Shodan, I know you were joking, but there was something I thought I’d pick up on. You see, I’m reasonably sure I’d enjoy sex with rjung and spogga, but I don’t think I would with you.
I’m very conservative in my sexual morality, which means, bluntly, no sex without a commitment. On the other hand, I enjoy the hell out of it!!! Forget unpleasant; I haven’t had a voluntary sexual experience with a man which hasn’t led to me bouncing off the ceiling several times. I have a strong and powerful sex drive, and I believe in giving as good as I get, and what I’ve gotten has been very good indeed, if I’m not repeating myself. There may be people in this thread who’ve had more lovers in a day than I’ve had in my life, but I like to think I’ve made up for it in quality.
Here’s the thing. While sex is indescribably hot, sexy, fun to me, part of that commitment I mentioned means I will only have sex with a man I trust. From interacting with you on various threads, Shodan, I would be too worried about being judged negatively or harshly by you. You come across as much more absolutist than I am and, while bodies are fun, wonderful things, I’m of the opinion that the body’s main sexual organ is the brain followed quickly by the heart. The gentlemen I have had sex with have had the ability to get me off by words and thought alone. If I said to you on a Sunday morning while we were getting ready for church, “Shodan, I’m feeling incredibly horny right now and I’d really like to ---- your ---- right now!” assuming we wouldn’t miss any church (OK, maybe the first bars of the opening hymn), I don’t know if you’d be appalled or say “Great!” Shodan, if you condemn homosexuals for having sex outside of marriage (come to think of it, I don’t remember if you do or not), then how could I support me having sex with you outside of marriage? Then again, realistically, I hardly know you and I don’t intend to hurt you, merely to make a point.
One thing I’ll kick out is that I’m still aware of a dichotomy. I’m a nice, small-town girl, and a devout Christian. I still get the impression that girls like me aren’t supposed to enjoy sex or be into it nearly as much as I am when it’s available. I am still a prisoner of the old virgin vs. slut dichotomy, and I spend far too much time in religious debates about homosexual sexuality. I believe sexuality is a gift from God and a wonderful and powerful one. I don’t believe it’s exclusively for procreation. In my experience it tends to be a very powerful drive which binds people together which is why I’m not into casual sex.
I’ve also seen too many people hurt because they go into sex with different expectations. There’s a gentleman I know who I know is more than willing to have sex with me and who I have every reason to believe would be damn good in bed, and not just because of some of the backrubs he’s given me. The problem is, in a relationship, we’d destroy each other, and I couldn’t have sex with him without wanting a relationship.
Back to the OP. Do women enjoy sex? Speaking solely for myself, hell, yes!!! Is it different for women? I don’t know enough men or women in that way to know for sure.
Respectfully,
CJ