I am recently engaged and have designated one of my best friends to plan my bachelor party (not either of my two best men; debauchery just isn’t their thing). I can tell that he’s got very grand ideas which, of course, involve strippers.
My fiancée is dead-set against strippers. This is not, I repeat, not because she doesn’t trust me. She does and neither I or my friend have any interest in having hookers involved in the party. But she finds the whole concept of a naked woman crawling all over me a week before the wedding to be absolutely disgusting. (She also believes a large number of strippers are merely prostitutes forced to strip as a “day job,” something she picked up while working for an anti-trafficking group. I think that’s true in some cases, but not most. Especially since I have known a girl who was genuinely “stripping through college.”) She doesn’t want to think about it at all and, even though the bachelor party is sworn to secrecy, she knows there’ll be strippers unless I tell her there won’t be. So she wants me to say there’ll be no strippers. (Lying to her is not an option here.)
I sort of balked at this at first. Not because I’m dead set on having strippers, but because I figure, my bachelor party = my terms. But after talking to her for awhile about it, I understand the depth of her feelings on the subject and have decided to go along with her wishes. My friend who’s planning the party is giving me the whole line about her having control, slippery slope, etc. But that’s just his nature. He also warned me that she’d throw out all my stuff after we moved in together (she didn’t, and anything of mine that’s gone has been replaced by something better we both like).
So my fiancée and I agreed that there’d be no strippers but that anything else that didn’t involve infidelity would be allowed and that she couldn’t make any further requests, nor could she contact my friend about his plans.
So I know I’m basically asking for advice on something that’s already been resolved, but I guess I just want to know if anyone thinks the entire episode and its resolution is a reasonable way of going about things. Thoughts?