Don’t you dare call her.
She said she’d call you. That means two thing: One, if she calls she’s interested, and if she isn’t, she won’t, and she’s expecting you to take the hint. Two, it means don’t you dare call her! 'I’ll call you" means…I’ll call you (not.)"
She sent you a very clear message, without the wonders of telecommunication!
You’ve interpreted the situation correctly. Calling her again doesn’t make you creepy, but, it does show that one is a dork/clueless. She’s wasted enough of your time.
I think this is the best post of this thread; simple, good advice along with an accurate reading of the situation described in the OP. You have nothing to lose by calling a second time, but don’t build up any unrealistic expectations of her possible responses.
^^ Honestly, no one could have been more surprised than I was to see that I had apparently posted! I was just reading along in the thread, interested but with no urge to contribute my two cents, when I come upon a nonsensical post with my username!!! My cat had crossed my keyboard a couple times in the last minute or two (it’s on his way from one favorite resting place to another), so all I can figure is that he somehow did this? Not quite sure if that is really possible, but I have no other explanation!
If she was really interested in you, she would have kissed you on the first date… at least a kiss on the cheek. I’m afraid a friend hug doesn’t cut it as “interested.”
Online dating has never worked for me. I think it is just better to meet women in person and get the number the ol’ fashioned way. I ran into a lot of psychos on dating sites (this is from my experience only).
I’ve gone on to have sex with women who I didn’t even hug on the first date. It’s odd but yeah, some people aren’t high on physical contact. Hell, one in particular we went out twice and never made more than brief incidental contact and on the third date we slept together, so like 99% of these rules I’ve heard in my life, it isn’t a rule at all just a reflection of the person espousing it and their experiences.
There is no set answer that fits every situation, esp since none of us know her in even a casual way so as to be able to interpret things, but the basic signal to me is her taking the calling job from you.
Just to be clear, I did say “If… you really can’t tell.” If he gets a perfunctory refusal with another transparent excuse and a clear desire to finish the conversation, I think he can take the hint. I’m just saying it’s not inexcusable to politely request clarification if things are too ambiguous.
For the record, it is inexcusable to intentionally ignore hints just so there’s an opportunity to punish the woman in question by rudely forcing her to be rude back.
It’s a tough situation, esp if like you said prospects are rare, but I have to agree with ReticulatingSplines. She said she’d call, let her call. If she doesn’t, this is a very bad sign that things are wrong. The ball is in her court because she took it. Stand down and lay low.
Sorry, kid; you either missed the whole point of her saying "I’ll call you,’ or you’re an outlier.
And, the idea isn’t to be thought of in good terms, the idea is a second date, which, I’ll prophesy, ain’t gonna happen.
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