy made a side trip to another fellow doper who now is his gypsyBG. Reading through a romance thread and through some other things, I’ve discovered that my gypsy really gets around. For weeks following his return home, my gypsy and I have had mornings, afternoons, and nights filled with passion. Just a couple of nights ago, I learned of his continued deceit. I ask you fellow dopers once again, how can a person use and abuse others and think nothing of it. My family, friends, and most disheartening - my children, have grown to believe in and love this man. If any of you dopers have wondered why the gypsy is “unforgiven,” let the truth be told.
To gypsyBG - I have spoken to you and the others once wondering why you were on my fiances phone bill so often. You explained that you were his “friend.” A word to the wise, you are being used and abused. I am not bitter, nor am I expecting to gain anything by exposing my gypsy for ?man? he really is. What I’d like for all his “others” is to be observant, the truth will eventually come out.
To gypsy from your babygirl… you have not given me the world. You have destroyed my world and everything I believed could be real. You’ve lied to my family, friends, and my children… you are the loser in this scenario!