No Happy, I don’t. I don’t get in people’s faces over grammar here on SDMB.
But to snark me over a grammar mistake I didn’t even make? Uh-uh. I don’t take that. Tell Shakester to back the fuck off and take it elsewhere; I didn’t start this fight.
Dude, is there some ugly grammar history between you two? Is there some reason to believe he was even addressing you? Ya know, as people post grievances here, they’re not automatically addressing them to the previous poster. So unless you have some prior history with Shakester, I don’t know why you’d even assume he was addressing you in any way, shape or form.
Relax. You have a beef? Don’t shit in my thread.
My first post in this thread was “addressed” to someone I know in real life - I was airing a grievance against someone I know, just like everyone else in the thread.
Yes, it was right after your post, but I think you need to re-read the thread because it was in no way directed at you; I was just continuing the same sort of thing as most of the other posters in this thread.
I’m certainly not going to apologise to you because I didn’t say anything about you - yes you did start the fight, by taking something personally when it should have been obvious that it wasn’t directed at you.
- I know how many people have it much worse, but it sucks that I just had to take a $1000 cut in pay. Especially when the $1000 in question is for insurance reinbursement that means you were paying me extra to save the company money.
- It sucks that we lost our 401k matching this year but at least this seems reasonable in face of the economy and bookings.
- It sucks that the economy is so bad that I need to keep telling myself, “Self, at least you still have a job instead of being free to really rant.”
Katriona, we have one in common, this is my oldest friend.
- “Stop whining at me about the election. Your guy ran a shitty campaign with a worse running mate and deservedly lost fair and square. I had nothing to do with it. Get over it.”
Happy Festivus!
Hee - mine is my dad. He’s take to holding me personally responsible for the “liberals” and all of their actions lately. Dunno what’s up with that, but damn, it’s annoying!
Most folks in the thread so far used numbers or asterisks, as they had multiple grievances.
Your unnumbered grammar grievance, following right on the heels of my explanatory post to Baker, made it look (to me at least) like you were sniping my grammar.
Since that’s not the case, I apologize.
Hmmm… grievances…
*I needed that car loan. But noooo, the economy is so bad than even if I could scrape together half the car’s asking price as a down payment, you’re denying me a loan for the other half. You suck.
*You didn’t want to give the kitten an X-ray the first time we went in. Two weeks later when he was still limping and the X-ray showed a broken hip, it was too late for anything but orthopedic surgery. Thanks. Thankfully, he’s not hurting, just has a limp. But still, screw you for wanting to get us out of the office faster and saying he’ll “stay off it if it hurts” and he’ll get better on his own.
*Would you please just decide whether you’re keeping me forever or not? I’m kind of tired of waiting and not sure what else I need to do to prove my worth.
Wow, I’d have thought I could come up with more grievances. Guess it’s been a good year.
Then we’re cool. I love a happy ending, thanks. 
*You’re a useless drug addict bitch who is not only too fucked up but too lazy to care for her own mistreated children, which is why you volunteered to give them up over the summer since you “needed a break,” have only seen them once in the five months since then, and haven’t bothered to get into rehab for your numerous addictions. Your older son in particular has major emotional scars from your idiocy. It’s a shame you had kids at all, and it’s a shame you’ll likely get them back sooner or later. The best thing for everybody would probably be if you just OD’ed already.
*You, as her husband, are a total fucking moron. That’s why you’ve spent most of the year in jail for hitting your wife. Nobody wants to support you any more, although the positive side is, you’ve conclusively proved to everybody that you don’t deserve it. Your younger son has breathing problems because of your smoking. You have sole custody but you’re too stupid to leave your wife, just like you’re too stupid to stay away from her when she pretends to reconcile with you even though she still has a restraining order against you. (Oh yes, you’re also too stupid not to punch your wife.) You’re a bad parent on your own and a terrible combination with that emotional tornado of a dope fiend, and it sucks that after your family members have done a good job loving and caring for your sons for months, sooner or later the two of you will get a second crack at screwing them up. I expect you’ll finish the job, much as I hope it’ll be different this time.
*My girlfriend had long ago told me you were a total bastard, and I could tell you were an asshole when I met you this spring, but until she visited you again this Christmas I didn’t understand how terrible a father you actually are. You abuse her mother daily and threaten to leave her unless she fucks you whenever you demand it, and even so, you threaten to cheat on her with other women (and maybe you do, based on that phone number she found in your wallet). Your kids know what’s going on, and you’ve got no conception of how much damage this has done to your daughter and also to your younger sons, who probably think this is a reasonable and somewhat normal way to treat a woman. Of course, you would notice this if you weren’t such a self-centered monster, but if you weren’t, you wouldn’t do this shit in the first place. You pretend to be a big shot at work, but you’ve moved your family around the country because you evidently suck at every job you’ve ever had and can’t hold onto one for very long, and despite your act, you use cash to manipulate your wife emotionally and children emotionally by making them feel bad about accepting student loans, which offer them the chance to be more successful than you, you useless prick. You resent my girlfriend for getting the fuck away from you and persuing her own dream, which you’ve never supported for a second and with your absence and your apathy you continue to last out at her. Your abuse has reduced your wife to a scared, lonely, clingy wisp, although I’m sure she had problems of her own or she never would’ve ended up with an asshole like you. She should leave you, but really, it’d be more fitting if she eviscerated you and stuffed your dick in your mouth before setting you on fire. And maybe WORST OF ALL, your wife is blind in one eye from a cataract, but you won’t pay for her to get a simple operation to fix them - AND YOU SPENT MORE MONEY THAN THAT TO GET AN OPERATION FOR YOUR FUCKING DOG! And you expect her to drive place son her own if she hasn’t performed to your satisfaction even though she was in a major car accident as a result of BEING HALF-BLIND. The next time you get high in the garage, you should fall under the axle of your car, or better yet, under the blades of your lawnmower if you have one, and not be found for three days or so. (Pressed for a vote I still like the eviscerating thing, though.) You’re a selfish, petty, controlling, abusive and absolutely worthless piece of shit. I’m glad your daughter has figured this out, and if it were up to me, she’d never see you again. Which could actually happen, thank goodness. The fact that she escaped you at all is an achievement only surpassed by the fact that she’s a considerate, fun and thoroughly amazing person in spite of your influence. You are responsible for almost all of her problems (same probably goes for your wife and sons - that’s four lives fucked up as you followed an empty dream of getting sex whenever you wanted it and domineering people so they wouldn’t realize you’re nothing- good job!). But she will never be treated by me the way she was by you. If there was any justice in this world or any other, that truth alone would make you shrink to roach size so we could stomp you into chitin goo. Over and over and over.
*You’re cancer. I mean that literally. Fuck off and die. My brother’s been through tons of bullshit for two years, for no reason whatsoever. He’s never going to fully recover from his stroke, surgeries, nerve damage and partial deafness, and now he’s nauseous much of the time due to chemotherapy. He’s 16 and I don’t want to have to worry about him anymore.
It’s a Festivus Miracle!
- Your brother, my common-law husband for 23 years, died this last spring. You never even called. Or sent a card. Or flowers. Or anything. To this day. Whatever shit was between the two of you, you knew ME for 23 years and I never did SHIT to you, I thought we were friends…nice. If I never see you again, it will be too soon, you self-righteous, fundamentalist Christian bitch.
I realize now he was right to hate you and refuse to attend your daughter’s wedding, even though HIS daughter was a flower girl and I had to go alone and fend off the questions about why he wasn’t there all night. I should not have been angry with him about it. He was right. Fuck you.
That’s it for me this year.
*first you lose a house because your self run buisness can’t sustain you and you cant pay the taxes, then you lose a second house for the same reason, no you are losing a third and going into a finacial hole and having to move in with your son. “BUT BUISNESS IS GOING TO PICK UP YOULL SEE!” get a job. pay your bills. its not hard, can even get promotions and make MORE money. your sons made more than you every year since he was 18 AND a dropout. Suck it up and get the grill cook at waffle house job.
*you need to get off your ass and get up for work on time. you blew all kinds of money you didn’t have on a girl to the point where you had to move in with your friend, but risk your job getting in late every night, and then blow your money on a xbox360 instead of paying off your past due credit card bills, and the 600 dollars in overdraft fees to the bank. Get your shit together!
*Stop idolizing your dead mother as if she were a saint. She was a nasty bitch, and your Oedipus complex is just creepy. No wonder your wife divorced you if you were all “Mother this, and Mother that” when you were married. You sound like Norman Bates, and I would have divorced you too. And stop asking your little sister (my mom) if every food she ever serves you is “Mother’s recipe.” It makes her feel nervous and inadequate.
*If you don’t like the woman down the street stalking you all the time, stop accepting her expensive gifts and taking her phone calls and spending every evening with her.
*You’ve had multiple back surgeries and can barely walk. It’s not cute or funny when you sneak around lifting heavy things even though my mother, sister, or myself have told you we will do it. You even got up at the crack of dawn to beat my sister to moving some heavy furniture even though you can permanently paralyze yourself. What the hell?
*Stop spending money! You have no money! My mother paid for your $3000 dollar dental work, the remodeling of your kitchen, your new furniture, and by the way, she owns the house you live in. When you buy “presents” for us, you are spitting in her face by spending money on frivolities while she pays for your necessities.
Mom:
*Stop treating my uncle as if he were made of emotional glass. If you are going to ban me from saying anything, at least say something yourself.
*Also, my kitchen/car/house is not dirty. You need to adjust your meds.
*Eldest Daughter: I love you, and I love my granddaughter. However, would you please get a grip on your child? The first word a child should learn is ‘NO’. “Please don’t do that” ain’t gonna cut it - especially when there is danger involved! Little hands do not belong on hot stoves. They’re called ‘burners’ for a reason! When she dumped over 100 videos and books on the floor, pulled the curtains down, pulled a hot pan off the stove, and started throwing christmas decorations off the tree and smashing them against the wall you kept saying stupid shit like, “isn’t she cute?” - NO. Not when she’s tearing up our home because you have chosen some bat-shit crazy approach to child (non)discipline. For three days now I’ve watched your total lack of control over this beautiful child in silence. For your mother’s sake, and the sake of the season, I will continue (for the time being) to hold my tongue. I know that you suspect you have a problem with your child, Hell - your own pet name for her is “Future Menace To Society” - I know it’s meant to be silly and/or cute - but after these last three days I’m afraid it may also be a little too close to prophetic. Teach her manners later - teach her who the boss is now. Right now. I believe I have made it clear, in the past, that it is not my place to discipline your child and will continue to refrain from doing so. For now. We taught you better than that, please feel free to pass on those lessons. Your daughter is completely out of control and barely 2 years old! Get a grip on her, or so help me, I will.
*Youngest Daughter: I know you have self-esteem issues because of your weight. As a recovering alcoholic, I truly do understand your addiction. Your mother and I love you and have done everything we can to help you, and will continue to do so. But this addiction to food is killing you. You have to find the inner strength to control your eating and get some of that weight off. The doctors can’t help you if you are unwilling to do what needs to be done. I can’t do it for you, neither can your mother.
*Oh, and, one more thing, oh Youngest Daughter of mine: Teach your yard apes some table manners. As teens and pre-teens they are old enough to know what eating utensils and napkins are, and certainly should know how to use them. Eating in a public restaurant on christmas eve, and again at a formal christmas dinner without even picking up one utensil is disgusting. (Ever watch a kid eat mashed potatoes and gravy with their fingers? ::shudder:: ) Furthermore, it reflects poorly on you, and on us, as your parents. I believe I have made it clear, in the past, that it is not my place to discipline your kids and will continue to refrain from doing so. For now. We taught you better than that, please feel free to pass on those lessons.
With love (honest!).
Your Dad,
Lucy
Damn, I wish I could say it like that face to face!
<minor complaint>
- Will you please just get off your ass and spend some money to get a generator or convince the owner to buy one for you? You’re all nice kids and better neighbors than we ever expected college students to be but no one in their right mind lives up here without one. Some of you have been up here for years and shouldn’t be surprised when the power goes out for week and as cute as you are, we aren’t your parents. We don’t have enough room in our refrigerator to store your food and beer so just buy yourselves a watertight cooler and store the stuff in your pool. You know that your cell phones don’t work up here so please get a land line and stop showing up at my door at 8am to make a phone call. I know that you have finals but I’m not turning my living room into a study hall so that you can have internet access. That’s what libraries are for. I already bought you a big box of tampons so that your girlfriends don’t have to show up in a panic at my door at all hours of the night. Any more of this and I’m going to start claiming you as dependents when I do my taxes.
You do nothing. Nothing. So how the fuck do you manage to be such an arrogant shit?
If you earned a dollar for every XBox achievement point you “worked” so “hard” for, you would have a stable income. But you know what? You don’t. How many years as it benn since you even tried - and I mean really tried - to find and retain employment? When was the last time you did anything around the house when your girlfriend was around? Never, that’s when. I don’t know how you live with yourself. And the time you told me old people should just die out because they don’t contribute to society caused several endangered species to be wiped out by the sheer brilliance of your irony-laced ignorance.
You have a three year old daughter. So maybe watching/playing violent/sexual content while she is in the room - with the volume turned up so that everyone in the house has to put up with it - isn’t the most mature decision?
You have a girlfriend who works full time. How come she does ALL of the housework? How is it that when she comes home, you’re asking what’s for dinner? And if she says leftovers, you say no and expect her to cook you something else? You become a total invalid when she is around, getting her to fetch you drinks and whatnot, and you’re not much better when she is not around.
You play well into the night, volume blaring while your daughter is trying to sleep, volume blaring when your girlfriend is trying to sleep. She has to get up early for work, you know. But if the dog starts barking - correction, if YOUR dog starts barking, she has to go out and tie him up because you are too “busy”. Despite the fact he only comes to you when called.
Christmas was a joke. You started sulking because all you got was a T-shirt you decide you don’t like. Firstly, you used up your Christmas presents on your birthday on some taking-food-off-the-table bullshit, remember? Secondly, the day before Christmas you went out and bought three DVDs, as you did three days later. And you were sulking because in an average week you buy more stuff using your girlfriend’s money for yourself than you really deserve on a holiday? Secondly, so what if your girlfriend taped over an hour of Prison Break. THERE IS NO NEED FOR THE GUILT TRIPS, YOU CUNT. Every time he saw her for the next couple of hours he’d say “Good job, GF” again and again and a-fucking-gain. After all she does for you, you feel she owes you for this??? She even apologised, again and again, but hey, Prison Break. What the hell are you doing watching that when you hve family over, anyway?
You are the only person I know who would be better off dead than alive. At least dead you wouldn’t be a drain on every resource your girlfriend and daughter have, you manipulative cunt. I tolerate you for your girlfriend’s sake, but you lost any hope of redemption the day you flipped out and belted your daughter - harder than any parent should ever hit their child, no matter your opinion on physical discipline - and told your girlfriend to “FUCK OFF!” when she came to find out what the screaming was about. Your daughter wasn’t even doing anything wrong, you turd. She is going to have issues, the poor, sweet, intelligent, loving girl.
Fuck off and die.
you have disappointed me, i’ve been married to your daughter 25 years,you graduated school at age 16, you joined the navy and fought in WWII, you rana small business for 45 years, you have always been honest, curteous, respectfull to everyone, you are a good man. for these things i am proud to say you are my father-in law. what totally disappoints is you voted for someone who is dishonest and lacks character, who is married to an America hater, who goes to a “God Damn America” church, who associates with terrorists and criminals and willnot prove he is "America"born, and who’s greatest accomplishment is voting “present”. for that you disappoint me or maybe you have finally gone senile at your advanced age. thank you for your service to our county and raising two great girls and some awesome grandkids.
*Dear Relative: Get your head out of your ass and realize that you own your mistakes. Stop hitting up the family at large to help you out of the latest mess you’ve created for yourself. It is really sad that no one is ever surprised anymore when news of your latest fuckup gets out, no matter how much your immediate family tries to cover it up. This latest one is a real whopper, even for you. And no, do not call again with the guilt trip du jour to try to wring anything out of the rest of the family or worse, try to pressure one family member to get some funds out of another family member on false pretenses so that the money can go to you. You are severely deluded if you think anyone in the family will actually do this for you. This screw-up is all yours, so deal with it. It’s amazing that someone who professes to know all the answers can’t seem to figure any out independently.
*Dear Relative #2: See what I said to the previous relative. Live it. Breathe it. Know it. Make a New Year’s resolution to put on your grown-up underwear and stop hitting up the extended family for money and transportation in lieu of getting a real job. That act you put on fools no one and is uncomfortable and embarrassing to watch. You fall down on promises to pay back what you’ve “borrowed” so many times, are you really surprised that no one will “help” you anymore?
Just one from me:
- Okay, so you don’t approve of the way I voted (or, apparently, the fact that I voted at all). You have in fact not approved of very much I’ve done with my life. The fact that I’m not too concerned about your approval, and that I persist in being happy despite making choices you don’t approve of, seems to disturb you at some level. I think you’d be happier if you chose not to let quite so many of my choices bother you, but whatever. I just want to know, is it your disapproval of me and my choices that led you to not sending my kids, your nephews, Christmas and birthday presents this year? Dragging in the kids just strikes me as… kinda petty.
Of course, maybe it’s money, which is a grievance all its own, to wit: If you find it so hard to afford the two great kids you already have, why are you spending so much time, effort and money to bring another into your family? You don’t need to answer that for me, but I wonder if you’ve answered it for yourself.
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to several: You DO have indoor voices. Yes, you do! Use them! Even at restaurants. Especially at restaurants.
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I’m tired of you bitchin’ about the gub’mint wrecking everything. You show a profound ignorance of how government works and a willful intent not to know. You are apparently incapable of “agreeing to disagree.” You intentionally misconstrue, misunderstand, or convienantly forget, facts that contradict your position. You want so bad to make someone into the bad guy and go into some holier than thou rant that you come off almost as a conspiracy nut.
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I get tired hearing that everybody in the media is a Whore. Yes, many of them are whores. But I get sick and tired of hearing you say it. You’re like clockwork. As soon as someone appears on the screen, it’s “What a whore” “That guy is such a media whore” or “She’s such a total whore.” What makes it such a total grievance is that YOU PURPOSELY SEEK OUT THE MOST SHALLOW “ENTERTAINMENT” AS POSSIBLE and then complain about what wastes of humanity the people are.