I am kind of in search of catharsis and I needed to put this all down in writing. Y’all feel free to ignore it, but writing and posting it seems to have helped me deal with this.
TL;DR: My adopted brother Donald died Thanksgiving morning and was buried Tuesday morning.
LONG STORY WARNING:
I am the youngest of five children. My mom was widowed when I was less that two years old. She had no real job skills and worked off the books as a day maid, cleaning other people’s houses. There was never much money and we lived in a very poor neighborhood. I was younger than my nearest sibling by eight years, and I was maybe the original latch key child. From an early age I was just a street kid with little or no supervision. Mom did the best she could, but life was hard.
Mom had a friend, Claire. She had a son just a little older than me. Danny and I were friends almost from infancy and grew up mostly together. Claire and her husband, Al, went on to have six more kids. They accepted me into their house as one of their own despite my penchant for trouble. More than once, my Mom asked Al to go with her to pick me up at the police station for one of my many errors in judgment.
As we grew up, Al sent Ray to talk to my Mom about joining Scouts. Al, Ray, Paul, Ken and Leo were the men who all had a hand in turning me around. It was a lot of work and took quite some time to bring me around. All through this I was just an official member of Al’s family.
Al and Claire are both gone. My mom passed and over the years so did all of my blood siblings. Three of Al’s children had Muscular Dystrophy. Albert and Nancy showed symptoms as children and neither lived to see thirty. Danny had a massive hear attack compounded by a stroke. He was in a coma for about three weeks and, as we were talking about pulling the plug, suddenly woke up. He lived another three years but the coma really took a toll.
Donald did not show symptoms of MD until he was about thirty. He married and had three sons. Over the years he slowly deteriorated, having less and less mobility as the years went on. He and his lovely wife have six beautiful grandchildren and they have been a very happy family. The last three years have been hard on Donald. Last week he was having trouble breathing and Tuesday he was admitted to hospital. He tried hard, but he just couldn’t fight it off any longer. He was sixty three. Today we buried him right next to Danny.
I had four blood siblings. Last fall my last remaining sister Patrica succumbed to Covid. Now I am left with my brothers Dennis, Dave and John. Not blood, but brothers none the less.