[QUOTE=Autolycus]
(I wish there were more young, silly, spontaneous young bucks like me around on this forum, but I will sincerely try less hard to fit in and just go with the flow, sans TMI)
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Young, silly and spontaneous are good things. But they are good in moderation. Learn a little moderation and you’ll do just fine.
[QUOTE=What Exit?]
Hook up with LOUNE, he manages a lot of the silliness and the flirting without exposing his life anywhere near as much as you . . .
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See, that’s one thing that even after 5 years of lurking on The Dope I have never fully understood. Sometimes revealing extremely personal information and extremely graphic TMI is loved and cherished, and sometimes it’s anathema. Where is the line drawn? Some people can post about their extra-marital affairs and shaving their butt crack, and some people get blasted for talking about cheating on their girlfriend or having a strange abcess.
I’m not insulted. This has nothing to do with this thread really, I’m just sincerely curious and figured better here than elsewhere. Anyone have an opinion?
[QUOTE=What Exit?]
You forgot the pitchforks and torches. Never forget the pitchforks and torches.
**Cervaise ** is not one of the most prolific posters by any means. He is user #251 so he is one of the longest running posters. He posts less than 5 per day. There are probably a hundred posters that post more and dozens with more posts. His advice to you was polite and pretty good.
Jim
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Okay, I have to ask again, because remembering stuff is hard; how do you find out which # member you are?
[QUOTE=Autolycus]
Some people can post about their extra-marital affairs and shaving their butt crack, and some people get blasted for talking about cheating on their girlfriend or having a strange abcess.
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Look at who is posting it, how long they’ve been here, how often they post that kind of thing, and what else they’ve posted. People that make positive contributions to varied topics establish a certain persona/rapport with other posters–so when they do post something a little out there, it’s viewed differently than some guy that signs up and starts umpteen threads of bullshit.
[QUOTE=Autolycus]
See, that’s one thing that even after 5 years of lurking on The Dope I have never fully understood. Sometimes revealing extremely personal information and extremely graphic TMI is loved and cherished, and sometimes it’s anathema. Where is the line drawn? Some people can post about their extra-marital affairs and shaving their butt crack, and some people get blasted for talking about cheating on their girlfriend or having a strange abcess.
I’m not insulted. This has nothing to do with this thread really, I’m just sincerely curious and figured better here than elsewhere. Anyone have an opinion?
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I think it is mostly how much of it you do. You have apparently been doing a lot of it and if I did not read this pit thread, I would have had little clue about how much you did reveal in the other thread.
If you do ever figure out where the fine line is, please let the rest of know. 
featherlou, just hover the mouse over your username in the thread view or click on it to go to your user profile. In the address bar the numbers following U= at the end is your user number. You are user 10463.
Jim
[QUOTE=Autolycus]
See, that’s one thing that even after 5 years of lurking on The Dope I have never fully understood. Sometimes revealing extremely personal information and extremely graphic TMI is loved and cherished, and sometimes it’s anathema. Where is the line drawn? Some people can post about their extra-marital affairs and shaving their butt crack, and some people get blasted for talking about cheating on their girlfriend or having a strange abcess.
I’m not insulted. This has nothing to do with this thread really, I’m just sincerely curious and figured better here than elsewhere. Anyone have an opinion?
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Good question. Like I said in a different thread recently, posting here is more of an art than a science. Maybe it depends more on the context than what is actually posted. Maybe it depends on the poster.
Anybody got any better ideas?
[QUOTE=Autolycus]
Some people can post about their extra-marital affairs and shaving their butt crack, and some people get blasted for talking about cheating on their girlfriend or having a strange abcess.
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Can post about is one thing – is liked, admired, and respected for posting about is another. There are very few (if any?) people in the constant-TMI category who are considered valuable members of the community.
Thanks, What Exit?. I’m #10,463! WooT!
[QUOTE=Colibri]
It’s not merely the amount of posting, it’s the quality. As you have noted, **Cervaise’s ** posts are often just one-liners, and are usually funny. **Cervaise **, as far as I have ever noticed, doesn’t start a whole lot of threads; and doesn’t post a lot of personal information. (And as has been noted, his post count is in part due to a very long time on the board.) In fact, despite your very different number of posts and amount of time here, I think I know more personal information about you than I do about Cervaise.
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Well, we know this. You don’t want to piss him off.
[QUOTE=Oakminster]
Look at who is posting it, how long they’ve been here, how often they post that kind of thing, and what else they’ve posted. People that make positive contributions to varied topics establish a certain persona/rapport with other posters–so when they do post something a little out there, it’s viewed differently than some guy that signs up and starts umpteen threads of bullshit.
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All of his topics might not be my cup of tea, but to be fair he did ask for a little guidance before.
Alice, I enjoy your posts.
[QUOTE=Q.E.D.]
Ok, but I’m not wearing those baggy pants. They make my ass look big.
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Yeah, but nobody would ever notice the ladle in there.
[QUOTE=Contrapuntal]
Well, we know this. You don’t want to piss him off.
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::Sniff:: That pitting is a thing of beauty, thank you for sharing it Contrapuntal.
**Cervaise ** that was brilliant, a pit thread for all of us to live up to.
Jim
[QUOTE=Q.E.D.]
Ok, but I’m not wearing those baggy pants. They make my ass look big.
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What about the really big shoes? You KNOW what they say about a man who wears big shoes, right?
[QUOTE=Duke of Rat]
Yeah, but nobody would ever notice the ladle in there.
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I’m sorry, you have me confused with somebody else. There’s nothing up there, certainly not a l…
OH MY GOD, WHAT THE HELL IS THAT???
[QUOTE=alice_in_wonderland]
You KNOW what they say about a man who wears big shoes, right?
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They’re compensating for a really small penis?
[QUOTE=Q.E.D.]
They’re compensating for a really small penis?
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No - they have really big feet, silly.
A joke before I go out for a while:
Q: What do you get when you cross sodomy with The Sound of Music?
A: Anal Vice
Q: What do you get when you add Autolycus into that?
A: Ladle Vice 
Thank thank you. I’ll be here until the meltdown 
[QUOTE=What Exit?]
::Sniff:: That pitting is a thing of beauty, thank you for sharing it Contrapuntal.
**Cervaise ** that was brilliant, a pit thread for all of us to live up to.
Jim
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He was blessed by a reply from the pitee, allowed him to retort.
[QUOTE=Duke of Rat]
He was blessed by a reply from the pitee, allowed him to retort.
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Wow, that was withering and such a ripe target. I see she disappeared soon after this pitting.
Jim
[QUOTE=Autolycus]
See, that’s one thing that even after 5 years of lurking on The Dope I have never fully understood. Sometimes revealing extremely personal information and extremely graphic TMI is loved and cherished, and sometimes it’s anathema. Where is the line drawn? Some people can post about their extra-marital affairs and shaving their butt crack, and some people get blasted for talking about cheating on their girlfriend or having a strange abcess.
I’m not insulted. This has nothing to do with this thread really, I’m just sincerely curious and figured better here than elsewhere. Anyone have an opinion?
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I was thinking about the answer to this while you were posting the question. And here are my thoughts.
Your TMI is personal and disturbing and there’s a sense that you are having a difficult time with it. So far, we know that your parents are worried about you and your school is worried about you and now you have whole threadfuls of people on The Dope worried about you. You’re projecting something that requires people to worry about you. People don’t like that. They’ve got enough on their plate to worry about without having to worry about someone else. (Giving support or sympathy falls into another category and you’re not in it) So because they don’t like that, they get mad. . . at you.
If you ever think you want to make the world a better place, think about being happier, getting your life together and being stable. It’s the best gift you can give anyone. . . the freedom not to have to worry about you.
Having said that, I do realize that people in your age group really are at high-risk and it’s kinda hard to get your life together enough that it’s on easy street compared to others here. But the more you can go in that direction, the more you’re doing people a favor.
As for your posting, the more you can separate your playful posts, which may be TMI from your worrisome posts which are TMI, the happier many people will be. And if necessary, ask for help and support in different threads than the playful ones. Then at least, we know you’re serious about getting help and the playful posts are just that–playful.