I was thinking about this today for some reason – I definitely sleep best when there is someone else in the room. I have always assumed this had something to do with cuddling the SO, but I think it is more general than that.
For instance, when I lived in the dorms (shudder), I slept in the same room w/ my roommate nearly every night. It was somewhat comforting just to hear someone else’s breathing, I suppose. I spent this summer working at a Boy Scout camp, and naturally I shared my cabin with one of the other few females present. I noticed that I seemed to wake up more easily in the morning and have an easier time falling asleep while I was there. This could have partly been due to other factors, but there seems to be a correlation between me sleeping in the same room with someone else and feeling better about myself. I have been dealing with depression the last few months, and it seems to be worst when I sleep alone.
How about you? Do you prefer company when you sleep (sexual opportunities aside ;))? Or would you rather be alone? Why and under what circumstances?
I sleep much better alone. I tend to toss and turn, and I hate the thought that I’m disturbing someone else’s sleep. Plus, if I’m sleeping alone, nobody is poking me in the side, telling me to quit snoring!
I don’t sleep well***** regardless of the number of people in my bed.
My preference, however, is to cuddle/spoon with an SO and in the days/weeks following a breakup, I miss that at night. I’m fairly used to sleeping alone, though, so I suppose that’s the norm.
*: Details coming soon.
alone, definitely. otherwise, the other person and i will start talking and talking and talking and talking and talking and talking and talking and… you get the picture. also, whenever i roll over in bed, the other person’s gonna complain, definitely, and vice versa. besides, what if the other guy kicks when s/he sleeps? my sister did, and every night, precisely 3 AM, she’d kick me awake and we’d have a brief pushing fight, where i’d try to push her away from me and vice versa. ugh…
On a narrow dorm bed, I slept better with someone else - I wasn’t able to toss and turn by virtue of being squeezed up against the wall.
On my queen-sized bed, I struggle to fall asleep with someone else. I’d happily spoon until we fell asleep, but the open space of the bed invites me to roll onto my other shoulder, lie on my stomach, et cetera, which tends to make snuggling more difficult.
I can fall asleep easily in my large bed with someone else if the someone else is not on my romantic-interest list. In those circumstances, I can just curl up on one side of the bed and snooze away. I think the solution is to sleep on the couch when I have a SO, and back in the bed when I’m by myself.
With someone else, definitely. I don’t actually snuggle while I sleep, but I like it better if there is another person in the bed, or at least a large cat or dog. The noises of someone else’s breathing help me relax (as long as they aren’t snoring.) I just feel safer when there’s someone else with me.
With someone else, but best with the SO. I really dislike being alone, and have been known to climb into my sister’s bed when I get too lonely/freaked out. Also, I like the body warmth.
I definetely sleep better with my wife there. I like the cuddling thing I guess. Plus she is so fun to mess with in bed(not sex well sex too but you know tickling,wrestling etc.)
I never sleep well - chronic insomnia. As long as the company doesn’t snore too badly, I probably sleep about as well with someone there. I tend to toss and turn and wakd up a lot, though, so I’m concerned I’ll disturb the other person. And I’m at the point in my life where I crave physical contact (not necessarily sexual, though there is that craving, too), so snuggling and spooning is wonderful.
What I said in the OP about myself refers only to sleeping indoors. When I am out backpacking or something, I like to be far away from people when I sleep, and that includes the people I’m with. When I’m alone, I really feel like I can commune with my surroundings better.
I’ve had problems with depression myself, and I think that sleeping in the same vicinity as someone I care about makes me feel a little better when I’m blue. So, maybe it’s not the fact that there’s a person there…Maybe it depends on the specific person. I dunno…
Truthfully, for the best rest, alone. But for comfort, with spouse (and a pair of earplugs to drown out his “chortling”). I do NOT like sharing with anyone else, whether it be the same bed or room.
In a king size bed, sometimes it feels as if I’m sleeping alone, when hubby and I settle in back to back. But when he’s out of town, I hear every creak of the house and every leaf that rustles outside. I definitely sleep better with him home.
